What you do is not allow evil malicious people to dictate YOUR happiness because it is YOURS!!!!! if this weightloss surgery is what YOU have been wanting for your own good then i believe you should go for it!!!!! See if you can research if there are any support groups around your area ... talk to you doctors office ..even hospitals have groups that meet every week ... dont let others control what you do because they are clearly miserable people.... if you have your husbands full support focus on that and nothing else........ i hope everything resolves itself in the most peaceful way im sending positive energy your way!!!!