ZombieQueen

So I had surgery this past nov, only lost 20lbs so far but things are starting to look up (FINALLY!). Anyway Out of nowhere one of my old bffs, hits me up. Says hes been looking for me everywhere and missed me so much! I was happy We started texting and then talking the past 3days. The thing is, hes married! He got married this year because last year she got preg after dating for 3months, and now he has a kid. It was nice to hear from him, my old bff who I was supperrr close to! congradulated him on the baby an all that. But anyway..hes been super flirty an its getting a little weird. I've made hints like, I don't think your wife would appreciate that and blah blah blah. But he uses the excuse shes still friends with like all of her exes & its no big deal. Though its only been 3days, I'm starting to remember why we were so close and I'm scared of getting caught up. Plus I feel like its a disrespect to his wife by allowing him to flirt!. Well he wants to keep talking, and texts me everyday after work and we've just started talking on the phone and stuff but I feel kind of bad. Like I'm doing something wrong? even though its really just innocent conversation. I guess its the joke flirting that makes me feel guilty? We're all in our early 20's but I don't feel like hes matured like I thought he has. I just don't even know! Well today he made comments like. I wish we would've been together..I've always had feelings for you. Wish that I would've faught harder to stay in your life & blah.. It made me feel good but unsure of rekindling this friendship at the same time because of like..all the comments that just made me feel, unsure?. Sooo anyway I have nooo idea what to do at this point. Yes I would love to stay friends with him but I feel like its already going to a place that it shouldn't and it hasn't even been a week! I guess I'm just looking for advice at this point.. :/

So I feel like lately Ive been struggling. I Had a stall for awhile but now the past wk Ivebeen eating worse an I know its slowk ng me down. Today I had 3 graham crackers and then for lunch I had a taco just beef,meat and cheese with half the shell off and then most of a fruit cup. Then I had a chicken leg with 1/2 a slice bread and butter and a few bites of potato. For a snack will be milk but anyway I just started losing again and then I mess it up! I feel over whelmed lately and don't know what to do. Im worried with myself mentally and physically :/Stallone struggling advice? Btw not 3 whole grahams like the 1/2s and I have had 6 cups of liquid but I know I'm lacking protein a lot lately. Which scares me the most

WellIm about 2 months post o.o. and 38 pounds down. I feel like I'm constantly struggling to get in liquids and protein. I average about 35grams of protein and 3-4 cups of liquid a day. Exercise is about 40mins or more on weekdays and 30 mins or more on weekends. I know I could be better, but sometimes I feel so weak, like I have no energy! To top it off, I'm still getting bad pain in my legs, and it seems to be worsening at times. As well as the chest pain Ive been getting, it also seems to have gotten much worse. Not sure if my pneumonia never fully went away or its something to do with my sleeve. There are also random times of pain and discomfort in my abdomen, as well as twitching and pulsating in my abdomen and legs. I feel like I cant even eat any kind of meat or protein without feeling suck to my stomach! The worst part is if I take even a bite to much. I I feel like I'm ready to explode and feel sick for the next few hours. I just dont even know what to do! My body feels like its constant weak and I feel tired a lot.im also constantly worrying something serious is going on especially because of all the chest and leg pains that seem to have escalated a lot more lately. Just last night I was at Wal-Mart for a a little less then 2hrs. After about and hour an a half I started to feel a little sick. Next thing I know I'm getting bad chest pain, I can barely catch my breath and feel like I'm gonna pass out. I really thought I was gonna have to go to the er. Is this normal? What do u guys suggest? Anyone else experience anything like this??

Hey Jane, thanks for checking in. As of now not yet, I had plans to but forgot an then to top it off woke up super sick today. Its weird because I had my flu shot but I guess it doesn't always work! I have no strength what so ever, been fighting to keep moving and exercising all day, my bodys killing me. I did not expect to feel worse then what I already did but its really getting very wintery and cold here so I should've been a bit more prepared. I'm so glad you reminded me of this cause I have not even thought about it all day today. Just trying to focus on getting my liquids in an doing some walking. Been sucking on halls all day for my sore throat and trying not to throw up whatever I eat. Tonight before bed I'll be sure to set an alarm on my phone with a note to call and reschedule. Let them know whats going on with me and hopefully find out soon. When I do I'll try an update you guys! Thanks again.

