Cape Crooner

Well of course I do say:
1. I did exactly what my doctor and nutritionalist told me to do.
2. I started at 1700 calories, went down to 600, and then started adding back on once I hit my goal.
3. I exercise an hour a day.
But between you, me, and the lamppost, I know that without the sleeve this wouldn't have happened.

I'm not sure I agree with the "no right or wrong answer" comment.
I think telling everyone is fine if that's your thing.
I chose to tell 6 family members and I wish I had either told everyone or just my wife.
I was very successful and went from 281 to 185 in about 6 months. The change is startling and everyone asks me "how did you do it?"
The "wrong" in my choice is now I'm lying all the time to my closest friends.
The other wrong was telling my 93 year old mother. I know she told at least 4 other people and doubt she stressed the importance of secrecy.
So, now I live in a world where I'm forced to lie every time someone asks (which is still daily) and know that someone out there knows I'm lying.
This was the wrong way to handle it.

@@WitchySar,
It’s definitely your decision. It depends on your own level of comfort and on how you think your own friends, family, and acquaintances (if you’re even considering telling people like coworkers) will react.
For me, I have always been quite open about my surgery. In part, it is because I am lucky – I was confident that my family and friends would be supportive or at least neutral, and I was right. In part, though, it’s because telling people made it more real. I felt more committed when I was open about it. Even if telling people didn’t necessarily mean they would know how to help or how to help me keep on track, at least it made me feel that I couldn’t fail because it would be embarrassing.
It's really up to you. Think about things like how much pressure you’d expect to feel from even innocently intended comments, and how you would be able to handle it if people said things like, “you’ve only lost XXX lbs. by now?!” or “I can’t believe you’re eating XXX after WLS!” If you don’t tell anyone about your WLS, you won’t have to risk hearing those comments.
Good luck with your decision and your surgery!

I suppose there is a small hunger reduction, but after 9 months, it's mainly the restriction.
I avoid hunger the same way I did pre-surgery, avoid sugar and white carbs as long as possible each day. Protein and fat keep my appetite at bay.

For what it's worth, I'd tell no one and take the 2 months it takes "to show" to consider telling everyone or no one...

For what it's worth, I'd tell no one and take the 2 months it takes "to show" to consider telling everyone or no one...

Yes, age matters too. I'm 63, if I was 30, my goal would be 10-15 pounds lower and I'd want to then add it back in muscle. Now, I just don't want anymore lose skin!

Well of course I do say:
1. I did exactly what my doctor and nutritionalist told me to do.
2. I started at 1700 calories, went down to 600, and then started adding back on once I hit my goal.
3. I exercise an hour a day.
But between you, me, and the lamppost, I know that without the sleeve this wouldn't have happened.

I'm not sure I agree with the "no right or wrong answer" comment.
I think telling everyone is fine if that's your thing.
I chose to tell 6 family members and I wish I had either told everyone or just my wife.
I was very successful and went from 281 to 185 in about 6 months. The change is startling and everyone asks me "how did you do it?"
The "wrong" in my choice is now I'm lying all the time to my closest friends.
The other wrong was telling my 93 year old mother. I know she told at least 4 other people and doubt she stressed the importance of secrecy.
So, now I live in a world where I'm forced to lie every time someone asks (which is still daily) and know that someone out there knows I'm lying.
This was the wrong way to handle it.

I'm starting to see the questioning die down which is great. I don't feel like it's a total lie unless they ask me outright "did you have surgery?"
What's weird has been that the 4 people who asked directly are people I barely know and certainly not close friends (and I have over a hundred close friends)...

Mine started at 200 (I was a nationally ranked athlete at that weight). Quickly changed it to 190, then changed it to comfortably wearing a 36" waist (like I did in 7th grade).
When I raced, I was 5 11 1/2", so 189 was a BMI of 25. I've lost over an inch in height due to hip problems, so I still think 190 is a fair goal.
That said, if I'm over 188 on Monday mornings and/or over 184 on Friday morning, I give myself "a strong talking to", so I guess my true goal is now 185, which would be a BMI of 25 at my old height.

