So I have this problem I have lost 82 lbs since having my surgery a year ago almost to date. My wife has gained half of everything I have lost. With this she has grown distant, doesn't want much of anything to do with me let alone sexually. She has never been much of an affectionate person but still she would have sex at least once a month. It's been like 3 so what should I do she told me it is my problem figure it out went to a psychiatrist and she was telling me the opposite did couples counseling and that was a joke. Anyone else have this problem with there spouse resenting them for losing weight and basically stopped caring anything about them? :tongue2: