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8 days out can I eat eggs and turkey sausage?
Clementine Sky replied to amiskinnyyet's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I'd stick to the full liquids, but choose ones that will provide more calories and nutrients so you'll feel more energetic and satisfied. You can obtain the same calories and Protein from eggs and sausage with other options that are gentler on your healing stomach. On my second week post-surgery my diet primarily consisted of nutritious and tasty smoothies / shakes. The blog site The World According to Eggface has several recipes that were helpful and even fun to experiment with; I didn't feel I was on a monotonous routine of the same Protein shake every day. One of my favorites was the simplest "recipe" though - a chocolate Protein powder with Fair Life milk and freshly ground Peanut Butter. I also made a lot of smoothies using high protein, low carb plain Greek yogurt and low GI frozen fruit such as berries. I added flavorless protein powders to Soups to enrich them, and also made low-carb egg custard using SF flavored syrup. I didn't start having any foods that required a fork or knife until the one-month mark. I actually then went back to liquids and spoonable foods because my stomach wasn't ready yet. I hope you continue to heal nicely and to feel amazing! -
Lower starting BMI and weightloss
Clementine Sky replied to RJrocks's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
I had the VSG in mid-August 2015 with a BMI of 32 and have s l o w l y lost 80 pounds since then. My BMI is now 19 (which suits me because I have a narrow frame). I had several lengthy stalls (more than two months long), and experienced a few pounds of regain when I changed medicine I was taking for PCOS and my hormones went haywire. I agree with the advice above to just focus on your own progress and not compare your rate of weight loss to anyone else's, as tempting as that may be to do. My goal all along has been to cultivate better habits so I can have sustainable weight loss. I've lost rapidly in the past, only to gain it back fast. For me the perks of losing weight gradually has been absolutely no loose skin - it's actually firmer now that I've become more toned, minimal hair loss, and not having to buy new clothes as frequently. -
Halo Top ice cream
Clementine Sky replied to kris2100's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I love Halo Top! I was prepared to be disappointed by it because other ice creams with similarly impressive nutrition stats taste like old snow with a bit of Splenda on top (like Arctic Zero), but was very pleasantly surprised. To restate the obvious, we're all unique with what hinders and what helps us in regards to weight loss. For me, rather than reasonable sweets being a slippery slope to a gluttonous overindulgence, it keeps me from running to the edge. I find it easier to abstain from other temptations knowing that I have something to satisfy my sweet tooth. I've been having dessert since having surgery, but just changed out my options. Instead of eating a brownie or a cookie, I'll have a popsicle, lemon bar (10 carbs from Trader Joe's), or Halo Top. I've actually found that I've lost more weight when the dessert is added in than when I've removed it. My calories had been too low, and when I started including Halo Top at night it helped to break a lengthy stall that I hit while trying to lose the last 20 pounds. The half cup portion is perfectly satisfying to me. I've never eaten the whole pint in one sitting, though at 240-290 calories it wouldn't be that damaging. One of the perks of it for me is that you cannot just eat it right out of the freezer because of the consistency. You must let it sit on the counter for a while for it to soften to a creamy state. That prevents me from just taking a spoonful at a time (and eating the whole pint mindlessly). I always use a measuring cup and take out the serving, then put the carton right back into the freezer so I won't be tempted to get a second scoop. I think having a portion size of Halo Top during the soft foods stage is sensible so long as the person isn't worried that it will trigger a desire to rush out and buy Ben & Jerry's or otherwise overdo it. My favorite flavor is oatmeal Cookie. -
Clothing - what to do
Clementine Sky replied to Tami_Lynn's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
If there are still tags on the clothes you might want to ask the store about their policies and see if it would be possible for you to exchange them for a smaller size. There are online stores like Depop where you can sell clothes, so that might be an option worth checking out. -