Everyones journey is going to be different. I know its hard right now, even as I'm struggling and want to regret it I don't. Yes I have my moments, but my progress is greater then my fear at this point and no matter how much I may struggle or continue to struggle. I know things will get easier with time, this is worth it. My life is worth it, and your life is worth it. We just have to keep on our way and know things are going to be ok. Whatever you do, do not let anyone including me discourage you from your journey. This is your story and your worth so much more then whatever tiny struggles come your way because like everything else they will pass. Surgery will definitely help you with your appetite! lol it may not be easy but remember it will ALWAYS be worth it. As long as you try your best, and work on what you need to work on. I'm a work in progress as I said many times, and probably will be for a looong time. But everyones journey is different and everyones experience is different. You will be ok, always do whats right for you no matter what.

I hope that you did not take my comment the wrong way, but I felt a bit attacked. However, I do believe you have good intentions but your wording was a bit iffy. I appreciate your input regardless.. For the most part everyone has been pretty helpful but anyone who has been on this journey for awhile, please remember a time where you may have struggled. We all know this is not an easy road..I do not want to offend anyone or do harm with my words either. I'm simply stating what is on my mind and the things going on with me on this journey. I appreciate every single response I've gotten, (believe it or not) And I've also done myself a favor and ordered the Syntrax already after looking up a few reviews because of another poster (Thanks again!) . I'm more then open to advice and input, I just want to be respected as well. I hope others can understand where I'm coming from, and I really do thank and appreciate this forum and the replies and people since I've been on this forum. I'm a work in progress and use this as a way to help ease my mind, read of others journeys and have others to relate to.

Ok so first of all "psychprof" No one has an issue with comprehension and yes I do take that as an insult. I believe that I am aka, HUMAN and like other people jump to conclusions when I hear certain things a certain way, my mind jumps to "Okay so, I'm going to get sick an die if I don't do it this/that way soon!" And no my surgeon did not set up my diet although he agrees as well with my nutritionist and the team that I work with in regards to my bariatric lifestyle. The nurses I work with highly advise against protein powders, so while you're trying to imply that I'm somehow full of ****..learn to becareful with your words. I'm not a liar, I exaggerate at times, or misinterpret things but I'm not going to make crap up, or do things based off another surgeons advice/rules because I for one believe in following my surgeons program, when I do things a little different its because I WANT TO. Like taking Protein powder for example, which was recommended against! And Yes I know the obvious, I get vegetarians get protein. I ment to the extent of a meat eater because for one I was a vegetarian for YRS and have veggie friends as well! To top it off even going back to meat, my family and I have never personally ate meat all that much, so once a day most of the time was enough.

Ok some people are freaking me out with all the dying talk lol, just being real. I am trying to focus on liquids at this time until my next apt but i'm second guessing it. I spent all day sipping yesterday and got in 6 1/2 cups of liquid. By the end of the night some of it even kept coming up. Soo would focusing on my liquids at this time (next 3wks) be such a bad thing? And I know protein is important for muscle mass and in general, but vegetarians can clearly live without it. Its not like I'm not getting any? how safe would it be to focus on liquids right now? This journey is not easy and I do not have all the resources. At this time I'm trying my best, my stomach can only hold so much. I've talked to them about protein powder and shakes before being approved. They recommended getting protein from natural sources because they feel it helps create a better and healthier lifestyle later on, and natural protein isn't processed like protein powder/shakes. I personally could careless about that but thats their reason, and I think I'm gonna go pick up some premier as soon as I get the chance. Ps thanks for the suggestions kindle!

