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Thursday, October 29th here as well. Nervous, scared, excited, hopeful, just a hot mess but am praying that next year at this time I will be a much different person.

Syme, big cyber hugs to both you and your wife. I was not strong enough to come out on my own. My Father found out I was gay and outed me to family and friends and disowned me with a 5 page letter he mailed to me certified saying he wished I would die like every other faggot and dyke in the world. My point is I had no one I could turn to to come out on my own and deal with my feelings, no one I loved enough or felt close enough too. I think that for her to tell you this that she loves you to the moon and back and that she has tremendous respect and trust in you. I know it does not ease the pain, but only time can do that. My x girlfriend and her wife, and I with my boyfriend of 7 years are good friends. It sounds messed up to some, but my x and I still love each other, just not in the sexual way. Just still love your wife and be willing to listen to every word she wants to tell you. It could help you as much as it might help her. But I give her huge credit of being honest with you and not having affairs behind your back and waiting until the day she would leave to tell you why. It has to be the hardest thing you have ever had to listen to from the person you least wanted to hear it from. But for her, it has to be the hardest thing she has ever said to anyone and I am sure with the love she has for you that you were the last one she wanted to tell or to hurt. In the end she deserves huge credit for her honesty. But you also need to take care of yourself. I wish you both nothing but the best. Please take things one day at a time.

Hi Everyone. Glad to see some other SoFla folks here. I am 52 and am afraid of looking like the old tanned lady in Something About Mary after my weight loss. My surgery date was Oct 15, but a head cold from hell postponed that for me. New date is Oct 29, 2015. Not nervous about the surgery, but the results after the surgery. On this site I have read so many horror stories, and those are the ones that stick with me. I live in Boca Raton but am in the Ft. Lauderdale/Wilton Manors area often. Hoping and praying this turns out to be the best thing to ever happen to me and all this worry for nothing. But at 52 and 400 pounds, you know it aint going to be pretty.

Hi Dave. I am new here to and have been doing a lot of reading in silence. I was suppose to be sleeved in 10/15/15 but came down with the head cold from hell. I am now set for 10/29/15 providing the cold cooperates. I am nervous as hell and have so many unanswered questions and what if's that I am driving myself crazy. Glad to hear you are doing well. And thank you everyone for the insight, hope, and answers that you have, and continue to give me from reading.