No more weight loss
Clementine Sky replied to cheryl417's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Your questions are excellent. I am eating pretty much the same foods I ate before but much lesser quantity. I don't drink protein shakes anymore. Today for example, I ate a half of English muffin, a half macaroni and cheese smallfrozrn dinner and a pickle. I'm not doing very good but I think it's because when I was doing good, I stopped losing weight. I am not on any exercise program as I have a knee that is needing surgery. I have diabetes on insulin and am taking prednisone for PMR. I weigh about 170..at 5ft 3inches. I know insulin and prednisone is bad. Sent from my SM-N930V using the BariatricPal App My goodness. I'm so sorry you went through such a traumatizing ordeal. I hope you have a reputable, ethical attorney who can pursue the malpractice case. I think persevering with it is worthwhile, primarily for your own benefit, but also for future patients. Other patients might have had an excellent experience with this surgeon, but there could also be patients who've been unacceptably harmed but not wanted to invest the energy and everything else into pursuing legal action. My husband is a physician, and there's a surgeon at his hospital who'd made several critical mistakes with patients but still had a flippant attitude about it until he was sued for malpractice. At your weight you're going to lose at a slower pace than someone heavier. I started out at a lower BMI and lost very slowly, with several stalls along the way. I eventually made it to my goal. Prednisone can be frustratingly problematic for many people. I gained weight while taking it, and also felt aggressive and far more emotionally sensitive, which effected my decision-making. Concentrate on what you do have the ability to change, which is your food choices. Meal planning might be helpful, so that you're making decisions in advance rather than in the moment. If what you've listed above is how you typically eat now, it's problematic for a few reasons. You're consuming far too few calories, which can actually stall out your weight loss because your body goes into a self-preservation mode. It's also primarily carbs and insufficient in protein and vital nutrients. Frozen dinners tend to be packed with sodium, which also is a weight loss saboteur. They're fine every blue moon if you're in a pinch, but shouldn't be a staple. You don't need to eliminate all carbs from your diet, but you do want to reduce them, and more importantly you want to choose ones that offer more nutritional value. My dietician advised me to minimize the amount of "white foods" I eat - bread, rice, pasta, mayo, sugar. Have them very sparingly, rather than as the focal point of a meal. One exception is plain Greek yogurt from one of the brands that is high in protein and low in carbs. My favorite is Whole Food's brand - it has 23 grams of protein, 7 carbs, and a lovely, creamy taste. Fage is another good option. I'll have yogurt with a small serving of a fruit that is lower in carbs and higher in fiber, like raspberries, or blend it into a smoothie. My daily lunch when it's hot is to have a smoothie with yogurt, frozen fruit, and frozen kale (freezing it helps with the texture). The fruit masks the taste of the kale. The carbs are vitamin-rich, and are balanced with protein. You can also get carbs in through vegetables. I like crispbread, particularly Trader Joe's brand, because it can be used as a substitute for bread for making an open-face sandwich, and is low in carbs and has some fiber. Tracking your food through a free site like MyFitnessPal would help you to see how many calories, carbs, and protein you're getting in. I'd aim to increase your protein, and reduce your carbs to around 50-70 per day. See how you feel, and how it impacts your weight loss. If you're still not happy, you could try reducing your carbs more, and follow something like Atkins 40, which tends to be more sustainable than the really low-carb diets. As for exercising, have you ever tried Pilates? I was prescribed Pilates-based physical therapy after a serious car accident a few years ago, and it was fantastic. My mom has also been hugely benefitted from PT over the years for back and hip problems. Best wishes to you! -
I also take Flintstones Complete with Iron (two per day), and 1000IU of Vitamin D. I've taken Vitamin Code for Women by Garden of Life, and the Vitamin patch, but actually prefer Flintstones. I can take them without food or Water without getting nauseous, and they're readily available.
