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I have no sex drive. Zip. Zilch. Nada. I like it when I do get convinced to have it, but otherwise I could just as well leave it alone. This is a source of stress in our marriage, as my husband would like to have sex daily. We have sex maybe once every few months. Has anyone had surgery and found that that helped you gain back your sex drive? I don't think it's a self-esteem issue. I have no problem with showing off my body inside my house (in the summer, we run around almost naked, to save money on electricty). I think it's my psych drugs, for some parts anyway.

I just got an automated email from my doctor reminding me of my appointment Wednesday. I'm so excited. My blood sugars are seemingly out of control. I took my Lantus last night, but my sugar was still 251 this morning. It seems that no matter how much insulin I take my sugars stay high. That's not entirely true, but today I was feeling very discouraged, and my sugars are the primary reason I want this surgery. My husband is still not enthused about the idea, he thinks that I can just make the same lifestyle changes and see results. Even though I know (and told him) that lifestyle changes just don't statistically work for laying weight loss and diabetes remission. Today is also day three of giving up Diet Coke. I don't know if I'm going to have surgery yet or not, but I figured I might as well give up my Coke now. Make it easier if I decide to have surgery. Ooh, Wednesday seems so far away. I really can't wait, and I'm going to be crushed if it turns out that I'm not a candidate (I have bipolar disorder, it's very well controlled and I'm in therapy, bit I'm still a bit worried). Thanks for listening to me ramble... ????

Thanks. It'll be okay though, no matter how it works out. Maybe I need to take this time to focus on the emotional aspects of eating and being overweight, and then try for surgery again once we've paid off some of our bills. I'm sure I'll be back someday!

The consult went ok. The barium swallow wasn't as bad as I was expecting. The clinic is nice and the staff friendly (I thought it was professional and organized, my husband thought it was slick and overly sales pitchy). Insurance only requires a cardiologist approval and a letter from my psych for approval. The surgeon seemed competent enough. The catch? With insurance I'll have to pay $5,000. I don't know if that includes hospital/anesthesiologist or not. We don't have 5,000! We have a massive amount of credit card debt and just bought new cars. I have no idea if we can find the money for this or not. I'm guessing my husband isn't going to be all that thrilled to find the money, because he thinks that surgery is over the top and I can lose weight and get healthy without surgery. So I've been bummed. So close, yet so far.

I'm still thinking about getting surgery (consultation next Wednesday! So excited) bit was wondering if I should find a Protein shake note that I like. I'm thinking of Meal Replacement mostly. I'm starting a diet that is almost certainly doomed to fail, again, bit I'm giving it my all anyway. I was thinking of drinking a shake for Breakfast. I read that you should get whey isolate only, why?

Congrats on your great grades! I hope the professionals can find the answer and deliver the proper treatments to you.

My consult is Wednesday and I'm so excited. I'm ready for this to get started!

That's a good point about waiting until my consult. I did find some Bluebonnet brand protein shakes locally, and the chocolate one is pretty good. I'll wait until after I see what the requirements are to explore further.

Thanks! That sounds crazy, but I believe it happens. Makes me wonder why it happens and if our hunger hormones play a role in what we think tastes good.

I'm getting myself back into therapy soon, Monday I'll make an appointment with a therapist, and I will discuss this with her. I don't want to have sex, but I do want to love my husband and let him have sex.

I'd like to find a therapist and get back into therapy. I have bipolar disorder for one thing, and I'd like to start working on my food addiction problems now, and not wait until I decide to (if I decide to) have this surgery. I've had a therapist, but I'm not really sure how good she is. I like her personally, but I think I'd like to try other therapists to see what their practice is like. Any recommendations for therapists? I live down in Cleburne, but going as far as Fort Worth or Arlington isn't a super big deal. I refuse to go to Dallas! Sorry, just hate Dallas traffic. I get anxiety when I drive bad enough as it is! Thanks for any recommendations!

I haven't decided to have surgery yet, I'm here to help me decide if I want to or not. I heard about WLS about 15 years ago, and read that there were a lot of complications and death, and it wasn't recommended at that time. However, I knew that I'd revisit the idea in a few years. I wasn't ready to commit anyway, lots of issues and thought sugery was cheating, because it was the easy way out. Heh, so ignorant. Anyway, last year I was diagnosied with diabetes. It's been mild, I've only seen my sugar above 300 once, but it's also been hard to control. I was on 2000 mg of metformin and 1.5 mg of trulicity (a shot taken once a week, worked great for the numbers but made me throw up). I ended up in the hospital last week with metabolic acidosis. My diabetes drugs may have contributed to that, my uti might have, a combonation of the drugs and infection, we don't know. Yesterday I was having issues with my sugars, and one of my good FB friends messaged me to tell me she'd had the sleeve done years ago, was off her meds now, looks good, and can eat just about whatever. No dumping syndrome, no complications. So, here I am. Research, learning what to expect, and what complications there could be. I want to know everything, good and bad. (I always do this before surgery, even mild ones like the gallbladder.) Honestly, I'm not thrilled about the idea of another surgery (I've had my tonisils out, my gallbladder, a tube/ovary removed, and a patella realignment) but I'm having trouble dieting on my own. I did weight watchers for a year, before my depression kicked me off of the program (the depression is under tight control now). I tried it again for two-three months and kept losing and gaining the same two pounds. I'm scared. Scared of complications from diabetes. It's a lot more serious a disease than I Thought it was at first.

I can't tolerate Latuda. It always made me throw up, and I just quit taking it. I don't really enjoy throwing up, so I like to find meds that don't make me. I'm on cymbalta and abilify with few side effects. I am so impressed at the drastic way diseases have been treated, just through surgery. Getting off my diabetes medications is a goal of mine. If my diabetes would go into remission, it might be worth it. Right now I'm frustrated with my sugars and my insulin.

As my topic title says, I'm new here. So I'll share a bit about me here and in my profile. I'm 5'7, weigh 282, and have diabetes, high triglycerides, sleep apena, and joint pain. I just spent three days in the hospital with metabolic acidosis, possibly caused by the metformin or trulucity I was on. The hospital doctor took me off those diabetes drugs, and put me on insulin until I can see my PCP. I have been having trouble with my blood sugar for the last couple days, it's been above 250 and even the insulin didn't bring it down very fast (I'm on a fast-acting one, but it still took several hours - and my sugar was 150 this morning). A friend said she'd had a gastric sleeve done, and it was the best thing she ever did. So, here I am. I've got a consultation with Dr Kim in Colleyville, Tx in a couple weeks, and I'm here to get as much information as I can about the surgeries, risks, aftercare, precare, and everything else. I've always been fat, even as a child I was larger than average. This has turned into full on obesity here as an adult. I sucessfully lost 70 pounds with weight watchers, but gained it all back due to depression/bipolar disorder, psych drugs, and not eating right. I have been unsuccessful at losing weight since, despite diet and some exercise. I am mentally stable now, have been on maintance mode with my drugs for several years now. I will be trawling through threads, reading as much as I can, and learning learning learning as much I can. My husband is VERY skeptical. I said I was thinking of WLS, and he said flat out no. But, he's going to see Dr Kim (or one of his doctors, I don't know which actually) with me, and may be able to be convinced. If it's the right thing for me to do. I don't want to lose weight and "be skinny" as much as control my diseases better, even if I still need medications after surgery. The weight loss is, to my way of thinking, a nice potential side effect.

Hey thanks everyone! I've been reading and learning so much. I'm getting excited about my consult in two weeks.