Hang in there. The greatest fear is the fear of the unknown and right now, that fear is driving your thoughts and reactions. At one point along our journey, my husband and I separated so I could help my son. That was a huge waste of time and money. As long as I helped him, he wouldn't become responsible. So, we quit letting him love with us. He stays at the local mission. Now, he works at a local factory 5-6 days a week. Pays his own way in life and is saving to get a place so he can take his daughter to live with him whom we raise. When they grow up, we have to let them be grown ups, no matter how much it hurts.