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I don't know for sure, but I think they can work around it if it's not that bad, but you should mention it to your nurse at checkin so they know what to expect. Pretty sure you can't wear tampons either but not 100% sure. The idea of getting my period at surgery time has me totally freaked out. I'm weaning my baby right now and haven't had my period come back yet and I'm going to have surgery in Oct but I have no idea when to plan on since I don't have a reference point.

I felt better after I talked to my NUT today. We have a really good open friendship thing going on right now and she told me not to worry about him and that basically he's just an arrogant A-hole who power trips on feeling superior to people. She said he'll be approving for sure. She said basically if he doesn't approve someone he better be able to prove a good enough reason, because that's his job to get people qualified. She got a big kick out of me retelling her the tale though. I feel better too! and in good news, I'm officially down a total of 22lbs! so I am good with that!

I picked the roux en y because of it's track record. I've seen lots of people get the sleeve and then fall back into their old ways because "they can eat more normal" and end up getting a revision to bypass later because they couldn't make it work doing that. The way I see it, I only want to have to go through surgery ONCE. The other thing is that sleeve isn't less invasive. You are cutting out that entire side of the stomach. You can't undo it. In the roux en y, they don't cut that stomach out just separate it from the pouch so, it's still there if you do have complications, it isn't impossible to reverse the whole procedure-although one shouldn't consider reversing it because it won't be exactly the same afterwards, but if you develop some adverse effect being able to reverse it seems a lot less risky than cutting it out entirely. Plus generally, the rny has better Weightloss although the sleeve still has a dramatic Weightloss, it's purely restrictive and can be defeated easier than the bypass. Eat sugar risk dumping. Eat greasy food you'll regret it, because that's going straight out your backend. These kinds of "motivators" are enough to keep me honest and not even try to test it out. With the sleeve, I'm sure I'd be back to my sugar addiction probably within 6 months and my love of everything big n greasy in the first year. Just something to think about.

Thanks for the word of encouragement it was definitely stressful to me. The questionnaire left me feeling a bit insulted too because it would ask a few normal questions then throw in something like "are you lying during the questionnaire?" Or repeating the same questions over and over. I know they are trying to "weed those people out" but I dunno, I don't think too much of the whole process and for $300 I could have done something a lot more useful to reaching my goal like bought a cheap bike or something. In hindsight, probably wasn't as bad as I imagine it was, but ugh, I felt like crap all night just playing it over and over again! But haven't slipped. I'm getting up right now 6:00am for my morning walk before NUT appt #2 so I'm almost done! 45 days til we submit.

Congratulations sweetie! I hope you had an easy recovery! I misread it the first time and thought it was today! ????it's been that kind day for me! Sounds like you are off to a good start! Yay!

beyond here, I found a lot of information on YouTube, I googled rny so much I type the letter R and it autofills now! Haha and I even read a few books like Weightloss surgery for Dummies and a few others. My best resource though is a friend of mine who has been through it and tells it like it is without sugar coating things. Where in Kentucky are you from? I grew up across the Ohio River in Evansville, but my family all came from Kentucky.

I've tried the Quest bars once-a cookies and cream, and it was so disgusting I wanted to puke and I am pre-op! I have a very sensitive palate, but wow those are b-a-d! My kids won't even eat them and they eat everything! I'm really enjoying the Pure Protein bars. There's anywhere from 20-23 grams of protein per bar and relatively low sugar although the sugar alcohol in the one I had today was 8g! They taste good though. I usually have one for breakfast each morning.

You can find protein powders and supplements that don't have any artificial sweeteners in them. A lot of "health gurus" have touted the protein isolate for decades to supplement our western diets and they seem to all still be alive and kicking it, so I figure if they can do it, I can too. As far as all the other sugar free junk like puddings and drinks, I don't plan to do those any longer than I have to and even then it won't be aspartame because it gives me migraines. I think my chances are better than doing nothing.