As far as I know my vitamins seem to be fine. I usually take 1 Multivitamin daily and a b12 Vitamin 3x a week as well as Vitamin D 2x a week, an sometimes tums for added Calcium, though I usually get at least 2 servings of dairy a day, sometimes 3 or more. I just don't even know how to go about protein, I feel so full sometimes from just a few bites an then I start to feel sick. For awhile I was drinking so much milk daily but started cutting back. I started feeling stuffed an was dealing with bad phlem so they told me to go easy on milk. And now that I'm doing that, I'm struggling even more. It was hard enough before! they also want me to avoid Protein shakes which I hate anyway!..but was doing for awhile. I just don't know how to go about it, I can sip, sip, sip and by the end of the day I'm not anywhere near 8cups of liquid! an with meat, I can chew an chew an it isn't enough to help me eat more then a tiny bit of protein. They also don't want me snacking which I do sometimes..Ill have a snack at the end of the day but even that string cheese won't help add enough protein! :/ this really sucks..I'm not discouraged, I just wish it was a little easier by now. Hopefully if I make it to 3months things will be better. I don't have an appointment till the end of next month but I'm thinking maybe I should schedule it sooner now. I have the feeling like you guys that I maybe be dehydrated and/or lacking some vitamins or something. I just really want to make sure its not anything serious. I'm still worrying about blood clots an all that. As far as blood work goes, I'm thinking my feb appt is also for that but not exactly sure. Guess I will find out, possibly sooner then later. Wish me luck girls..

Hey ladies..thanks for the feedback. I pretty much agree with every single one of you. A little about our background, we were friends for 3 1/2 yrs, bestfriends for 3. Yes i had feelings for him at some point, but did not pursure them because he was VERY immature. He is a year younger then me, but I thought he'd eventually grow out of that an when he didn't I kicked him to the curb. He got to a point he was ruining his own life, and yet causing ME stress. After that we didn't talk..its been a little over 2yrs since we've had contact. Admitedly in the past hes tried to date me, asked me out multiple times an admited to having strong feelings for me..but I told him we're at very different places in our lives. (Him being in that immature, stuck in the whole teens stage type of thing) I wanted to but I knew it wasn't the right thing for me. Now we're in waaaay diff places in our lives, and yes I agree..Its time for me to run the hell away. I care about him so much, and wish him the best. But I don't feel comfortable with a married man and father saying those things to me. I know I would be heartbroken if my future partner said things like this to someone else! an so thats why I'm chosing to walk away from the whole situation. Hes texted me twice today, I haven't yet responded because I don't exactly know how I'm going to word what I want to tell him. I do know I want to let him know I'll always be there for him, if he REALLY needs someone. But not when he has a wife, that could be there for him and give him what he needs. Anyway Thanks again girls.

def get the ones with the flaps! I'd have the same problem, not horribly but itd get kinda squished. A quick adjusment in the bathroom would really help! lol its weird..the day before surgery I started spotting. After surgery I had my period for like 3wks straight! nonstop bleeding, it was like the texas chaninsaw massacre! ugh..so glad it finally stopped! lol After years of irregular periods..this is the price I pay. Just a heads up to you! lol you may be next..

so a tad over 2wks post op. soft food stage by the way.. wondering if what I've been munching on is decent? Today I had 3 slices of lunch meat (turkey) for Breakfast Lunch was 2oz cottage cheese w/ dry milk dinner string cheese and 1 tbs Peanut Butter liquids so far 2 cups, working on getting in another 3 before bed. Working on 2 cups milk + 1/3-1/4 cup Water with dry milk mixed in. Total just a bit over 42grams Protein once I'm done. By the way I've been feeling like my tongue is numb, randomly on an off. I can't tell if its in my head or what, to top it off the pain in my legs hasn't gone away, sometimes it feels a bit worse and I've been getting these cyst like bumps on my legs. I feel feel them under my skin and a few are sticking out. Its a little worrysome :/ anyone ever experience anything like this??? I've also noticed the chest pain I'd been getting hasn't gone away much either, even though I'd taken the antibiotics given for my pnuemonia. I'm wondering if I still have it, or its something else..

