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How long do you have to wait before you can have a massage after the surgery?

You only weigh 215!!! Girl hop on that massage table and get yourself pampered. Tell the massage therapist where you do, and do not want, to be touched. Believe me, they will abide by your wishes. My partner was a massage therapist and the only things that bothered her and the girls she worked with was a lack of personal hygiene. My massage therapist actually thanked me the other day for always being so clean when I come in lol. If that won't work for you, what about a facial? Those are relaxing and your skin will look great. I just want to give you a hug! You deserve nice things and you've worked so hard. Congrats on your loss btw!

FInd a new doctor! That is really scary and you could have been seriously hurt. I cannot believe your doc didn't run any tests. It's probably a simple fix like blood sugar/pressure, but you never know.

Can you start taking birth control now and try to skip your period by not taking the sugar pills? I use to do that all the time in middle school and high school because I loved not having a period. I had cramps that made me vomit and unable to stand up straight and extreme, heavy bleeding. I know there are issues with clotting, stroke, personal choice, etc. that might not make this feasible. If not, I'm sorry and totally feel your pain. Adult wet wipes will be a good thing to take jic. (Personally those are good to have on hand for any period). And at least you will be on good meds. But if you talk to your doctor about the pill, then you could start tomorrow! And then have plenty of time to skip the sugar pills. You might have a light flow but it's better than the real deal. Either way, don't move/cancel your surgery. You have already made it this far and it's just one more hurdle! You're gonna do great!

80 lbs in 3 months!? Amazing and congrats!

I think jitters are normal and to be expected. Write down why you want the surgery. Think of how you will feel in a year if you don't go through with it. Think of yourself in a year AFTER the surgery.

All of you are just making me happy that I chose not tell anyone.

Lol to earlier comment. I have an appointment for gastric sleeve in Tijuana on December 29th. Couldn't think of a better way to start the new year. I'm paying to have my gallbladder removed ($1500) so my surgery total is higher than most going to Mexico, $5800. Plus $1200 for two round trip plane tickets. I'm going to take $500 in cash and have a credit card on me for emergencies. So much cheaper than U.S. The doctor I'm going to has very low complication rates and rave reviews. The hospital itself looks very clean but a little old fashioned. The Marriot looks so nice! I made friends with a girl on this site who took pics of the hospital rooms and corridors, the hotel lobby and rooms, plus the shopping. Once you contact the center, a coordinator will help you get scheduled, answer your million questions, and give you very detailed instructions. It took me 3 days of emailing, filling out health questionnaires and forms that to be approved by the doc, and making a $500 deposit to get on the schedule. So easy! You have to have a passport and pay the remainder with a cashier's check or credit card. I suggest the check because there is a fee for using credit cards. Hope this helps a bit. I was so overwhelmed when I first started researching surgery in Mexico. Just get as much information as possible about your doctor and talk to old patients. Lots of people will share their story once you get to a specific surgeon. Plus most of the surgeons have a private FB page that you can join.

I'm scheduled for 12/29. Let me know if you're having surgery the same day! I would love a surgery buddy.

Now I'm starting to get worried I haven't worried more about my boobs after surgery. 40 DDD right now. They aren't perky but they're pretty nice. I am going to stalk the plastics section now. I've heard push-ups and planking helps. Has anyone had luck with exercising their pecs for perkiness?

You sound really judgemental and rude. That's not the point of this website. This is supposed to be a supportive, helpful site. I cannot believe you are judging other people's very PERSONAL decision. What part of the "problem" am I since I'm not telling people? And yes, I am well aware I seem angry. I am angry at your comment. Do you judge me for having two surgeries for endometriosis and not telling people about that? This has been my personal struggle and battle. It is my story to share if I decide to. I think you shaming others for not telling is part of the "problem." And by problem, I mean obesity. We know we are being silently judged at all times just walking into a room. We know how hard it is to stick to a diet and exercise regimen and fail over and over again. For most of us, surgery is the last ditch effort. And we are still afraid of failing. Everyone has their demons, issues, and their right to privacy. I'm glad you feel so confident in telling everyone about your surgery. But do not try to shame me and make me feel like I'm doing something wrong by keeping my experience to myself. Obese people suffer and their suffering is made worse when people who had weight loss surgery lie about it. That's what I mean that if you lie you are part of the problem by promoting deception and that all that one has to do is just diet and exercise. You don't have to shout it on the rooftop but you should be honest when you are asked how you lost the weight. There's no shame in having surgery but there's shame in lying. So if you are actively lying and then have the nerve to say that I'm rude then I suggest you do some soul searching. Lol calm down. I haven't even had surgery yet. So I'm not "actively lying" about anything. I'm not worried about the shame, or lack thereof, if someone questions how I lose weight and I don't give them my story. By all means, feel free to shame me for my future hypothetical conversations.

