NJ_gal_in_VA

Thanks so much Lady! My fiancee says that I will be a beautiful bride no matter what! I guess I should feed off of those compliments shouldn't I? LOL! As far as losing 50 pounds before the wedding, I meant that I want to lose 50 MORE pounds. So I would like to be below 200. Do you think that's realistic?

Hey everyone! I hope you are all doing well! I know my wedding is 5 months away, but I am so worried about being FAT at my wedding! I fear that I will not be able to lose the weight I want to lose by then. My goal is to lose 50 pounds before the wedding. Is that unrealistic? I guess things will be easier once I get another fill. I haven't had one since October 2007! I couldn't get in for one and their next appointment was in March. They say I should only come in once every three months. Do you think I need more often? I just want to lose this weight before the wedding. I fear I will be so unhappy with pictures and so on if I don't lose. I am not exercising at the moment so I know that's a problem. I need to be more active. Also, my eating habits are so bad. I need to get myself back on track and I know what I need to do I just can't get revved up to do it. I'm an "all or nothing" type of person so whenever I "screw up" I feel like what's the point.

That's good advice, lady! Some people are a little more blunt about it than others, but sometimes it's the LACK of bluntness that pisses me off the most! Like my fiancee's family sometimes say little things that make me realize that they're "dropping little hints" about what they think. Sometimes I wish they would just SAY IT! LOL! Although I can't say I eat too well in front of them so no wonder they don't understand :tongue2: But that's my own fault....even though they always cook these "southern comfort" foods! So damn fattening! LOL! I'm from NJ and not used to the fattening foods as much! But, again, that's my own deal and I need to have more restraint. Oh well! One day we'll show em right, lady?!:drool:

<I am so embarrassed that I told people I had this done.> That is so funny that you said that, lady! I was trying to figure out why I never wanted to talk to anyone about my weight but you hit the nail on the head! I feel embarassed that people know I've had the band done because I feel like I should have lost a lot more weight by now. People seem to expect that. They don't seem to realize that this is not gastric bypass! You lose a lot more with that than with the band. Well, at least, you lose a lot QUICKER with gastric bypass.

I am so sorry to hear that you're in a rough spot right now, badonkadonk. Please know that I have felt the exact same way many times and that you are NOT alone! I feel a little like that right now, in fact! But we just have to press on and not let ANYTHING stop us from what we want. I haven't been on this thread in a while and, funny, I gained like 3 pounds! So it's obvious I need support from people who are in the same boat as I am. Stay with us and we will help you through this. I think I can speak for everyone but personally, I am here anytime you need to vent! Also, my fiancee and I have been together for 5 years so we're pretty much considered married! We're getting married in July. But I know what you mean when you say your marriage sucks! I feel that way sometimes but we always get through it. Just remember why you married him in the first place and you will know why you need to work things out! I'm sure he wants to be there for you. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. As for the kids, I have an 8 year old with ADHD. He's ALWAYS off the wall! LOL! Sometimes it seems like I have 10 kids!! So I understand that as well! I'm sure your children are wonderfully unique and they're just being kids! Take some time out of your busy day to play with them. Just go into a pretend world and be a kid yourself. Not only will it relax you and take your mind off of things but they will absolutely love it! I know it's hard to do ANYTHING when you feel the way you feel but just try. The mind is very powerful and you would be surprised what happens when you switch gears and start thinking positive! You're right; when it rains, it pours. But it's also always darkest before the dawn! If God brings you to it, He'll bring you through it! Much love to you!

Thanks ladies! I went to the doctor and it's not broken. It's a "contusion". That's a fancy name for badly bruised! It's soooooooo swollen and it's still numb but he said for me to just keep ice on it and motrin for the pain. Guess I should get to it, huh? LOL! I had so much damn housework to do I haven't had a chance to ice it and elevate it. Badonk, do they really do that? OUCH!!! :rolleyes2:

Hey girls, I think I broke my pinky! I was at my son's basketball game last night and was sitting on the stairs. I got up and started walking down them and my ankle gave out and I fell (my bones are soft due to prednisone. And I'm sure my weight doesn't help either!) Anyway, I landed some strange way on my pinky and it swelled up. I thought just to ice it and it would be fine in the morning but now it's very swollen and numb and black and blue. I know they can't do anything for a broken finger but maybe a splint so I'll just keep applying ice. Do you all think I should go to the Dr.? :rolleyes2:

Thanks nonad! It's good to know I'm not alone in this crazy mess called our healthcare system! I'll just have to hang in there until my next fill! You said to lift heavier weights and do less reps to tone up. Can you give me an example?