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You'll be in good hands at Cedars. I was just there yesterday afternoon to see my endocrinologist, and have always had a positive experience. I had surgery in Mexico because my insurance wasn't going to cover any of the costs, but would have had it locally otherwise (though I had a terrific time in Mexico). I don't have any loose skin. Losing s l o w l y seemed to help the most in regards to my skin having time to adapt and minimizing hair loss. It's not as satisfying when you step on the scale and don't see the numbers changing as often, but it has its perks. I think your age, how long you've been at your current weight, and other factors contribute to whether you'll have loose skin, in addition to the rapidness of weight loss. One of my favorite places for low carb is Pampa's Grill in Culver City. We usually go after work and pick up dinner to have at home later. @@"Clementine sky" that's awesome that you don't really have loose skin. what's the secret to your success? are you working out? GSV surgery date 9/19/26 I took advantage of our SoCal weather and started biking to and from work and whenever possible, though the distance is not that significant. I live less than a mile from work. It does help, though. I haven't worked out with strength training or swimming, though both are supposedly excellent for helping to minimize loose skin. I joined a gym in September and have gone once due to my schedule, and just wanting to come home after work instead of going there. *hangs head in shame for the waste* I really haven't done anything other than lose slowly. I've had lengthy stalls - months long at times - that have been frustrating, but also beneficial because they've slowed down hair loss and loose skin. It took me a full year to reach my goal. I did stop taking daily showers, because my dermatologist told me it was drying out my skin too much, and started using richer lotions and body oils for moisture. (I take them every 3rd day and spot clean in between). I don't know if that was a factor at all. I primarily use The Body Shop's or Trader Joe's body butter and Neutrogena body oil, so they're certainly not high-end brands. On my face and neck I use old-school Oil of Olay night moisturizer, just the plain kind, not the one for aging or skin tightening. I was only at my highest weight for about six weeks before having surgery. From what I've been told the longer you're at your highest weight, the more likely your skin will have adapted to it and become loose when you lose a substantial amount. The other factors are your age (I'm in my 30s, so not a spring chicken but still have a lot of elasticity), and how quickly you lose. If anything, my skin actually looks tighter than before because of the biking. I do need to do something about my upper arms, not because there's any loose skin, but because they're lacking any tone.
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Don't comment with slick remarks
Clementine Sky replied to tess170's topic in PRE-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Why are you making the choice to log into this forum if you are so dissatisfied with responses you're receiving here you feel the need to make this thread? Why are you trying to belittle others about their weight? If you were at peace with your own starting weight you likely wouldn't have pursued having weight loss surgery. The majority of us have been subjected to ridicule and social stigmatization for our weight, for years. I also started out with a lower BMI, but it still classified as obese, and I was still unhappy with it so I became resolved to changing it. To me, the marker of success isn't how much weight you started out at, but how much weight you lost and kept off through dedication. There are many people who've worked hard to achieve and maintain their weight loss, and come here to try to share their experiences. If you don't feel like someone's posts are worthwhile, though, you have the option to use the ignore feature. It's illogical to give your own time and attention to those you don't respect, when you have no obligation to engage. -
Don't comment with slick remarks
Clementine Sky replied to tess170's topic in PRE-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
Carp reminds me of Christmas in Prague where it's a tradition to pick one out from a vendor selling them live on the street, who then kills and packages it for the customer. o.O I skipped out on it. -
Friends and family reaction your wls surgery
Clementine Sky replied to xoxococojay's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
I'm 16 months out from having the VSG, and the only ones who know are my parents, husband, and physicians. I absolutely know my best friend since the age of 12 and so many others would have been supportive, but I'm just really private about personal matters. I felt like my family gave me all the support I needed. My husband immediately was supportive. My mom was initially against the surgery, thinking it was a drastic measure, but once I explained why my endocrinologist had suggested it and showed her some research, she became hugely supportive. She then got my dad on board. I started biking to work about a month post surgery and using MyFitnessPal to track what I eat. Friends and colleagues see me biking everywhere and making more mindful choices about food, and so they assume that's how I've lost 86 pounds. -
You'll be in good hands at Cedars. I was just there yesterday afternoon to see my endocrinologist, and have always had a positive experience. I had surgery in Mexico because my insurance wasn't going to cover any of the costs, but would have had it locally otherwise (though I had a terrific time in Mexico). I don't have any loose skin. Losing s l o w l y seemed to help the most in regards to my skin having time to adapt and minimizing hair loss. It's not as satisfying when you step on the scale and don't see the numbers changing as often, but it has its perks. I think your age, how long you've been at your current weight, and other factors contribute to whether you'll have loose skin, in addition to the rapidness of weight loss. One of my favorite places for low carb is Pampa's Grill in Culver City. We usually go after work and pick up dinner to have at home later.
