Comicbookguy

food was once our hobby but now that is gone and we must find new ways to occupy our time and minds. So what if any hobbies do you currently have? It can be anything from arts and crafts to exercising. Anything you can think of. Share pictures if you like. My hobbies are collecting comics and vintage toys but the main thing I am focused on is my art. I draw, write, sculpt and even sew. Currently I am working on self publishing my own graphic novel.

I need to vent. These days I don't have really anyone I can talk to about my problems. I don't have any friends I can just call up these days because they all have families and work late so I don't want to be a bother and I don't have a significant other that I can talk to either so you guys are going to hear today's frustrating event. First off I need to explain that I am on SSI and because of that my father has some control over my finances, access to my bank account is one of his "perks". Well, today he noticed a charge on my account from the credit card company because I am slowly paying off a card that he didn't know about and so he confronted me about it and I confessed that I owe about $2,000 in credit card debt and that I don't want to talk about it. He gets uppity and starts huffing and puffing and rolling his eyes and asks "what are did you need to buy? You don't have bills so what the Hell are you doing?" I also currently live with them and have severe anxiety problems so you can imagine how great I am feeling right now. I told him that my debt is none of his business and I don't owe him an explanation but he insists as my money handler he does need to know and then I just ignored him until he went to bed. I have had a lot of problems that I have been getting over and things I did that he doesn't know about or need to because he is very judgmental and holds my past over my head every chance he gets. The truth is back in 2013 through 2014 I made stupid decisions that still haunt me. I met a girl and I really liked her but I couldn't afford to take her out and pay the rent so I stupidly opened a credit card and spent over $1,000 on the credit card over 3 months taking her out, trying to impress her until she got bored of me and left me for another guy I spiraled into a depression and started drinking heavily and binge eating. Over the next year and a half it got worse as close friends of mine got married or engaged and here I was obese and alone. By the time I finally sought help I racked up debt over $3,000. I never told anyone outside of my therapist about my binging and spending habits that went along with it. I made the mistake of telling him about my feelings and feeling helpless before and he just makes fun of me and calls me stupid in so many words. How should I deal with him? What would you do? I can't live walking on egg shells and I can't afford to move out.

That's my plan eventually but I have to get a vehicle first. So that's what I am working at right now. Paying off my debt slowly and setting aside some money for a car. I had around $1,000 saved up until my parents got hit with unexpected bills and since my dad has control over my money he used it and said he would pay me back but it's been over a year since then. I am not holding my breath.

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Yes, it is a requirement and the reason I am on SSI is due to learning disabilities. I have mild Asperger's and chronic depression as well as other mental issues. I also am physically disabled from my weight and psoriatic arthritis. I've been out of work now for about 7 years. I'd like to work but I will never be able to do manual labor that involves heavy lifting.

He also thinks therapists are con artists. In fact he thinks everyone is a con artist and he thinks the world is out to get him. He has money issues himself but it doesn't stop him from going to the bar 4 nights a week and the casino every month.

We tried that before and it didn't help. He has little respect for me and my privacy and he refuses to open up himself. The only thing that ever comes out of his mouth in those situations is pure judgment and him telling me how much smarter he is than me and that I should be more like him. It usually ends in a physical fight. That's why I kept my debt issues a secret from him as long as I have. I have learned my lesson though and have been taking care of it successfully as the amount of debt has shrunk by 1/3 since I tried explaining this to him but he refuses to see the positive action I have taken in trying to right my own wrongs. No "well I'm glad you are doing something about it" it's just a bunch of "are you really that stupid?" and "you are out of your damn mind". Venomous judgement is all that asshole is capable of I am afraid.

I like iced tea with splenda in it instead of sugar for a sugar free sweet tea. Especially when I go out to eat.

I have recently noticed a very noticeable difference in the size of one of my calve muscles.should I be concerned? Is this a possible side effect of surgery?

What I mean is the muscle on my dominant leg has shrunk. I used to have trouble rolling my pant legs over my calves and still do with my left leg and it still has muscle definition but my right leg has lost muscle mass and is soft and doesn't seem quite as strong as it used to. Was thinking maybe it's a sign I'm not getting enough protein? I exercise and go on walks often so it's not from sitting around and doing nothing. There is no pain but I have noticed that my toes go numb on my right foot sometimes.

I basically just want to know if this is something my surgeon should be notified about or if I should just go to my regular doctor fir evaluation.

Thanks. I went to art school myself for illustrations but I was supposed to take animation too but never got to it. I unfortunately had to drop out after my second semester due to rising tuition costs and not being able to juggle both a job and school along with my newly developed health problems from being overweight. Hopefully after I get back on track health wise I can return after my ten year absence.

I know this is an old thread but it's a good topic. I personally collect comics and action figures. Mostly Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle related. I'm a nerd and proud of it. LOL

I have a bad habit of weighing myself several times a day to see how my weight fluctuates. For some odd reason my weight seems to be lowest at like 2 am. I was 344 at 2 am yesterday and then by lunch time I was 347. I'm assuming it's only Water weight though. I'm only 4 weeks out and can't eat much.

I guess I'll just have to be patient then. LoL Thanks for the info.

I had laparoscopic surgery on August 18th and after a week or so my pain had become barely noticeable until a couple days ago when I went to get up from my set. I felt a burning pinch in my largest incision and now it happens anytime I go to sit, stand, lay down or bend over. The pain isn't on the outside though it's under the skin. Should I be worried?

Years? I hope not. I'd like to be able to lift weights or do sit ups without severe pain. LoL

Right on. I just left a message with his office. Thanks.

According to some blood work I just had done I am not getting enough Water and am in the early stages of dehydration. They tell me I need at least 40 oz a day and I currently am averaging a little over 20. I tried really hard to get it in today but made it to just over 30. If I take in more than a spoon full of water at a time and or don't wait half a minute between sips I get painful gas and sometimes cramping. I am just 3 weeks out, will this get easier and how do I make my dad understand what I'm going through? I told my dad about this and he got mad and thinks I'm just being lazy. He doesn't believe that it takes me about two hours to finish one bottle of water, flavored or not. I just hope I don't have to sip water every moment of the day for the rest of my life to keep hydrated.

I am now happy to report that it has become much easier to get in my liquids but not before having to go in for an IV treatment this weekend. Better safe than sorry though.

I couldn't tell you how many chairs I have actually broke. LoL

Had my sleeve done August 18 in Grand Rapids at Blodget by Dr. Jon Schram. If anyone is reading this who has not had the surgery but is thinking about it I highly recommend him.

Dating. After the last three girls I dated said they were either too embarrassed to have me meet their friends or family or just too afraid to have sex with me I gave up and stopped trying to find someone out of fear of being hurt more. It's been five years since I've dated.