New day ahead

I start my liquid diet on the 1st. I was thinking about starting a few days earlier to shrink the liver a little more.

I am on the 8th more excited today than I was yesterday!

I am from Lancaster area also. Who did your surgery?

You are the day after me! We will have to compare post open notes:)

Mine is scheduled for 2/8. I am excited and nervous.

I put a reminder in my phone and when it alarmed today I read it to myself and got up and went to the gym. Yay!

I started this process back in August 2015. I did not tell my family at first. I eventually told my daughter because I would need someone to drive me home from the hospital. In late October I finally told my husband. He is not supportive at all. He is the cook in the house and continues to make Pasta and carbs. He brings donuts home "for the kids" but says to me " here have a donut". I have to go to the store and purchase my own healthy food. I give him healthy recipes and he complains about them. I thought some of them were really. Good. I started going to the gym and zumba back in August. I have asked him to start going to the gym with me so we can do something other than sitting on the sofa. I keep asking and today it just hit me. He likes me being fat. It makes him feel safe. I told him I want to live life and not sit on the couch. I am 50 years old and I want to live outside the box. I want to do things and be active, go for walks and do 5k etc. He said all he is looking forward to is retiring, that's it. He is 54 so he won't be retiring anytime soon. I am just so upset, frustrated etc. When he said my sleep apnea is a conspiracy from the government to make money I thought to myself he just doesn't get it and probably never will. He doesn't acknowledge my diabetes and just seems to blow off all my effort to be healthy and change my life. We have been married for 32 years. I am wondering if our marriage will survive the survery. My husband and daughter are the only two people who know I am having this done. Will I be successful without support in my house? My surgery is scheduled 2/8. Sorry this was so long.

I had talked with my husband many times Pryor to me deciding to do this. I had considered it for several years. I asked him to come with me the nutritionist and he refused. He thinks it is all a scam. I educate him and he laughs. I have had many conversations with him about how this is because of all the comorbidities not about being a certain size. As for My daughter she does not even live in the same city. She has even had conversation with him about how he should go to appointments with me since he doesn't listen to me.

Feb 8th!! I can't wait! A bit nervous but soooooo ready!

Hey all! I just got my date for surgery yesterday. I will be going to the loser bench on 2/8/16. When they called me with my date I was thinking "it is really happening!!" Now I know it is crazy but my thoughts keep going to my arms. I have always had large arms. I am wondering how many people have plastics on arms? I already have a saggy belly and I am really not worried about that area having loose skin because spanks will help with that. I am.so.worried about my arms. Also, I am curious if there is any relationship between stretch marks prior to surgery and how much loose skin you have after? Thanks in advance!

I think you are right, a little loose skin will be worth getting my life back. I think the only time it will really both me is in the summer and being in tanks etc. I already have wings so it probably won't be too bad.

I just got my date yesterday! Feb 8th!! Now I am a little nervous eek!!

Emilie.Lancaster may I ask who your surgeon was?

I am in Lancaster and Dr Ku will be my surgeon.

I started the process in August. My last appointment with the doctor is Nov 30! It is all I think about right now. I wonder the same thing especially when my husband keeps telling me he does not want me to have the surgery. He says it is not normal to just have surgery when you do not need it. But I need it! I am getting nowhere on my own. I need that reset tool to get my life back. Tonight at dinner we were talking about it again. My son said I might die - I said to him I could have a heart attack ( terrible family Cardiac history) or a stroke. I have high bp, high cholesterol, high triglycerides and diabetes. I can die from all that so I would rather try to get healthier. I know how you feel. And u think if we were not scared we would not be taking it seriously.

Is your creatnine level high? Or are you spilling protein in your urine? Did you have problems prior?

who is your Dr?

I have not had surgery yet but I worry about that too. Unfortunately I like food. I keep thinking one day i will be able to have a bite or two of something I used to love. But then again, maybe I won't want it anymore. I gave up soda a year and half ago ( after 30 years) and can't stand the taste anymore! Take it one day at a time. I hope it gets better for you.

I use my fitness pal to log food and it is synced to my fit bit where I log everything else. So all my activity gets counted and is reflected in my calories, protein etc. Love having them synced!

I have my first appointment with the doctor on Thursday. I have only told my daughter. After surgery I will tell people but until then the only opinion and thoughts I want to hear is mine. People can be judgemental.

RN 18 years in the ER.

Anyone have the insurance BCBS Horizon? The phone inquiry I had was ridiculous. I called to see if the surgery would be covered and the girl on the end gave me such a run around! She said "bariatric (with emphasis on bariatric) surgery is not covered under your plan. I replied" really? I can't believe you would rather pay for years of diabetic complication, possible stroke or heart attack". Once again she repeated the statement. I said what about appealing and she said it again. No other words. I then was a bit perturbed by her attitude in her voice and had a few suggestions. To make a very long conversation short, I kept asking about the appeal process and in the end she said"bariatric surgery is not covered under you plan but if it is medically necessary it will fall under regular surgery". I said to her that would have been nice for you to tell me 15 minutes ago. I was so frustrated. Waiting to hear. Anyone else have this problem with insurance!

I have not had my surgery yet. It is Dr. James Ku.

Dr Ku. Are you in PA? I never heard of Dr. Goldman.

My husband does not even know I am going through the beginning of the whole process. When I found out about my diabetes and talked to my husband about my fear of one day losing my feet or my kidneys he made light of it. Now when I decline all the carbs and sweet stuff he says" oh yeah you don't want to lose you feet". I told him he was rude and unsupportive! He said "you are not going to lose you feet, stop overreacting." I was done with the conversation. I stick to what I want, he can support me or not, but in the end only I can take care of myself. When I mentioned I was thinking about surgery he went nuts. So, I have not let him into this area of my life. My daughter is the only person I have told. She will take to the hospital and pick me up. Once I am home I will tell him but I am going through with this for me. I do not need his permission. Hopefully he will support me after he knows, if not, it won't change me doing this.