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Hi everyone, I'm being sleeved in a week & so far only a handful of family & friends know. I'm very tempted to go on Facebook & spill the Beans, so I can get support & not feel like I'm hiding something, but.......I'm so worried people will judge me, be jealous or even make fun of me :/ I'm not sure what to do. How has everyone here dealt with other people? Did you keep it a secret or tell the whole world!? I know I shouldn't care what people think, but I don't want to be judged :/

Instagram is good, but I'm not great with photos, but I'm sure that's down to my size!! Can I follow you? You're right about not being able to take it back, I could completely regret it. There are some people I'd never tell too, & if I tell the majority, I'm sure the minority would find out eventually & not from me in the way I'd be happy for them to know....Thank you for your advice <3

Ooooh! Two very different answers, thank you both. I think my thinking is a combination of the two of you. I'm thinking I might type out an explanation & put all the info about the sleeve on there, so people can see it's a tool & not a magic wand....still thinking though..... Well done for your weight losses & hard work <3 Ooooh! Two very different answers, thank you both. I think my thinking is a combination of the two of you. I'm thinking I might type out an explanation & put all the info about the sleeve on there, so people can see it's a tool & not a magic wand....still thinking though..... Well done for your weight losses & hard work <3

Hello I'm booked in for surgery for the 22nd March in Brighton. I'm so ready! I start my milk diet on the 7th.

I got my date yesterday, March 22nd!!! I was kind of dreading getting that date as it's my Dad's birthday that day, it'll be the first since he passed away. But my Mum & myself have talked it over & decided that it's a time to celebrate both for his birthday & the start of my new life, so now I'm thinking it was meant to be!

I'm waiting for my date but my Surgeon has said mid-late March should be fine. He operates on a Tuesday so It'll be either 15th, 22nd or 29th. Preferably I like the 15th, but we need to make sure the wls anaesthetist is free. I'm in the UK btw

Hi everyone, I stumbled upon this site while I was looking for info about the sleeve op, I hope it's ok to join? A little about me, I'm 37 & live in East Sussex with my daughter & partner. I've been obese/morbidly obese for about 30 years now! I've tried every single diet imaginable, with some success but have always put the weight back on, I'm now at my highest weight ever at 21 stone I had an appointment last week with my consultant, fully expecting to have a gastric band. I was all prepared, with my little book of questions for him. After he explained all the pro's & cons for all the procedures & which one would be best for me, I had completely changed my mind & have decided on the sleeve. Now, to qualify for surgery with this surgeon, I have to have a BMI of 45.9 or lower. I'm currently 47.4 as of today, so before I can even book an op date I have to lose at least another 10lbs. I'm doing my best & have lost 4lbs since last week....so maybe 3-4 weeks I will have lost the next 10lbs I'd be grateful for sleeve buddies or to hear about your experiences, please share!

Hi Zoe & Kate, feel free to join the facebook uk support group, I just set it up a day or 2 ago. Just private message me your email & I'll add you if you want x

I've set it up! Uk sleevers unite! I added my partner to start it, I'll delete him once people have been added I've made it secret, so just pm me your name or email address & I'll add you xx

Yes great idea! Just tried to set it up, I need to add someone to the group when I set it up, I'm confuzzled already, lol! If anyone wants to be added, private message me with your name & I can add you, I think that'll work?!

I was thinking of setting up a uk sleevers facebook secret page, would you lot be interested? It might be good for support etc?

That's absolutely revolting that they thought they had the right to say that to you, what give them the right to belittle you like that. :hugs:

There's not too many of us are there!? I'm going private, I spoke to my surgeon yesterday & we agree sometime in November, I had my psych evaluation yesterday, I'm vaguely sane but I've been passed for surgery which is fab! Next step is to see the dietician then I can book my op date!!! Yussss! I'm keeping it a secret, only Mum, Ian & one friend knows, I'm not sure if that's a good idea, but I think quite a lot of people won't understand & be super judgey.