I wish I had gotten my bypass when I was in my early 20's I looked into it, but I totally didn't want to give up soda and my emotional comfort and like you, I didn't have any co morbidities and the idea of cutting up "perfectly good stomach and intestines" when my only problem was that I needed to lose weight seemed crazy! My family wasn't supportive so I was going to be doing it all on my own anyway so it seemed pointless. I wasn't going to make the permanent changes I needed to be successful because I didn't want to yet. Fast forward to today, I have really bad knees, my back is in constant pain, I'm over 150lbs heavier than I was back then, and I've nearly lost 2 babies from weight related complications during birth. I can't say this enough. Do it now before the other things set in. Diabetes will come. I don't have it yet, but I had gestational diabetes and lemme tell ya, I don't ever want to check my blood sugar that many times a day for the rest of my life! Do it now before you have regrets at my age (38). I can't get back my wasted years. I wish I could, but they are gone forever.

I should be finished with my requirements and submit on Oct 5th, so if all goes well, I should have a surgery date by the end of Oct. my surgeon doesn't give out dates til the insurance has approved since it's a small practice and he only does surgeries on Tues. at my hospital. The rest of the week he works for Kaiser Permanente.

I wonder if you are doing too much and not getting enough protein. 60 grams seems kinda low to me for walking that much. Post op I've heard we need anywhere from 70-90 depending on sources-I am pre op so I can't say for sure what it takes to be successful in any way shape or form, so keep that in mind. Maybe try adding in more protein? Like maybe a shake or smoothie? If you don't take in enough, your body will perceive it is starving and refuse to lose more weight than it has to, to survive. I would definitely talk to your NUT about this and if they aren't taking your needs seriously, maybe find someone else independent of the office to seek a second opinion on what to do. My insurance doesn't cover my NUT of choice so I have to pay for her out of pocket each visit, but I consider her advice to be extremely reliable so it's worth the $150/hr to have her.

How scary! So glad you caught it in time! I hope you feel better and have a speedy and uneventful recovery from here on out!

Whoo hoo! Way to go!

My "last straw" was a lot of things all piled up. The first being that I nearly lost my 6th child during childbirth, because my body couldn't handle the stress of being so heavy and going through ANOTHER pregnancy. My heart rate dropped suddenly and my OB informed me if she did an emergency Csection we would both die and if she did nothing at the very least the baby would die. After a lot of begging and screaming for help, she came up with forced dilation and manually ripping my baby girl out of me. My weight nearly cost her her life and I was the only one responsible for that. She lived and is perfectly fine, but that guilt really took a toll on me and the antidepressants to make it "ok" enough to get through my days, took it's toll and I gained another 100lbs on top of what I already had within literally 6 months. Then one day quite by random I stepped on the bathroom scale and it went over 400lbs. I cried myself to sleep for weeks. I started investigating wls again because I wasn't ready in my 20's but no food was more important than my kids are to me. Before I got far we ended up accidentally pregnant(essure failed) so I was pregnant again and terrified since I nearly killed my other baby with my weight and here I was over 100+lbs more and with a damaged cervix from the other birth to boot! I ended up with gestational diabetes and informed that within 5 yrs most people develop full on diabetes. Around this time my uncle died from diabetes and heart disease related illness and then my water broke 2 months early and I was in a similar position of body wasn't up to labor and it took 2 days to get my labor started and no doctor in the hospital wanted to touch me to do a csection because they said at my weight it was blind stabbing in the dark. They didn't know what to do so they kept pumping me with more and more calicium infused pitocin til eventually we were at the "death hour" the moment when they had to do something because the baby was suffering from the infection I developed and my labor wasn't progressing so we were going to get sent to another hospital and their "obesity team" we're going to try to wing it to open me up with my OB to get the baby out. Luckily for me, he decided to come out on his own 15 mins before they were getting ready to load us up for what was sure to be his and my death. When I got home from the hospital, I looked into wls online but I couldn't do anything because I needed to nurse my baby. He was very weak in the first few months and he needed that from me. So I tried dieting on my own and when he turned 1 in June, I decided to get started. The guilt that my weight has nearly cost me 2 children is something that will keep me motivated always.

Wow, somehow I didn't get any notifications of these replies! It's really weird to me how incredibly different everyone's pre op is! I'll be in the office tomorrow getting my psych eval anyway, so might just pop around the desk and ask if there's anything I can/should do early. I want to streamline as much as I can, because I've got 7 kiddos to consider and work around so things like sleep studies could be harder for me to arrange than just getting a date and going, so if it HAS to be done, I'd like to work on scheduling that baby now instead of trying to scramble 9 schedules to accommodate. As far as being ready for submitting, I've got appt #2 at the NUT this Wed and then 45 days later is my last of the 90 days and we can submit to insurance. I still want to try to lose another 20lbs before surgery(my next 45 day goal) so I'll be going in 40lbs lighter than my starting weight. God willing!