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I've also bought it at Ralph's, though I found more flavors at Whole Foods. On their website they have a location finder, so you could check to see where it's available in your area. It is pricier than other pints, but I've felt it was worthwhile. Be sure to let it sit on your countertop for a few minutes to let it soften because it takes a bit longer to reach a creamy consistency.
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Which Weight Loss Surgery Support Groups Do You Belong to?
Clementine Sky replied to Alex Brecher's topic in General Weight Loss Surgery Discussions
I've never attended a support group, and don't intend to join one since I'm 16 months out and maintaining a weight that is well under my original goal. My parents, husband, and my doctors are the only ones who know I've had WLS, and really the only ones I've ever felt I needed support from throughout this experience. I have found sites like this one to be useful for learning from the experiences of others, gathering information, and asking questions. I don't really seek support here but feel like there's plenty of kind people who would give it to me if I ever did. Pinterest, Instagram, and YouTube have also been great resources for finding recipes, meal plans, and tips from others who've had WLS. -
BMI of 21 getting gastric sleeve... thoughts?
Clementine Sky replied to iloveorganicmilk's topic in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums
Do you have a good therapist? Have you talked this through with a professional who works with people with eating disorders? to be honest i went through therapy couple years back but it did not help. I have not talked this through with a professional who specifically deals with eating disorders. but trust me, i did EVERYTHING that i could think of doing to try to solve my eating problem with no avail. Saying that the vsg is my choice of last resort is an understatement. This is like someone with a type of cancer that has a high survival rate if proper medical treatment is obtained claiming they did everything possible to no avail ------- except consult an oncologist and undergo proper medical treatment. You need to pursue ongoing, dedicated treatment with a professional who specializes in treating eating disorders, and genuinely be receptive to it. Many people with eating disorders have benefitted significantly from cognitive behavioral therapy, but it's not instantaneous. It requires patience and resolve. There are also medications that have been helpful. Research has shown that dysfunction of the serotonin system or dopamine system in the brain may be associated with binge eating disorders. It has more to do with your brain and your habits than the size of your stomach. The VSG will not be curative to an eating disorder. One of my friends / colleagues had WLS right after she graduated from college, and now at 30 is far larger than she was before it. She'd always used eating as her coping mechanism for stress, joy, and loneliness, and that didn't change after her surgery. While working on her PhD and dealing with a heartbreak she put back on all weight she lost, and considerably more. It actually became somewhat of an embarrassing issue at work for her because she was absent-mindedly eating food that belonged to other people from the staff kitchen, and got caught. You really only have a tight restriction immediately after surgery when your stomach is still healing. After that, there are many ways you can maneuver around the restriction and consume ample calories to stall out weight loss, or substantially gain. Calorie-laden liquids like Frappacinos will slide right down, as will ice cream, frozen yogurt, Desserts, and many other fattening foods. Drinking while eating can allow many people to consume more food. It's a form of self-sabotage, but you've demonstrated that you're already prone to this behavior. Even when you do have a tighter restriction, what you eat is as important as how much you eat. There's a bariatric surgeon on YouTube named Dr. Matthew Weiner, and he's made several videos discussing why people regain weight post WLS, and he emphasizes that point. I definitely think having the lap band removed is necessary, but definitely do not think the VSG would be beneficial for you. At the very least, why not at least wait a while? Has your mom put a time limit on how long the funds will be available for you to use? You could make an honest effort to undergo appropriate treatment for your eating disorder, and if you still want WLS in two years reconsider it then. -
Facial hair *women only
Clementine Sky replied to natarshassleeve's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