I am with you on all of these things! Activities with my daughter was one of my biggest motivators for getting sleeved :-) I am already there with the Normal size shops...I'm 16/18 bottoms and 18/20 tops (uk sizes) now and it is weird being able to go into shops I couldn't before, and not just having to head straight for Evans!! I get the emails from Evans and I still look through their website and then realize I don't need to! I have a bit of anxiety about all the clothes options that are opening up, it's just not what I'm used to. I'm spending plenty (too much!) on clothes, but tending to stick to next and m&s as I feel a bit overwhelmed at the idea of all the other shops I could potentially start to shop in soon lol! I think my daughter was 99% of my motivation for getting the sleeve, how old is yours? Mine is 4 on Christmas eve, she has so much bloody energy, I'm hoping I can eventually catch up, haha. That's absolutely amazing that you've got to 'normal' size shops, I think I'll be like you, a bit daunted by the fact I'll actually have a choice! I have no idea about fashion, I've just stuck to black for all my life....the colour in me might have to escape when I've lost weight (I'll probably end up looking like timmy mallett!)

Sorry, I totally thought I'd replied to this! It's good to know what other have, I'm not sure what my dietician will suggest, I've got slimfast as a backup though I'd love to lose my hunger, my head hunger more so, but I know I'm going to have to do a lot of brain training to get over that!! I'm nearly 3 weeks into my pre-preop diet (if that's even a thing!) I've been calorie counting, 1200 a day, it's been reasonably easy, I've not had chocolate, crisps, pizza, chips (all those bad things that I use to live on!) apart from a few days ago when I was at the peak of my stinking cold, I was craving fish & chip shop chips, which I always have when I'm coldy, but I resisted! I've lost 15lbs in 3 weeks & I'm pretty chuffed! I've got an appointment with the psychologist on Friday, then next week I'll pop along to the hospital to see if I'm at the bmi that they require, then it'll be full steam ahead! Excited!!!

My Dad died at the end of July after a long battle with cancer. He never approved of me having wls mainly because he thought it was too drastic. While he was ill myself & my Mum discussed wls & she agreed to help me after he passed away, she knew how I much I wanted & needed help. Mum has expressed that she is a little worried that my wls (Novemeberish) will be too soon after his death & I may not have worked things through. I have always resorted to comfort eating, so I think she's worried how I will cope when I can't do this anymore. Has anyone had the surgery soon after losing a loved one, how did it effect things?

Thanks so much for replying Teal.. I'm so sorry about your Mum. I agree, watching someone die from Cancer is just the worst experience I've ever encountered. I bet you're really glad she found out & approved, I'm sure she'd want the absolute best for you, I'm sure that's what my Dad would have wanted but the idea of surgery scared him. I've had one session of counselling, my doctor was worried because I wasn't outwardly grieving, I shed the odd tear, but not bawled my eyes out. Maybe it's because he was ill for such a long time (a year that I knew about but 2 years all in all) maybe I came to terms with it & realised it was the best outcome. We had a strange relationship, he only told me he loved me just before he died, he never showed any emotion towards me really. Maybe I get that from him too. I was told that I was grieving in my own way & it was all perfectly natural but if I need anyone to talk to I can ring them anytime, so that's nice to know I think you're right about control, I'm pleased to think that I can finally control this part of my life, overeating is (was) such a massive part of my life. Time to start living other parts of my life with gusto!

I can't wait to run around with my daughter, jump in puddles & go cycling. I also can't wait to walk into a clothes shop & not have to shop in a plus size store (there are hardly any in the UK!!)

Hiya I was just wondering if anyone had any suggestions to reduced the possibility for sagging skin after we all lose weight? I was thinking Vitamin E oil or coconut oil....any other ideas?

Wow! You're amazing! I was thinking resistance training might be the way to go, I've got no energy for that at the moment but I'll up my water

That's great that you're finding it so easy, have you lost the hunger? I'm looking forward to this (if it happens to me, that is!) What drinks did you have? I heard that you can have slimfast? I quite like their flavours. My Mum is sooper dooper ace isn't she <3

Just another thought, if you work at a drug rehabilitation centre, could your drink/food have been spiked with whatever it said you tested positive for?

I think people are being a little judgey here, can it not be a mix up at the lab?

Interesting read BB, when you wrote about what people had said to you before, when you had lost 100lbs, a little bit of my heart broke for you. People can be such bastards. I hope this time you surround yourself with supportive people who aren't so obsessed with what's on the outside. As for loose skin, I'm really quite worried about this, time to get out the Vitamin E oil & dunk myself in it!

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