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@@Amylou I'm in a similar boat. I'm eight months out and 32 pounds from goal. If it helps, my surgeon told me at six months the last pounds will come off really slowly. I asked if 40 pounds by one year would be doable. He said yes, but I'd REALLY have to have my game face on. Challenge accepted! I've lost 10 pounds since then, but I'm currently stalled. I think you're getting really good advice on this thread. Definitely change it up. Your calorie count sounds like it's on the low side, so maybe increasing would work. Personally, I've noticed in the last few days that my workout regimen has gotten stale. I'm planning to challenge myself more and see what happens. Good luck to you! We've got this!!

I don't have PCOS, but I can tell you it's normal to see changes in your period after surgery. It really throws your hormones for a loop!

I learned how safe the surgery actually is and decided I didn't want to die early. Simple as that!

If you can avoid last meal syndrome, I definitely recommend doing that. You'll already have some healthy habits down and may have less to lose after surgery. That being said, I personally did not follow that same advice. I had about a three week period in which I enjoyed many last meals. I'm eight months out from RNY now and down more than 90 pounds. The tool helped me focus and cultivate and maintain good habits in a way I wasn't before. The most important thing is that you put your game face on after surgery, fully dedicate yourself and (perhaps literally) work your butt off.

I've generally kept a small inner circle and none of those relationships have changed. However, I now seem to have a lot more casual friends/acquaintances. I've been feeling much more confident and have, therefore, been friendlier and more outgoing. I would like to make more friends. Sometimes I find it difficult to cross over from, say, friend at work mode to hanging out outside of work mode. I think the issue is mostly due to scheduling. I have a new boyfriend I'm spending a good deal of time with. I also exercise nearly every day, so it's often 8 p.m. by the time I get done, shower, and make myself presentable. I also have two dogs at home and I want to be able to hang out with them. It can be hard to juggle everything, but the desire to be more social is definitely there!

This is a fantastic list! I'm eight months out, so I know most of this stuff, but it still helped me to read it today. I realized my workout routine isn't challenging me enough. This gave me the little boost I needed to step up my game.

I think this is another instance in which we can "use our words." Letting someone know whether you want advice or just need to vent is a good idea both online and in real life.Some people need to state what kind of advice, though. Coddling? Straight forward? Permissive? Fuzzy? At least I'd know when to skip a post without even opening it. This is true! I generally think "asking for advice" only because you want people to say it's ok to do the not-advised thing you want to do is ridiculous. However, sometimes people have legit reasons for being extra sensitive about particular topics (e.g., They've historically felt a great deal of shame about the subject and have been very, very hard on themselves as a result). I find it helpful to know that so that I can take extra care to be tactful, without holding back the truth, of course. Just my $0.02.

I think this is another instance in which we can "use our words." Letting someone know whether you want advice or just need to vent is a good idea both online and in real life.

That's not what the scale told me this morning!! You got me. Should have said you don't poop out your excess fat.

Can I add that you don't poop out your excess weight?

@@roxy0508 Does it make any difference for you whether it's bottled Water or from the tap? I can't stand water from the tap now. I buy bottled water by the case. If it helps, my surgeon told me I needed 48 to 64 oz of Fluid a day to stay hydrated. I was able to get pretty close to that lower limit shortly after surgery. It was months before I started getting closer to 64. Good luck!!

Both critical of your previous weight and misogynistic. That's a winner.

I'm definitely looking forward to that!

Yes, you can. 30 grams in an hour is the upper limit that I was given. Aim for no more than 20-30 grams in one hour. If you make a shake with more than 30 grams, then divide it into 1/2 or 1/3 and spread it out over several hours. You're right. Thanks for clarifying. I'm many months out so the thought of spreading a protein shake out over several hours doesn't really occur to me so much anymore.

My nut told me that the body can only absorb 30 g of protein at once.

My thinking is why is she telling you that you HAVE to do anything? Whether you decide to abstain for the rest of your life or eventually have things in moderation is totally up to you. I've seen people be successful with both approaches.

I ate too many Quest bars and burned out on them. I think Premier Protein bars are pretty decent for 30g of protein each.

You've hit the nail right on the head. That's why it makes me feel weird. It makes me feel like I was some kind of freak of nature before. You're right that there's no other way to take it than to know the majority of people mean well. It's just nice to have folks here who understand.

Ugh! Sounds like you're getting some rude comments and questions. I'm not getting them so much, but I've reached some threshold where suddenly I'm getting at least five comments a day on how much I've lost. I know this sounds kind of first world problemish, but it's....weird. I'm ready for how I am to just be the new normal and not garner so much attention.

I definitely agree with the spirit of the OP's post. I will say the recommendations sound a bit high. I've never heard anyone say before that 80g of Protein was their surgeon's recommended minimum. I most often hear 60 g per day. Re: Water, my surgeon said 48-64 oz. I can certainly understand the struggles of anyone shortly after surgery finding it virtually impossible to meet 60 g a day. I personally could not for the first few weeks, but I tried really hard. I ate/drank only the most protein-dense stuff I could find and drank water exclusively. I probably averaged about 45 g a day. I just kept working at it each day and by two months out, I was consistently getting 60 g a day. It also took me about the same amount of time to move from barely reaching 48 oz of Fluid a day to reaching 64 oz. I'm eight months out, I've not been a slow loser and haven't stalled since the dreaded third-week stall. So, to those newly post-op, do your best. It will work out.

I am so sorry to hear you're going through this. I really don't like that he's saying you played a part in this. Without knowing all the specifics, I think that sounds really unfair. You don't deserve to be blamed for him hurting you! And this is super effed up timing on his part. It is vitally important that you concentrate on yourself and your health right now. So please take good care of yourself and consider getting your own therapist outside of the marriage counseling. I think it would be great to have someone concerned solely with your wellbeing.

Girl. You are singing the song of my people. This is different, but I think you'll appreciate my rant of the day. I cross the same big intersection every day on the way to work. The light is only green for a very short period of time. If people have their $hit together, you can get maybe 10 cars through. But invariably, some idiot in front of me is looking at their phone or staring off into space and when they finally realize "omg, the light is green, look at that," they have just enough time to slip though, but I don't. Infuriating.

Interesting info from the NYT: http://nyti.ms/24syPBx TL;DR=We're all screwed.

This makes me really curious about whether WLS patients have the same kind of metabolic rate decreases, how much and what accounts for any difference between them and people who lose weight other ways?

I'm seven months out from RNY and am starting to date again (I took a break after the end of a nearly three-year relationship). I had a very successful first date with a guy who's smart, funny and hot. We have plans to see each other again soon. So it got me thinking about when I should tell him I've had WLS. For me, it's a pretty personal thing that I don't typically divulge to people shortly after I meet them. I would certainly not keep it a secret forever either. If we decide to become intimate, he will see my scars. I have very fair skin and my scars haven't faded much yet. I am hoping at first to simply say I've had abdominal surgery and that maybe I'll tell him more about it one day. So, those of you who are more experienced, how have you handled this?