Peanutbutterlady

Hi everyone, I'm new here and found you guys while doing my non stop research. I'm from just outside Boston but I'm going to L.A. For my surgery on Oct 1st. I'm so excited but a little down at the same time because the only two women in my life (best friends) I can't share this with. Can't call up and say "oh my gawd this is really happening I'm so excited"! I can't do the normal celebrating conversations sister friends do. My mum just passed from cancer so it makes it even harder because at least when she was here I knew I could always call her to get her "worried support". My husband supports me but not in the girly excited or worried way. He is quiet and barely talks about it at all. I trie sharing with one friend and she said NO NO WAY DONT DO IT! I mean she didn't even ask me if I had already made up my mind she just went by her own opinion based on someone she knew who had it and must of complained to her about something. The other best friend can't hold water and her family are the last people I want knowing my personal business such as this so I've chosen to not tell her at all. Shes in another state so she won't know by seeing me anyway. Sorry for rambling but I just want to talk to people who understand and are excited also.

You look great! I can't wait to be healthy again well pain free! I'll take teddy bear skin over pain any day ????

With your rude self! No one can understand that mess. Wth?! Girl you don't need WLS you need a shrink! I thought this was a positive site but this is the second troll or nut job I've read leaving nonsensical mess! How the hell are you rebuking demons and acting like one at the same time? Yeah that sounds about right. Confusion and delusional! To everyone else I suggest not even giving stats like this you attention check things twice before responding. That's time you could be spending on people who really care and understand what you're saying. Look how many negative responses were given (well the few I could tolerate reading) this person is looking for negative attention. Done with this mess.

I don't think this is a real sleever none of the post makes sense. Then her profile says "lap band" group. Yet they speak on the sleeve? I call troll. Just sayin

I overstand your worries, from what ive seen weight training is the best to help skim along the way. Without that we lose muscles when our body feels its going into starvation mode. Then it feeds off our muscles. Im trying to build them now and will do more as i can. Praying for all of us and our best health! Positive thoughts...

You said it Shelly! I agree and both you an scarlet are right people can get weird about how one loses weight. I mean who gives a damn how you do it?! Just do it for health sake. I think some people would rather stay beating themselves up because they keep failing the next diet plan. Me personally I don't have that kind of fight in me anymore. I just want to feel better when I walk. I'd like to take up jogging if at all possible. I think we do sometimes lose some friends when change happens. I chalk it up as seasonal changes... Michelle that is so awesome your dad is taking this journey with you wow what a gift to be able to share that. I miss my mum so much wish we would've tried this when' she was still here. As for your questions, no sorry I don't know anything about any of that.

I agree Shelly, that's exactly what I'm doing and pushed my surgery date back a month so I well prepared. Having a stomach ache makes one tired. I can only imagine surgery on it making me even more fatigued. Thank you for your support! My best friend that said NO! wouldn't even talk about it when I tried bringing it up again. So whatever, I guess I won't be visiting her while I'm in L.A. This time around.

Oct 1st! Heading to L.A!

Hi Joymarie, That's sounds like your insurance is just being a stickler. I'm going to west medical also and had no problems at all. A friend of mine referred me and had none either. I'm doing all my pre op in my home city. I will say that I've been extremely active in every step. I informed my pc and she agreed I was a good candidate. Once I heard that I was calling all parties to get things faxed over to each other and making phone calls. West medical have been amazing and were, equally happy with how active I was in making sure everything went as smooth as possible. That's just me I have to know what's going on every step of the way. I'm thinking it's a little ocd, lol! But heck I need to know because I have children I want to keep living for. I have bcbs and they only require 1 month before surgery but I decided to wait 3 so I can take my time preparing everything. I hope your insurance gets it together for you. Maybe you primary care doc didn't send something?

Thank you scarlet! That's exactly how I feel... Wow that's really great Michelle! I'm kinda looking forward to going to Cali I need some of those beaches in my life right now. I'm going with my husband and we haven't had a honeymoon or vacation since we got married. As soon as we got married my mum was diagnosed and we took her in to care for her. So this will be our time to enjoy ourselves for a little bit. We're going 4-5 days ahead of the surgery. I'm on my phone now and the site looks different so when I figure it our in my pad I would love to inbox my number to those of you closer to me! I'm not afraid to meet up one day either! We can maybe do a girls day of sharing tips, foods, vitamins etc...

My previous pc doc would just keep reminding me how how big I was getting! I'm like yeah no da! I've struggles trying to lose the weight for the last 10 yrs. But she never saw fit to listen to my concerns so I stopped making appointments with her. My mum passed from cancer 2 yrs ago and she just wanted me to take better care of myself. So it was a blessing that my pc left and I got a great new one. She listens and walks me through everything she orders. I love her! I'm 120 over weight if I lose 80 I'll be happy 100 even better! My legs can't take the pain and my veins are starting to try and pop out. But anyway that will soon be in the past!

Thank you ladies so much for your responses! I'd love to keep in touch and or connect. I'm still figuring this site out so my response may be slow. I'm heading to L.A. because I found a great doctor through a friend, and he honors my insurance time of one month before surgery. I've been working and researching for two yrs now and I'm just ready to move forward. My pc doctor wasn't a listener so she never supported my thoughts on the surgery. She left and my new pc doc agreed right away! So I figure why not have a little Vaca while I'm at it. My surgery day is Oct 1st! I'm so frikkin EXCITED!!! LOL.

Me too! Now it would be just as exciting if I could figure out how to respond to everyone on my post! ????

Oh goodness ok so I reply down here? :/ smh

thank you so much for that welcome. I'm so thankful for people with understanding. Your husband sounds like mine he quietly worries. Yes, that's what I'm trying to do now, take care of me. After watching my mum suffer and die I realized I don't have the luxury of not taking care of myself any more. She was still here when I started my research and talking to my doctor, and she always told me "please lose the weight" . She wasn't being mean she was concerned and then she ultimately passed away from not doing that for herself. I'm almost in tears just thinking about everything. I'm sorry if I'm typing slow again please be patient. I'll do my best to respond. I'm so happy for all of you who are on this journey also! I can't put into words what it means to know I'm not alone in feeling nervous etc...

ok so to reply I click quote, right? Thanks you both for the welcome, and to answer your question. I'm going to L.A. because what I've found here is doctors won't honor my insurance one month requirement. I've been looking into this for two yrs and spoke to my doctor several times about it. She wanted me to go see a Nut for a yr, and then decide. I'm gonna post this to see if I'm doing it right before I keep typing.