How long did you take the peppermint supplements before you noticed a difference? I'm on my second bottle but have yet to see much of an effect. I don't know if I should just have more patience or if it's just not going to work as well with me. I'm only taking 2 a day, as that's the recommended amount for the one I have. I've been sugaring (like waxing), and that seems to be helping, but I'm still getting the hairs at the same rate. -
Weight Gained Since Having Gastric Sleeve Surgery
Clementine Sky replied to sleeve 4 me's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I'm sorry you've gone through so much grief and distress. Several antidepressants have been linked to weight gain, so it's possible that could be contributing to yours. I gained 30 pounds quite rapidly from taking Zoloft for grief. I've had more success with a low dose of Wellbutrin (a higher dose caused insomnia and hair loss), though some people haven't been benefitted from it. I've started to read reviews of every medicine I take to better understand the experiences people have on it, so I can be aware of possible side effects. There's a bariatric surgeon named Dr. Matthew Weiner who has several videos on YouTube. In one of them he discusses common reasons for why people gain weight post WLS, and lists medication as a leading cause. Edit: This is the video: About 5-6 minutes in he lists reasons for weight regain, and talks about medication. -
Facial hair *women only
Clementine Sky replied to natarshassleeve's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I was hopeful that losing weight would help to reduce the amount of facial hair I have, but I'm down to a size two and still dealing with it. I had been taking 200mg of spironolactone ever since being diagnosed with PCOS at age 19, but over time it had become much less effective and caused numerous undesirable side effects like depression, fatigue, and weight gain due to the increased appetite it gave me. I slowly tapered off of it, and finally stopped taking it all together. This has meant that I've seen more facial hair growth, but am not contemplating going back on it because I'd rather deal with one problem than multiple ones caused by this medicine. I just started taking birth control again on Sunday to help with facial hair, but am going to discontinue it because it's causing severe insomnia, nausea, and hot flashes (I'm 20 years too young for menopause). I was also given a prescription for Vaniqa at my recent doctor's appointment, which is a cream that helps to retard hair growth. It takes about 8 weeks to see any results, and the 1 ounce tube was $169. o.O I bought it anyway because desperate measures and all...... In reviews of it I read some women called it a holy grail product that had changed their life for the better, and others said it was not only ineffective but caused breakouts. I am hopeful that a method I've just started trying will be effective, and the medicine and cream won't be necessary. I recently started having it removed with sugaring and have been fortunate to not have any breakouts as a result. It's painful, but not excruciatingly so. I live in Los Angeles, and the woman who did it for me came highly recommended on Yelp and only charged $6 for the chin (I was trying one area at a time). I don't know how much it cost elsewhere, but it's definitely less than electrolysis and laser (which I was told wouldn't work for me because my hair is blonde). Ladies on another forum, Soul Cysters, had recommended a product from Amazon that you apply immediately after removing facial hair (whether by waxing, shaving, threading, etc) to prevent ingrown hairs and acne, and it's been really helpful. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00C4YJL96/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 I'd felt trapped in a cycle where removing hair caused breakouts, which made me want to hermit as much as possible (which is dismaying because I want to show off the weight loss and go out there and have fun), but the facial hair made me want to hermit as well. I've only been using this product for a few weeks, but thus far it's been a huge relief. You can have higher androgen levels without having PCOS, and that will cause excessive facial hair growth too. PCOS can also be tricky to diagnose because the name is a bit of a misnomer. My endocrinologist said that many women with it do not actually have cysts, so they look at other criteria like your hormone levels and symptoms. Women who are not obese can also have PCOS and facial hair. I'm a young professor, and because of that my students tend to confide in me more than they would older professors. One of my 19-year-old students was telling me how depressed she was due to facial hair and acne caused by PCOS, and she's very slim. If she lost any weight she'd be medically underweight. -
How do I tell my surgeon he screwed up?