Congratulations! It is so nice for a newbie(surgery date 12/29) to hear from someone 4 years out! You look amazing, of course! But your beautiful spirit just shines through your words. I'm going to start reading your blog ASAP.

Monistic chafing relief powder gel is the BEST! Ladies you can mix a little with your foundation and your face feels baby soft all day. I have trouble finding it so I just order in bulk from Amazon. But I walk 3-6 miles a shift and my thighs would feel like raw meat until I discovered this. Now my inner thigh skin is never irritated and the skin has healed and looks so much better.

You sound really judgemental and rude. That's not the point of this website. This is supposed to be a supportive, helpful site. I cannot believe you are judging other people's very PERSONAL decision. What part of the "problem" am I since I'm not telling people? And yes, I am well aware I seem angry. I am angry at your comment. Do you judge me for having two surgeries for endometriosis and not telling people about that? This has been my personal struggle and battle. It is my story to share if I decide to. I think you shaming others for not telling is part of the "problem." And by problem, I mean obesity. We know we are being silently judged at all times just walking into a room. We know how hard it is to stick to a diet and exercise regimen and fail over and over again. For most of us, surgery is the last ditch effort. And we are still afraid of failing. Everyone has their demons, issues, and their right to privacy. I'm glad you feel so confident in telling everyone about your surgery. But do not try to shame me and make me feel like I'm doing something wrong by keeping my experience to myself.

Server/bartender I can't believe there's so many nurses! It does make sense that the majority on here spend their time and energy taking care of others. What a great topic!

I'm only telling my partner. She's going with me and is completely supportive. She has loved me through thick and thin, literally for ten years. She only wants me to be happy and has never said a word about my weight going up and down and then just up. I'm very private. I'm not on Facebook or any social media except for this website. I have a few very close friends who would try to talk me out of it because they think I'm perfect just the way I am. Or the naturally thin ones would tell me to just eat more salad and work out more. All said with love but I don't want to hear it. I don't think it's anyone's business. I do not want to hear any unwarranted advice and hurtful comments. I've had enough of that from family since I was a child. If people ask, I will just say diet and exercise which will be true. Because surgery or not, we will always have to watch we eat and exercise.

I scheduled my surgery today for December 29th!!!! I cannot think of a better way to start off a new year. For me the holidays mainly involve me working more than usual (restaurant industry) so I won't be missing big family dinners. Plus, January is the slowest time for restaurants and I wouldn't be making much money so I can take off and not feel too guilty. I am so excited about this new chapter in my life!

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I'm jotted down all your ideas. The picture thing is great advice because I hate pictures of myself. So that will be a nice thing to look back on. Plus logging the supplements. Have you tried the vitamin patch? My stomach tends to get upset whenever I take vitamins so I'm really worried about taking vitamins. But one of my other site buddies told me about the patch. And I'm going to order B-12 shots. Yay!!! Again congratulations and thank you!

3 boys? And working that much? Wow that's amazing. I am worried about the Water thing. I guzzle water all the time so I know I'm going to have to watch myself. Since your sleeve lets you eat whatever, is it hard to stop? I'm going to put my deposit down and buy plane tickets tomorrow so I'm super nervous. But I love this website. Everyone is so friendly and helpful and I know this the right thing to do for me. Thanks for the response!

Congratulations!!! How are your energy levels? Any random advice? You look great by the way!

Congratulations! So glad it went well and you had your husband there to support you. Can't wait to hear more updates!

I'm a server and I've been researching the sleeve for 6 months. I know this is major surgery. I know everyone heals differently. And I know 4 weeks is the amount of time recommended to not lift heavy things. What I don't know is how long I will need to request off work. My average shift last 7-9 hours. I am constantly walking and walking quickly. I have to pick up everything customers/kids drop and throw. I sweep, mop, carry trays, wipe tables, carry supplies in and out of the restaurant, etc. I do not get a lunch break. I do not get to sit down if I'm tired. Let me please reiterate, I know everyone heals differently. I am just trying to get an idea. Anyone with similar work experience or just good advice, please write back. I'm so scared and excited!!! I would imagine mommies running around after kiddos probably have some great advice/experience. Please respond and thank you in advance!

Hey Ladybug! I want to go to Mexico too. Who was your surgeon? How was your procedure? Details please please! I think I'm going to shoot for January because it's the slowest month in our industry and I can probably take a few weeks off without too many raised eyebrows. Thanks for your response!

Yes I was trying to keep the surgery private, but maybe I should just fess up and see what happens. OR have my gallbladder taken out and use that as an excuse...I've been reading lots of sleeve blogs and recovery stories and many of them seem to include gallbladder surgery in the 3-4 mos after surgery. Maybe I could kill two birds with one stone(ha) and have a doctors excuse. I'm a very private person and my weight issues are painful to talk about to anyone other than my SO and therapist.