Mine started at 200 (I was a nationally ranked athlete at that weight). Quickly changed it to 190, then changed it to comfortably wearing a 36" waist (like I did in 7th grade).
When I raced, I was 5 11 1/2", so 189 was a BMI of 25. I've lost over an inch in height due to hip problems, so I still think 190 is a fair goal.
That said, if I'm over 188 on Monday mornings and/or over 184 on Friday morning, I give myself "a strong talking to", so I guess my true goal is now 185, which would be a BMI of 25 at my old height.

Well of course I do say:
1. I did exactly what my doctor and nutritionalist told me to do.
2. I started at 1700 calories, went down to 600, and then started adding back on once I hit my goal.
3. I exercise an hour a day.
But between you, me, and the lamppost, I know that without the sleeve this wouldn't have happened.

Well of course I do say:
1. I did exactly what my doctor and nutritionalist told me to do.
2. I started at 1700 calories, went down to 600, and then started adding back on once I hit my goal.
3. I exercise an hour a day.
But between you, me, and the lamppost, I know that without the sleeve this wouldn't have happened.

Yes, age matters too. I'm 63, if I was 30, my goal would be 10-15 pounds lower and I'd want to then add it back in muscle. Now, I just don't want anymore lose skin!

How did you all come up with your goal?
I picked the lowest weight in my adult life and took a couple pounds off of that. It translates to a BMI of around 26, but my waist is 35" and my pants are always loose.
I think I could go lower, but my wife tells me I'm too thin now!

I would suggest reading the entire thread before posting

I actually enjoy food more now that my capacity is only around 8 ounces. During the week, I stick to my preopt diet and on weekends out, I order anything that catches my fancy.
I had some sliders with Buns early on, but now I save the space and skip the bun.
The difference is that I use to overeat and feel guilty. Now I eat with a purpose (even if it's a couple of fried oysters) and never look back since I know I didn't eat too much.

I actually enjoy food more now that my capacity is only around 8 ounces. During the week, I stick to my preopt diet and on weekends out, I order anything that catches my fancy.
I had some sliders with Buns early on, but now I save the space and skip the bun.
The difference is that I use to overeat and feel guilty. Now I eat with a purpose (even if it's a couple of fried oysters) and never look back since I know I didn't eat too much.

I'll take a guess and say that the OP posted this just to smoke out the naysayers, just a guess..,

I'll take a guess and say that the OP posted this just to smoke out the naysayers, just a guess..,

So tell me something .... were you there with me today? No you weren't. Secondly did you not read what section this is posted in?? Rants??? This forum is here for a reason to come and to bitch and be able to get it off ur chest. I didn't care when I wrote this who read it or if no one commented a daum thing. This was about me being the better person and not being hateful to some dumb ass who thought they were trying to help. But if you had been there today you would have heard me tell her that when she wanted to talk to me after class I told her she could talk all she wanted but it wasn't going to change anything for me. Or when she proceeded to corner me when I was getting my stuff and she kept running her mouth how I told her I wasn't interested. .. but I couldn't go any where cause I was half way dressed at the time. So I chose to be polite like I was raised and bite my tongue long enough to get dressed. And as I walked out the door I made sure she watched me throw every piece of paper she gave me away.
Don't like hearing people bitch moan and cry don't come to the rant page, have a great day.
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I actually enjoy food more now that my capacity is only around 8 ounces. During the week, I stick to my preopt diet and on weekends out, I order anything that catches my fancy.
I had some sliders with Buns early on, but now I save the space and skip the bun.
The difference is that I use to overeat and feel guilty. Now I eat with a purpose (even if it's a couple of fried oysters) and never look back since I know I didn't eat too much.

I actually enjoy food more now that my capacity is only around 8 ounces. During the week, I stick to my preopt diet and on weekends out, I order anything that catches my fancy.
I had some sliders with Buns early on, but now I save the space and skip the bun.
The difference is that I use to overeat and feel guilty. Now I eat with a purpose (even if it's a couple of fried oysters) and never look back since I know I didn't eat too much.

I concur with @dubb and @ssflbelle. My program had a couple of soft foods after Day 2 (refried Beans and cream of wheat), but not all do. There is a whole mafia out there lying to people about Orange juice. It's bad for everyone. I was allowed V-8 and enjoyed one every afternoon at Cocktail Hour!