Clementine Sky replied to thomas1984's topic in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums
I don't think there's a "normal" that's applicable to all of us, because we're different ages, sizes, genders, and have unique metabolisms, appetites, eating habits, and overall health conditions. What your surgeon said about your mom being satisfied eating so much less makes sense to me. My mom has never had WLS and is actually underweight, and can get full eating less than I have post-VSG, but she's 32 years older than I am. Your caloric needs and appetite are probably much greater than hers. I can feel a sensation of fullness from drinking a tall glass of Water, and yet have to be really diligent about portion control with many foods. I never cared for dense Proteins, so the mental aversion to eating that much would prevent me as much as the physical restriction. My husband could probably eat an entire cow if it was butchered and put on his plate, and he's never been heavy. My main suggestion is to keep everything you tend to overindulge in out of your kitchen and off your plate as much as possible, and use a lot of care with portion control. This is what I do: I weigh my Protein and measure out whatever else I'm eating alongside it, put it on the plate, and go ahead and wrap up all remaining food before we sit down. When I'm through eating, I find a way to occupy myself. Thirty minutes later I have water. If after an hour post-meal I'm still hungry, I have another portion, but a smaller one. If I'm still hungry an hour after that, I'll have a snack, but that's rare. On the weekends I don't keep track of everything as diligently, but during the week I use MyFitnessPal, my scale, and the measuring cups religiously. It takes very little time to do, and is a way of staying on track. If you're still unhappy with your sleeve it sounds like your surgeon is willing to work with you, though I'd be sure to find out what the unpleasant side effects of making it smaller would be, and what insurance would cover. -
Do you count carbs?
Clementine Sky replied to spunkyheather's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I count carbs during the week, and try to be reasonable on the weekend but definitely splurge more then. My ideal is in the 50-90 carbs a day range, which is lower carb but not low carb. I will lose weight more rapidly if I more tightly restrict my carbs, but I don't feel as vibrant, and I find it harder to sustain. I have always gained weight back after low-carb diets. Most of my carbs come from fruit, vegetables, and whole grains. I do allow for once snack a day, like a lemon bar from Trader Joe's that has nine carbs of tart deliciousness. -
What is on your Trader Joe's Shopping List?
Clementine Sky replied to OutsideMatchInside's topic in Food and Nutrition
I'm bumping the thread with hope of getting more ideas of things to add to my shopping list. I love their crispbread. It's perfect to use for making open-face sandwiches, or as a snack when you are craving something with crunch. Has anyone checked out their pumpkin flavored products yet this season? I loved their pumpkin products a wee too much in the past, and am wanting to choose healthier but tasty options. -
Costs resulting from WLS
Clementine Sky replied to HuneComz's topic in PRE-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
$2300 certainly isn't pocket change for most of us, but it's still considerably less than what most of us paid for surgery, so it might help to view it from that angle. Going forward the expenses might not be as expensive as you'd think. Regardless of whether you're eating broth, a Protein shake, or your typical meal, you'll still have to buy food. You'll be consuming much less of it than previously, especially in the first couple of months. If you have other members of the household you could use some of the things you buy for recipes for them as well, so the expenses won't just be for yourself. The blog site "The World According to Eggface" has several really good recipes that use Protein powder for lower carb muffins and treats others could enjoy. I've definitely spent less on groceries and eating out than before. After my first month I really wasn't buying any food just for myself that my husband couldn't also enjoy. I use Fairlife milk because it has more protein in it. I took keep protein powder in the pantry, but most days I make smoothies using a high protein, low carb yogurt, frozen fruit, and frozen kale (the taste is masked by the fruit). My portion sizes have definitely changed. When I eat out I always need a box for left overs, and one meal can be made into three now. As for clothing, if you have a reasonably priced seamstress nearby she might be able to take in the business clothes you already have and like. That's what I've done. For more casual wear I still wear jeans that are a bigger size, just with a belt. I have splurged on a few jeans in my current size, but if I'm just running to Home Depot I'll put on an old baggy pair, cinch in the waist, and throw on a longer top. Before I had the VSG, I still had to buy new clothes a few times a year, but often because I'd gone up a size. It's much less disheartening when the reason for new clothes is because you've lost weight rather than because you've gained it. Best wishes with everything! -