Hey everyone, by the way I'm only going by the plan my doctor gave me so you guys are aware. We only had to do pureed 2wks, an then soft food 2wks. Which is what I'm on right now. And yes as for exercise I'm walking every hour for atleast 5 mins, and whenever sitting I make sure to strech my legs, and move my feet in circles to help get some blood flow. I walk atleast 60mins a day all together. Anyway focusonmenow has got me freaked out! I mean I found those bumps weird, when I showed the nurse an she touched one she said "Thats so weird, I don't know what it is but it can't be a blood clot because it would be deeper in the leg" So I just don't even know but now I'm freaked out and I woke up at like 4am, my heart was racing and I had this weird feeling in my chest.. I wanna wait it out because I don't know how serious it is but at the same time its like..waiting may not be the best option if it is. I just don't even know!

low sodium spam (if thats your thing) string cheese lunch meat oatmeal (with dry milk protein) crab sticks Avacado mousse (avacado,milk & sugar blended to a thick consistency) Sardines in hotsauce I'm still struggling myself but hope this helps a little!

Thanks! good to know for the future.

my surgery was about and hour and 45mins to about 2hours, including prep I believe. It seemed like it went by so quick. I was nervous as heck. They took me to surgery. About 5-10mins later I passed out. Woke up in another area, a few nurses asked me how I was feeling. I remember looking around drowsily and then as they wheeled me to my room I passed back out. Woke up prob an hour or 2 later. It was like it didn't even happen but damn that pain especially the first day was a good reminder it did! Lol!

I have to admit I was feeling a lot like you..I kept thinking I was hungry and wanting to chew. Still struggling with that.. only 15 days post op but I've caught myself a few times overexaggerating the situation. I'm trying to pay more attention to my body and what it is and isn't trying to tell me. I've noticed that my stomach never growls, even though at times I kept thinking I was hungry. I wasn't getting pain either..so I guess it was in my head. I think a lot of it has to do with our mind sets. We went from one way of living, to a completely different way of living! its a lot of change at once and we're still getting used to it. I know for a fact everyday has still been a struggle, but that struggle is getting easier and I know in my heart of hearts it will be worth it. My advice, listen to your body..really pay attention to it. If you feel like you absolutely need something to chew, get some cottage cheese! maybe a laughing cow cheese wedge..something thats super soft but still chewable. And remember its ok to be frustrated, just don't let yourself get so wrapped up in it like I did! it only made me more miserable to the point where I regretted it and started to even sabotage myself for a short time..but now I'm starting to see the good in this all and things are slowly but surely looking up. Good luck!

I read about slider foods in the past, pretty much from what I know it means foods that are able to go (slide) right through your sleeve easily so yea you pretty much nailed it. Some things include chips, cookies, ice cream. I guess we can eat more of those foods more easily which sometimes tempts us to keep making those bad choices we were making before. I know thats why protein is always important, because it fills us up and sits in out tummys for awhile. I don't think slider foods are the best choices but I think once you've gotten half way to your goal its ok to treat yourself. I know I told myself that I got this to be more of a normal person. So slider foods in moderation..once I reached goal though. Lol well maybe once I'm just a lot..closer.

So yesterday I was sleeved. I had a rough night, and a tough day. I feel like shit, I don't feel normal anymore. All I feel is pain and staples. To top it off my surgeon kinda freaked on me for not getting in enough liquids and that was totally discouraging. I'm pretty much regretting this decision fully at this point, and I have no one to talk to about this either. I guess maybe my doc doesn't see something great in me that I didn't see before but I do now. This is not for me, and I'm scared about how to live right now. My bestfriend is the liquid pain meds at this moment..an I feel like I could just break down and cry. All I feel is pain inside and out..and I'm scared this could all be for nothing.

