Sony09

I changed it all because waiting after the surgery would most likely be a nightmare, like being the surgeon and not ever going to med school. Learning as you go is too much stress and this is a serious surgery. I even did a mock post op of 3 days w/o solid foods, it's what you would have to do newly post op. It took me 3x to be able to go three days on a freshly RNY post op life... that was the last lesson for the "for life" signaling to me "I can do this!" That was what I did and YTD I am glad I did it. No rushing through pre-op training and being honest about this being for a life time made the difference for me.

Blogs and video journeys online that give you something. It's not the same as sharing face to face but it's something. You can start venturing out of the house, even if it's just going to the mall and sitting on the bench watching people walk by. Journaling, really now, now can help to keep track of how you are feeling and dealing.... coping with your change. People get so weirder about you not being the obese person... they see you improving the quality of your life which makes them have to reevaluate their selves... scarier and it will emphasis their fears, this a type of retaliation to you. Try to stay clear of all that you can. Your expectation for you is one thing and theirs are different. I'm there now too for people I work with and family members. Do not slide back and gain to make them feel better. Be you and take it one step at a time. Hope this helps, and remember to feel instead of using foo skills gather no dust nor make you gain. These are things to do if you a support group in person, and or maybe some one medical to talk too, but better if they understand Bariatric life and changes face by bariatric people like you. Best wishes too.

Thank you for this read! Once again I needed to read and reflect and glad that shared. I thought people wanted and needed help gain better quality of, so I did it; WLS. Thinking that leading by example... it worked for me but not them.... resentful = yes they are. Too bad, dang. I learned so much a long way way and ready to share it all. But as they say; "you can lead a horse to Water but you cannot make them drink it." I shut my mouth and only if they ask... it works better for me and I just deal with it... more these days since pre op just ate things away. Not anymore!

Glad to hear these FYI. I get it. I'm almost 3 year post op and stuff keeps getting more weird. People freaking out since I'm not obese anymore. My bra size is less than my 6th size and a lot smaller than a today's 4th grader. I'm learning (still) to cope with peoples reactions to change. Some days are better than others and I am continuing on and just being the best that I can be. If they can't deal... tough. I started my journey to improve myself, but downing myself for them to feel better about their self.. NFW! RNY b 2013; HW 297, SW 252, and today 117.

Been out here for awhile; post op Feb 27 2013.

Soon it's 2016 and next year I'll be 56. Almost three years out, Feb 2016 will be 3 years post op for RNY. I am still below goal.... my choice. Pains are a way of letting us know we live and we still feel and some times we just need to see the doctor. Some time that's as good as it gets. I try to search alternative food types including adding different nutrients that help with physical pain, exercises, and meditation types, and don't for get your daily Bariatric style Vitamins. Most of the things I've tried help, but there is no perfect solution and no perfect remedy. WLS; this is a tool not a fix it or a one step solution to obesity morbid or otherwise. It's here to help us mange and improve our lives with the best that we can. Remember to read your food labels, check out the ingredients you're eating and drinking... some of those things can aggravate your condition or have been causing you extra pain with out knowing it because of what's in the recipe and used to make it. Best wishes and feel better soon.

Glad to read you are getting surgery. Success is waiting for you too.

Hello! I am 55! I had RNY in 2013. I feel renewed! I am so glad that I did this. No more GERD, no more HBP, no more high cholesterol, a lot less sleep apnea, no more insulin for Type 2 (allergic to the pills), no more scary meds(read those MSDS folks),I can tie my own shoes, cross my legs, and the energy is wonderful to say the least of reclaiming life. The best thing I take away is the results and the knowledge gained. I was morbidly (BMI +50) too long and it did rob me of not just doing physical fun things. Not any more!

Sorry to read about your difficulties, but this web site is full of answers to your questions. First off, see and or call for advice from your Bariatric department, you'll never now if it is really something more than just trying to eat or drink. Never forget that this is a life changing event and there are steps to learn and follow for the rest of your life. The more knowledge you have the better managing post op. 3 weeks post op... still trying to learn how to sip and eat with your altered insides= try using a tiny cocktail spoon or baby spoon for both eating and drinking. This will allow you to control the amount of food and liquids going in, and if it is just retraining on how-to" with post op WLS your should get relief and keep things down. I did this freshly post op and was really surprised to note the difference pre op and post op getting the nutrients in. It is all about fueling your body and not just pleasing your tastes buds. "Food" gets a different meaning and use post op... it's just for living.

Practice what you learned from pre op training, and review it all. Stalling can occur by introducing too much from the before life than managing the post op WLS life now. Usually since healing phase is pretty much done, solid foods are more the list of things we eat with flavored liquids and familiar solid foods, "sliding foods" and portion sizes still need measuring. Vitamins daily, water daily, exercising and foods more from the Bariatric food list should help break your stall. If you need flavor to your water, what I do, add a few teaspoon of lime or lemon juice... you can add some zero calorie sweetener but I skip the sweeteners.

I had 2 C-sections at 14 months apart.. It was the worst pain; it was definitely worse. Post op WLS-RNY and goal weight... eventually I found my C-section scars. The WLS was a breeze by comparison. I was well prepared for WLS, both physically and emotionally, so I think that helped. My surgeon was magnificent... For along time I even questioned; did I have surgery? No pain post op and even no bruising! Oh, but I did have five tiny band aides from the port sites: laparoscopic WLS.