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Hi everyone, glad to see there's a little UK sub group on here as I've found it hard to find local support groups (don't see to be many in the UK). Yay ???? I'd love to hear a little about you guys. My name is Nikki (age 37) & I live in Hertfordshire with my hubby & gorgeous little girl. I am at the early stages of the WLS journey. Been doing loads of research online & having discussions with my GP over the last few weeks & have decided that I think the gastric sleeve is the right route for me. I think I'll end up doing it as self pay rather than NHS & am waiting to hear back from the surgeons office re. a date for a first appointment. Part of me is super excited but I am also so scared .... Weirdly I'm not that scared about the procedure itself (although it does make me nervous), What really scares me is that I'll fail at this too ????. I have been fat my whole life, and my whole life I've been told by numerous people that the only reason I'm fat is because I choose to be and that if I just ate less & moved more and really really tried hard enough I could be thin. I've been on lots of diets and even lost a pretty large amount of weight once (about ) but just put it all back on (+more!). I can't blame my weight on a medical condition or a traumatic childhood event so basically I've come to the conclusion that it's my lack of willpower/laziness??? And that's why I'm scared - what if I fail at this just liked I've failed at my other diets. I feel super motivated & excited & positive about this amazing opportunity, but if I'm honest I've felt this way before when starting a diet and haven't stuck to it. ???? Did anyone else feel this way? Am I just being overly negative?

Thanks guys :-) so nice to find a forum like this to chat & learn from other people. Have a lovely day everyone!

Hi everyone, ???? so glad I found this awesome on-line support forum ???? I've been a bit of a lurker for a few days reading through various posts and FAQs but thought I'd write something of my own today. My name is Nikki (age 37) & I live just outside London with my hubby & gorgeous little girl. I am at the early stages of the WLS journey. Been doing loads of research online & having discussions with my doctor over the last few weeks & have decided that I think the gastric sleeve is the right route for me. Part of me is super excited but I am also so scared .... Weirdly I'm not that scared about the procedure itself (although it does make me nervous), What really scares me is that I'll fail at this too ????. I have been fat my whole life, and my whole life I've been told by numerous people that the only reason I'm fat is because I choose to be and that if I just ate less & moved more and really really tried hard enough I could be thin. I've been on lots of diets and even lost a pretty large amount of weight once (about ) but just put it all back on (+more!). I can't blame my weight on a medical condition or a traumatic childhood event so basically I've come to the conclusion that it's my lack of willpower/laziness??? And that's why I'm scared - what if I fail at this just liked I've failed at my other diets. I feel super motivated & excited & positive about this amazing opportunity, but if I'm honest I've felt this way before when starting a diet and haven't managed to lose all the excess weight. Did anyone else feel this way? Nikki xx

Oh wow, she sounds terribly unprofessional & if I was you I would also be very seriously considering changing. While technical proficiency is obviously extremely important I do think emotional care/support is just as important .... I say tell her to hit the road & find someone else who makes you feel all warm & fuzzy

Hiya ???????? how are you doing this fine evening

Ha ha - oh the joyous thought of fitting into a booth without having to wedge myself in :-) that & not having to ask for a seatbelt extension on the plane! I envy you already! I'm at the very start of the journey ... Done a few months of research, found a surgeon & now just waiting for confirmation of a surgery date :-) yeeeeha!

Totally agree :-). For me, the side effects from malabsorption (esp impact on teeth) stressed me out so I thought the sleeve sounded like a better option. But I have heard weight loss is faster with bypass & most websites seem to imply that the chance of keeping the weight off in the long term is higher with bypass vs sleeve?

@@Daveo - thanks so much for your reply :-) it's reassuring to know I'm not the only one who worries about stuff like this. I really am feeling so excited & hopefully - can't wait to be half the woman I currently am! How are you doing on your journey? What have you found the most challenging & the most exciting?