Yay for you! It's really starting to get real isn't it? I have my second of 3 appts with my NUT on Wed and my makeup rescheduled date for the psych tomorrow(he called in sick last time I was scheduled) and I am flippin' excited to be heading towards the submit line too!

I know! It was better than any TV I've seen in years! ????

My thought is that you should keep going to lunch with her, but just don't say anything unless maybe she asks you outright. I wouldn't want you to lie to her, but you don't owe her an apology or an explanation on why you don't eat your whole lunch. It's not her business. I've decided that beyond my husband, our kids, my best friend in the whole world and a couple of friends who have had rny surgery themselves, I don't plan on telling anyone. I thought about it both ways and I really don't see any good out of giving the gossip hounds any chance to have a reason to smirk and laugh and just be nasty. They can guess all they want, but they don't need to know.

I've been told that whey protein isolate is easier for our bodies to absorb the protein from, which is why I just buy the cans of weight protein powder at Whole Foods or Sprouts Market(flavored usually). They also don't have that slimey taste that Pure Protein brand premade shakes have. I haven't tried premier protein, but I might pick some up when I go to Costco this week!

That's what went through my mind too! LOL

@@Katy Walton a trainer is awesome especially in the beginning to help start a routine and hold you accountable, and help to make sure you are working all your areas and not just your fav spots(I'm guilty of doing exercises because I like them and not doing the ones I hate). You can do it, you just have to believe in yourself! I'm not trying to down you, I think you are doing a GREAT thing, but I remember when I was in my early 20's looking into gastric bypass at the advice of my doctor, but I wasn't ready to do everything that is involved for long term success. I didn't want to make those hard changes and I didn't have any support behind me to cheer me on when I needed it. I thought I'd have surgery, exercise for maybe a year and then go back to my "normal" life. When someone told me that if I didn't make the change for life I was going to fail, I bailed. I don't want people to make that same mistake I did. Embrace the changes as they come and be happy later on. I can't get back my list years unfortunately.

A lot of people have already said it, but I'll just parrot that and say Do Your Research! You are the one who has to live with your body and you need to know what wls will and will not do. It is not a miracle cure. It takes a lot of effort and work and if you can't exercise NOW because of your schedule, where are you going to find the time after surgery to do it? Surgery isn't a cure, it's just a tool to help you out, more so in the beginning but somewhat forever. If you don't do it properly, you could possibly have gone through major surgery, changed the way your body functions FOR LIFE, and still end up overweight because you didn't change your life to support a healthier lifestyle. I'm working right now to make me the best me I can and lose as much weight on my own and incorporate as much exercise as I can NOW before wls so that I can maximize my benefits and get myself into a routine that hopefully will stick for life so I can keep the weight off. If that's not your mindset, it's not going to work long term and you'll be back where you are right now in a few years. I don't want to discourage you, but I want you to fully understand what you are doing and make that commitment to yourself to see it through from start to forever because there is not a "finish" there's lower maintenance but never a finish. You can never say ah I reached my goal so now I'm going back to my old lifestyle and my fav foods that got me to this point. It just won't work.

Have you tried using a body pillow to prop you on your side? I am a total tummy sleeper as well, but when I was pregnant my doctors always kept reminding me not to sleep on my stomachZ the only way I could manage to not fully sleep on my stomach even at the end was to use a body pillow and roll into it for support. It worked though. I actually plan on taking my body pillow with me to the hospital when I have surgery for the extra support and comfort.

Congratulations! I hope when I get to submit that they are that fast with mine!

I have Aetna as well and I don't think just gaining 15lbs will qualify you. They want a minimum of 2 yrs worth of medical records showing a recorded weight and BMI over 40. I'm pretty sure just gaining 15lbs won't help you unless you plan to hang on to it and go to the doctor for the next say 6 months or so before starting the process even. I'd talk to your PCP. They could do a thorough work up and maybe find you some comorbidities. I understand that even something like stress urinary incontinence can count as a comorbidity so, it's worth a try to do that instead of putting on more weight to struggle with.