Thanks denise! I will try walking but any impact on my back just knocks me out of commission! Hopefully it will get better once I lose weight!

So no other doctor will do my fills. Everyone I called either doesn't accept my insurance or say they won't take another doctor's patient. So I'm stuck waiting until March 7 for my next fill. My last fill was back in October so I'm really overdue. And I can tell. I'm still hungry and not getting enough restriction. But I am going on wight watchers for now so hopefully I can keep my eating under control. I've only had 2 fills so far. I know I need more. On a lighter note, we finally set the wedding date for July 12! So now I have a HUGE incentive to lose the weight! I hope I can do it! I really want to get one of those gazelle things but I can't afford it at the moment. I'll probably get it after we get our tax refunds. I need something that's low impact so I think that will be great! And there are no swimming facilities anywhere near me. Otherwise, that would have been my first choice. I need as low impact exercise as I can get because of my back problems and tendonitis in my shoulder. But my physical therapy is going well so hopefully I will get some relief! I'm going to an orthopedic doctor on Thursday so we'll see what he says about my progress and xrays. Hope everyone is doing well!

I dont know if I'm really addicted or if it's just a nasty habit. So I'm not sure if medication would do the trick. And I only smoke 4 or 5 ciggs a day. I've been hearing alot about Chantix though. $200 is way too expensive for me. Wouldn't insurance cover it, anyway?

It's SNOWING!!!! :rolleyes2:

This is very true, Doddie! You know, we both weigh around the same! We could be a GREAT support for each other because we're both pretty much at the same point in our journey! I need all the support I can get, that's for sure! You know, I think my biggest problem is that I DON'T eat, believe it or not! I never eat breakfast and rarely eat lunch. For instance, I haven't even eaten yet today and it's 2:00! Then later I gourge myself! I know, bad! :rolleyes2: I know what I SHOULD be doing....I just don't do it! I have to change that soon!

Me too Doddie! I can feel it and sometimes it even gets stuck on my ribs!! LOL! But feeling it helps me know its there and helping me!

Good luck to you, girl! We're all praying and rooting for you!

That's what a friend of mine said earlier today. So I will stick with mine too because I've been using that one.

Well, I went to the doctor today (my physician, not my band dr.) and I guess my scale at home is wrong. The scale at my physician's office said 246! The scale at home says 240. Which do I believe? Another scale that I checked on at the hospital said 246. This was a state of the art digital scale so I just went by that one to update my ticker. But now I'm so depressed because here I am thinking I lost 5 pounds and I didn't And my back and shoulder problems are worse and PT isn't helping much. I had to have more xrays today and I'm not sleeping. I am so tired during the day because of this that I dont want to do anything. I hurt so bad I feel like I cant exercise. Even low impact kills me.

Thank you so much Doddie! I've seen some of those pregnant bandster groups and I will keep them in mind. I think that we will probably set the wedding date for the summer. I was banded June 11, 2007 so it will be more than a year since I've had my surgery because we're thinking about July for the date. I will let you all know when we set the date! Thanks for everyone's support!

Thank you to all of you for your kind words! Doddie and dawgfan, I appreciate your comments about me being beautiful no matter what I weigh! And my fiancee asked me to marry him before I even got the band so I was 30 pounds heavier then! I know he loves me no matter what. This is my own thing. I'm the one that's worried about it. Not him. I'm not going to try and quit smoking right now because it is definitely too much for me. Besides, like I said in my other posts, I only smoke like 3 or 4 ciggs a day so it's not too bad. Just a nasty habit more than anything! Unfortunately, I already cancelled my appointment for next week for my fill because we just couldn't make it. They will be sending me a letter in the mail with my next appointment which they said will be in March. But I think I can do ok until then if I really buckle down. However, I'm going to work on trying to get a doctor in Kingsport to do my fills, which is only about an hour away. Hopefully I can find someone who will take another doctors' band patient! Another thing I forgot to mention in my last post was that I do NOT want to get pregnant until I am at least under 200 pounds. I'm not going to put a baby through my own weight problems because I know I will have more problems if I'm overweight while I'm pregnant. I weighed about 145 when I got pregnant with my son 10 years ago and gained 74 pounds during my pregnancy. It was not fun for me. But that's besides the point. I want my baby to be healthy. And I need to be healthy in order for that to happen. Of course that's not where my weight problems started. I was diagnosed with Lupus at a very young age-11. I was put on steroids for about 3 and a half years. I was always very thin before that. Of course, as I mentioned above, I got down to 145 before I got pregnant. I have a very small bone frame. I'm not supposed to be this way. As a result of this weight bearing down on my small bone frame, I have many bone and joint problems. I'm hoping that will get better as I lose the weight. After I had my son I lost almost all the pregnancy weight until I moved to VA. I lived in NJ, in the same house, all my life before that-21 years! I guess the stress of moving to an entire new state and leaving everything I had ever known and all my friends and most of my family was too much for me! I moved to VA because I had no choice in the matter because of financial problems. I let myself go and I think that's a big reason why I am the way I am today. I'm 27 now and that's all behind me. Hopefully I can just start new!