so today I had my 2wk post op apt and got the go ahead to officially start soft foods. I celebrated with my dad and shared some chicken egg foo young. I had about a little over 1/2 a thin egg foo young patty. The chicken wasn't as soft as I remember tho so I kept trying to chew those pieces down as good as possible but a couple times I found myself swallowing by reaction. At the time I felt fine, even the first 15-20mins after..but then I got this heavy, icky feeling in the pit of my stomach. It feels really full and its making me uneasy. I don't think I'll be eating chinese food anytime soon again. anyway..how long did u guys wait to eat out? and did it make u feel kinda queezy afterwards? I'm wondering how long this fullness is gonna last. I'm scared I ate to much or didn't chew enough..I tried not to use much sauce either but I feel like I can still taste it in the back of my throat!

thanks for the advice everyone..yeaa I def think the egg foo young was a little to much. Especially the chicken in it.. Im def gonna be sticking with more wet foods, and naturally softer type foods. Right now I'm actually working on some tuna salad, just a little reg mayo,light mayo, mustard and curry powder. So far it doesn't seem very soft so I'm hoping it doesn't leave a bad reaction with my sleeve. I figured tuna was on the list but I prob shouldv'e had a scrambled egg instead.. :/ anyway thanks again guys. I'm thinking on thanksgiving I'll have a bit of mash & the softest and wettest pieces of turkey. Hopefully that goes ok. Would it be bad if I had a few bites of a super soft dinner roll after? I don't know if I'd be to full for it but if I'm not I'm wondering if I'd be able to tolerate it. :/

Hey everyone. Update: I never expected so much support! Thank you all.. This is really so uplifting and warms my heart so much.. Thanks for everything you guys have shared with me, even those with tough love. Anyway..on how I'm doing. I ended up going to the er due to pain in my legs specifically my left leg as well as bad chest pain I'd been getting that had progressively gotten worse the night before. They did some ultrasounds and ct scans, everythings fine with my legs but they did find I have Pnuemonia and put me on antiobiotics. It was awful, and made me feel even more miserable forcing down that awful tasting liquid meds daily. Fortunately yesterday was my last day. As far as exercise goes, I've been keeping up with it well but I've been truly disappointed in myself. I haven't exactly been making the best choices of what I put into my mouth the past 3 days or so. I woke up today an a realization hit me. I can't believe the choices I've been making after I've wanted this so badly to change my life and my health for the better. I've been pretty angry at myself all day today. I'm tired of feeling sorry for myself so I vowed that I'm done with all the Bs and crying over spilled milk. Whats done is done, making bad choices have put my life at risk, have put me at risk for leaks and for failure. I can't accept what I've been doing, this next week I'm going to be as strict as I ever been and keep with the rules until I get the Ok that I can start on soft foods. I can't say that I'm exactly 100% happy with how things are going, I still have had my fair share of miserable moments but I can say, looking at my progress that I am glad I made this decision (You guys were right!). I just need to start putting a bit more effort into my health and myself. Anyway thank you all so much again! I've read everything single one of your posts, they have made me laugh and brought tears to my eyes. I can say Its definitely brightened my week! Especially with how bad I've been feeling.. Sending good vibes to each and every one of you <3 hope you're having a fruitful & uplifting day! edit: btw the pain is almost all the way gone! which has been my 2nd favorite thing so far!

I dont have facial acne but I notice I do have quite a bit spread out on my body. Not sure if anyone else suffers from this but I've heard before that sometimes obesity can cause acne as well as cysts on . I was wondering if anyone who has acne has had it clear up after surgery or get any better?? I was just curious because I tend to get it on my back and thighs a lot an it kind of bothers me at times.

Lol omg that sounds awful! I was hoping it was the opposite..oh well. my overall health is much more important. Do you know if this is something that will last? Or just for the first few years? :/ I have a lot of acne on my thighs and get rashes easy with the occasional backne.. I'm hoping it doesn't make it TO much worse. :/ or at least isn't a forever type thing. Hmm. Thanks for the input!

I would like to know to. I wonder if there are any steps you can take ahead of time to prevent infections :/