Thanks so much for these posts!!!!!! I honestly am crying right now because all of you understand what I am thinking . I am so worried about my fiancé after the surgery. Not because he wont support me....not because we have a great equal relationship, but for the reason that he is overweight, unhealthy ( physically) and we have a life AROUND food, and have since day one. I am scared, but if he not on purpose sabotages me, I will have to end it, I guess. I don't know.? :-(