I did the same thing a couple of days ago....told my first surgery fib! I was quite shocked because I am pretty open with people & I am not at all comfortable with lies. My surgery is on Wednesday, and up until this point I've been quite open and honest with people (I have a blog too!). People who I don't want to know I just don't talk about it with. The lie happened because I have neighbor who has a group of friends who are involved with a church and they are ALL constantly knocking on my door trying to get my involved in the church also (no means no, I mean it really means that where I'm from...) They are judgmental freaking passive aggressive stuck up people who only pester me out of ignorance (not because they are kind). They make horrible comments to me with a smile on their face. ANYWAY, long story short they had been harassing me relentlessly about doing some church related thing this week and because my no obviously means nothing to them in frustration I blurted out that I couldn't because I'm having surgery.... Well then came the relentless "why" questions & in a moment of weakness and because I have to live near this annoying person I lied and said it was for a hernia. I feel weak and pathetic. I don't believe for a second there is any shame in weightloss surgery - but I don't want to deal with prejudice from people who I know will think it's shameful. Arg! Sent from my iPod touch using the BariatricPal App I don't think it was weak or pathetic at all. You were being pestered but still had the wisdom to not just blurt out the whole truth to people who would have abused you for it. If they knew you were having WLS, it sounds like they're the type would make it as much about themselves as about you, gossiping, inventing ways to "help" you that were really about being nosy. I'd consider not answering the door as much. You're not obligated it to answer it just because they come knocking. For all they know you could be on an important phone call, in the shower, whatever.
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It's been thirteen months since I had the VSG, and besides my physicians the only three people who know about it are my parents and my husband. Not my best friend since I was 11, not my brother, not my colleagues. I never discussed having surgery with anyone else, so I didn't have to come up with an explanation. No one else has had a need to know, and I haven't had a need for them to know. If you want to tell people, by all means do so, but if you want to keep it private, know that it's absolutely your prerogative and feel at peace with the decision. If you're doing a pre-op diet and people ask you about it, you can simply say it's a diet. If you're going to be missing time at work, you can tell people you need to take some personal leave days, or vacation, or sick leave, or whatever. No one at work is entitled to know specifics. You could be taking time off for a host of reasons. I'm about to take time off to have my wisdom teeth removed, and I'm not disclosing that either, even though it's a common surgery. I just don't feel the need. That's all. It's not lying to not disclose healthcare matters, it's keeping something that is personal private. Once you let out something that is private, you can lose control over it because people can tell others, sometimes just by letting it slip out. My concern was that it would mean having to devote energy to explaining the surgery and calming concerns others might have instead of putting my focus into doing everything I needed to be prepared for success. I do get asked a lot about my weight loss now, because I've gotten down to a size 2. I tell people who ask the truth - by using MyFitnessPal to track everything I eat, and biking to work instead of driving. Best wishes to you!
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Can I have bread and if not why?
Clementine Sky replied to kcirym2vp@yahoo.com's topic in POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A
I began eating small quantities of bread about a month post-op, but chose different types than what I ate in the past. Ezekiel, Dave's Killer Bread and other brands have more favorable ratios of Fiber, carbs, and Protein than the croissants and white bread I used to love. I also really like Brazilian cheese bread. One serving is three small but tasty pieces. I have it with a protein. http://www.brazibites.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/ori-ingredients.pdf Crispbread is also lower in carbs and has some of the satisfaction of bread. Trader Joe's carries one I really like. You can use it for an open-face sandwich or just have it with Peanut Butter. You could try having bread and just see how well you tolerate it, how much it fills you up, and what impact it has on your weight loss goals. -
I lost weight at a snail's pace, but I eventually hit my goal, and you likely will as well. For me, there were benefits for being a slow poke. I lost a minimal amount of hair, and my skin actually looks tighter (primarily from becoming more toned) rather than loose. Hopefully you'll have those benefits as well, and it will make the slower loss very worthwhile long-term. It won't just fall off, but if you exercise and are careful about what you eat you will lose weight. Keep track of what you consume if you aren't already doing so, and experiment with increasing (eating too little can actually slow down weight loss) or decreasing your calories and see if that makes a difference. Working out more often could help as well. Best wishes!