Denise, First I just wanted to say congratulations to you for only having ten more pounds to lose! I wish I were that close to my goal. Second, I'm having a bit of a dilemma. I've been engaged for a little over a year now, and we have set a date and cancelled it 3 times now. These were for many different reasons. One of them being that I want to lose as much weight as possible before I get married. This will be a once in a lifetime thing and I want to be perfectly happy with my weight, pictures, etc. I would hate to look back on my wedding pictures and regret being so heavy. However, we really want to start a family and I want to do it right this time (my 8 year old son was conceived out of wedlock with a deadbeat loser...lol) My fiancee loves my son as if he were his own but we want a baby that's a little of both of us....I'm sure you all understand where I'm coming from. Anyway, I'm feeling like my biological clock is ticking and I'm ready for another baby. We were thinking about scheduling the wedding for this summer but I'm not sure I can lose 100 pounds by then. I guess if I set that particular goal it will get me motivated more but I don't want to set the date and then find that, a month before the wedding, I'm not even close to my goal. What do you ladies think? Should I go ahead and schedule the wedding for the summer and just really buckle down or should I wait until I'm closer to my ideal weight? Keep in mind that if we don't get married this summer, we'll have to wait until next summer because my fiancee is a school teacher and we want to schedule the wedding for when he has his summer vacation. I don't want to wait until next year......What should I do? :ohmy: But whatever I decide, I know my lapband family will be behind me and encourage me all along the way to get to my goal before the wedding! You girls are awesome!

Thanks for the advice Doddie! I do feel as though I need some sort of treat or I have deprived myself and I go nuts! Especially when I end up finally giving in to my cravings and I go off the deep end....eating till I'm sick!! I think that the slower you lose, the longer it will stay off. And you're right Doddie. We need to focus on changing our lifestyle habits rather than obsess over what the scale says.

Well, I'm now trying to quit smoking on top of losing weight. It sucks! And I'm finding myself trying to replace the nicotine with delicious evil foods...lol! Ice cream and cookies... So I got up this morning and bought a pack of ciggarettes... :prrr: But see, I only smoke like 3 or 4 a day. Is that horrible? And should I try to quit while trying to lose weight? My fiancee is so pissed at me. He says he would rather me quit smoking and gain a few pounds. :rose: It's like this big circle that I'm going round and round in...and it never stops. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. I can't seem to make anyone happy....

Thanks girl!! I'll see what I can do

Well, I can't make my January appointment and they can't reschedule me until March. Also, I talked to someone at UVA about changing my fill appointments to Kingsport but she said that no one likes to take other doctors' lap-band patients for fear that something will go wrong and they'll be blamed even though they didn't actually do the surgery. Do you think this is true? I've only had two fills and I'm in desperate need for another. I still feel hungry all the time. I don't feel like I have ANY restriction except for the occasional getting food stuck and sliming if I eat too fast or don't chew well enough. I'm not losing any weight. In fact, I gained two pounds even though I started excercising more and eating less! (Meanwhile still feeling hungry) I just can't afford the gas to get to UVA this month. I live 6 hours away! But I know I need a fill because I'm not losing. I've only had 2 fills since my surgery in June! And I can eat too much and still be hungry it's so damn frustrating, ladies!

Well, I can't make my January appointment and they can't reschedule me until March. Also, I talked to someone at UVA about changing my fill appointments to Kingsport but she said that no one likes to take other doctors' lap-band patients for fear that something will go wrong and they'll be blamed even though they didn't actually do the surgery. Do you think this is true? I've only had two fills and I'm in desperate need for another. I still feel hungry all the time. I don't feel like I have ANY restriction except for the occasional getting food stuck and sliming if I eat too fast or don't chew well enough. I'm not losing any weight. In fact, I gained two pounds even though I started excercising more and eating less! (Meanwhile still feeling hungry) It's so damn frustrating, ladies! :eek: