Sophie74656

My starrting bmi was very high and i had ZERO complications. I even joked with my surgeon that i didn't believe that she actually performed the surgery I had the things you can't avoid...incision pain, extreme tiredness, sore back, but no complications at all

Not everyone gets sick and vomits. You are focusing on the possible negatives. Focus on the positives

I wouldn't even tell people like that.

No. It takes a lot to damage your sleeve. And what do you mean that you're never allowed starches or sugars? I had them at 4 weeks

I had coffee with milk and regular sugar three weeks out and every day since

Talk to your nutritionist

Nope. Personally i dont like the idea of thinking that any food is off limits or forbidden. I say all things in moderation. If you want some mac n cheese have a few bites. If you want ice cream have a little I was sleeved in september an have lost over 150 lbs

Honestly just put a little on your plate and nibble and nobody will notice. I've found that people only notice two things, one is an empty plate and two is if you make a fuss about it. Ive had many group meals since my surgery including thanksgiving dinner and nobody has noticed. If someone does comment just say you're trying to eat a little less. Thats it

Oh bring a pillow for the drive home. It helps to press it against your tummy for any bumps in the road

The sleeve will also help resolve these issues

I didn't like the idea of your stomach just "floating" around inside of you and the rerouting. After a long discussion my surgron also recommended the sleeve. I don't know if this is the case with the bypass or not but i like that with my sleeve i can still go to a restaurant Either way you will loose weight.

My surgeon told me that since this is basically an elective surgery they check everything. I had a chest xray, ekg, sleep study, psychological evaluation, several meetings with a nutritionist. Then i had to go to a cardiologist over something in my ekg, a pulmonologist over my sleep study, a hemotolgist over something in my blood....they were very thorough

I would say make sure your chores are done pre op. Have a bunch of clean laundry and whatever cleaning done ahead of time so you can relax. Have some soft loose clothing. And be aware that it might be painful to sleep in your bed. I had to sleep in my recliner for a week because laying flat in bed eas putting pressure on the incisions. Also be prepared to have absolutely no energy. Until I was alowed to have solid food i was always exhausted. I needed a nap just from walking to the bathroom Personally i had minimal pain, just soreness at the actual incision sites especially the main one.

If you do a search there are a ton of other threads about this. You don't need much. Bring some entertainment and some loose comfy clothes for the ride home

My husband and I for a little while now have been in a rough patch. We've been having little fights and such. On Friday I made a very stupid money mistake that caused us a great deal of inconvenience and some extra money, but I took care of it and fixed it right away. So my husband was furious about it. Saturday night he came home and said he wants to start sleeping in our guest room and that he is considering us officially separated, that this mistake on my part was the last straw for him. this might be temporary this might be permanent. He has not used the D word yet, and he says he's still wearing his ring. We are being civil and durring the evening still talking and being in the living room together and chatting and joking almost like normal. BUt at night we are separate. In the mean time....He is a social outgoing person, he has a lot of friends. I do not. I am an introverted shy person, I basically have 2 friends, one of whom is currently living in Hawaii. Ever since he told me what he wants I have basically been in a perpetual state of a mild panic attack. My heart is racing, my stomach feels nauseous, I'm always on the verge of crying. I can't sleep and have not eaten anything in two days. I have nobody for support or comfort except my parents and I didn't want them to know yet. But I broke down and called my mom crying and told her the whole story and she was supportive. He is telling me he needs time and not to push him, that he doesn't know what the future holds, we may get back together, we may not. I'm hoping he just needs some time to cool off and think and that we will work it out. I can't imagine being without him. I don't want to be alone, I don't want to start dating again, and I CAN'T be without him. Yes I might be having some unhealthy attachment/codependency issues and a fear of being alone...but I do love him very much and still want to be with him. I am truly hoping he just needs some time to cool down so we can talk it out. I've offered to go to therapy but our insurance doesn't cover marriage counseling and right now he doesn't want to go he said "I mentioned that a year ago now it's too late" Maybe if and when he's ever ready to get back together we can try that somehow. My mother took me shopping yesterday to help take my mind off things and after that I spent a few hours at their house. While I was there I felt better but as soon as I got back to my own apartment I immediately felt that chest tightening, stomach turning urge to cry. So I want to spend a few nights, maybe a week at my parents house for myh own health. It seems to have a calming effect and maybe I'll be able to sleep and eat something. Plus I think being away from him for a few days will help in that I am without realizing it doing what he considers pushing and I don't wan to push him away right now while this is still fresh. I just don't know what to do. I don't have a job right now, I have an offer to be a part time bank teller but that doesn't pay enough to get my own apartment,and I have a 2nd interview for a position in the mornign that hopefully will pay well, but it's still not enough for my own place here in NJ. But assuming somehow I will be able to get my own place, I just don't know how I will be able to survive being alone without him with just the cat for company. I'm not an outgoing person and it is very hard for me to make and keep friends. I'm afraid I will be completely alone for the rest of my life. I know I have the unconditional support from my parents and even some financial help if I need it, and if I need to I know they will have no issue with me moving in with them permanently, which helps but still...I don't know how to deal with this I don't know how I'm going to survive this sorry for being so long I just needed to vent this out

Being with my parents has helped a great deal. Im not crying at the drop of a hat and im not panicking. I still don't know if we will get back together or not but the thought of not getting back together isn't making me cry or panic. I was even joking with my parents about how if i start dating again i will be a very cheap date since i don't drink and barely eat. Thank you so much everyone here for your supportive words and thoughts

I have an appointment for counseling for me for tomorrow

so just an update I've been staying at my parents house for the past two nights and just spending the evenings with them talking helps. They've been super supportive and will support no matter what the outcome is. I've been talking with my husband every night too. I call him and we talk a little, and its nice and civil. I think Im going to take a week or so and stay here with my parents and give him his space. I was able to get an appointment with a psychologist tomorrow morning my parents have been amazing through all this, super supportive.One of the first things they said was that if I needed or wanted it I could move in with them and they would help with anything money or whatever.

honestly you don't need much, the hospital will usually give you a lot. They gave me a packet with a toothbrush and toiletries. I would bring some comfortable slippers to walk around in. Some super comfy clothes to go home in. Cell phone and charger and something to do, like a book or some movies and something to watch them on

Thank you everyone. I really just need a hug right now more than anything which ia one of the reasons im going to my moms.

Once i know my work schedule i do want to do that

I also got some Valerian pills at the store which are supposed to help with anxiety

Late last night I talked to my friend from Hawaii who is a food friend but far away. She's going through something similar with her husband at the moment so we talked to each other about it for a while. We joked about if both of us come down to the D word that she would come back and we would get an apartment together. He is seeinf his parents tonight and said he will tell them what's going on so he can't really be mad about my parents knowing. But my parents don't know all of the details either. This morning he was stillnsaying that the D wors is not on the table right now, but it's not off the table either. And for now that's all i can hope for from him.

Friday's issue involved money but it was resolved. Honestlty I don't remember him talking about counceling other than a hypothetical question about it.

Right now he doesn't want t talk about the relationship. I hope aftrr he has some time that he will be willinf to talk then