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Hi everyone, I’m in need of a lower body lift with bbl, breast lift with implants, back lift, and eventually a lower face lift. I’m so overwhelmed trying to find a surgeon or narrow my choices. I have had a consultation with Dra. Cardenas in TJ but I was a little surprised by the pricing. I was quoted 13,500 for lower, 13,000 for upper, and 12,500 for lower face lift. I live in CA, I’m not opposed to travel but I would like a few more quotes before I make my choice. Can anyone recommend a surgeon that specializes in after weight loss lower body lifts? Any feedback regarding Dra Cardenas?

I’m in Northern Ca. Who did you use in Sacramento?

Thank you so much for the information

I’m not far from you, can you tell me what Dr you went with? You can pm me if you would like. Thanks!

Hi Jenny, can you tell me who did your lower body lift?

Has anyone else used Dr Cardenas?

I’m also looking at her for a lower lift, she charges 11,500

Hi everyone, I need a safe place to rant and get advice and opinions. Feel free to be honest! I’m posting here because I need to do some head work around this situation so that I don’t eat my way through it. Here is goes....I thought my sister in law and I are close, there is an age gap but she has been my side kick since she was 7 and she’s now 28 (I’m 43) she was in our wedding as a bridesmaid when she was 12, I do a lot for her (help with the baby, provide encouragement and advice, hang out with her because she’s home alone a lot) but I guess we’re not as close as I thought. She’s planning her wedding and apparently she has invited our other sister in law and her 3 soon to be sister in laws to be in the wedding but not me. My daughter is also a bridesmaid (23yrs old) and my niece (12 yrs old). We have a small family and literally everyone is in the wedding in some form other than me. My husband is officiating, my sons are ushers, daughter is a bridesmaid, brother in law is a groomsmen, sister in law is bridesmaid, and young niece is flower girl. Let me say that I’m assuming it’s the age difference but I’m fine with that, I just want her to address it with me like “hey I would like you to be a part of the wedding as well but......” she could have told me anything...that she knows I probably wouldn’t want to be a bridesmaid, that she thinks of me as more of a mom but would like me to sit with the mothers, anything to at least address it. She did invite me to go dress shopping but that was ruined because the prior weekend I made the mistake of bringing it up and it didn’t go well. I was very nice about it and felt like I handled it with tact. She went off of the rails on me and said that I’m selfish for trying to make her wedding about me. She uninvited me to go dress shopping, said that I’m cut out of her life, and hasn’t talked to me since. She’s now telling anyone who will listen that I’m mad at her because I’m not a bridesmaid and making up additional details that aren’t true and never happened. I know this because she talked to my daughter about it. I can’t forget the terrible things that she said to me in her ranting text to me, some of them were below the belt and so unnecessary for the situation. My husband was seriously pissed at her and now calls her bridezilla. He has talked and text with her briefly since this happened but nothing about what happened. No one has brought it up, everyone is just acting like nothing happened. No one is treating me differently other than the bride not talking to me. I guess that’s a good sign because it means that my husbands mom , brother and sister in law are not taking sides. I want to fix this but I feel like like we need a mediator. She and my other sister in law get into small arguments but my brother in law always steps in and fixes it. I’ve asked my husband to do the same or to even ask his brother advice on how he should navigate the situation but he hasn’t. I realized yesterday that’s I’m pissed at my husband for not doing something, for not sticking up for me. I’m confused by this entire situation. Should I have never have brought up that my feelings were hurt to her? Should I be upset that my husband hasn’t called her out for saying mean things to me? Why am i so hurt over this? Why is she spinning the story to make me sound like a selfish b***h? How do fix this so I don’t eat myself into a huge weight gain? Thank you all in advance for weighing in (pun intended lol)

Thank you! I needed to hear this today 😊

It probably is the age difference but she could have told me that, I would have understood. Really all that I wanted was for her to address the elephant in the room. Also we do have a party/drink together relationship and I was invited to the bachelorette party (obviously not anymore). Unfortunately she said such nasty things in response to me asking her a lot of damage has been done. I will never respond to her personal attack or below the belt blows nor will my husband, I know it’s her day and I’m sure it will be wonderful.

I guess I asked for honesty but saying that it’s not my business is a little harsh, my feelings were hurt as hers would have been if she wasn’t in my wedding. Maybe I shouldn’t have asked her about it but I also don’t think that it warranted being cut out her life and the verbal attack I received because I asked her about it. She’s my family so of course I value her and I really could care less about being a bridesmaid I just wanted her to address why I wasn’t. I would have been good with any excuse. My point is that the not knowing why probably would have damaged our relationship even if I wouldn’t have asked for a why.

Thank you for your insight, I’m going to get that book for sure. I’ve been thinking about it all day and I think I’ve come to the conclusion that I probably don’t want our relationship to go back to how it was, my husband pointed out that a lot of our close relationship was one-sided and he doesn’t think that she loves me the way she should. She mostly loves what I do for her. So I’ve decided not to apologize because she said several times in her text that I’m cut out of her life and although I’m sure wedding stress contributed to her strong reaction, it was too easy for her to go straight there. I think I will work on releasing hurt and blame from my end and aim for a polite relationship with her in the future when she’s ready to. If no apology from me also means no invitation to wedding I’m okay with that too. She told me in her text that I will give her wedding a weird vibe now lol! I think her aggressive text probably means that she doesn’t value our relationship so as much as I regret bringing up my hurt about being excluded I think it shed some light on how she truly feels about me. Thank you again for your advice and insight.

Sorry to hear about your situation. Regarding the first comment, do you mean the part about writing an apology letter to her? I’m trying wrap my head around it but I’m not sure I can do it after her behavior.

I’m 4 years out and have been at goal weight for 3. I am smaller than she is by quite a bit but so is my daughter so I’m not sure if that could be it. I agree though I had heard what wedding do but never experienced it before.

@darcyjaethank you for your honest words I will suck it up and let it go but I don’t think I can muster up an apology to her. I was kind to her and she said terrible things to me. I know she would have asked why she wasn’t included if the tables were turned but me asking her was out of character. I appreciate your advice.

Hi @ms.sss I definitely don’t have as much restriction as before but I still can’t consume as much as pre-surgery (thank goodness). Especially when it comes to dense food like chicken or steak. I max out on those at 2.5-3oz. I can’t seem to figure out how to reply to a specific comment in this thread lol! Help please

Im having trouble posting in here for some reason so sorry if this is posted incorrectly. I’ve been in maintenance for 4 yrs, I’m 5’2”, I feel the best in the 113-115lb range. I try to stay between 1000-1300 calories/day. Good to see some other maintenance people at my height, it makes for good comparison. I think a lot of my restriction is gone at this point so it’s a daily struggle to stay on point.

I’m also 4 yrs out and maintain in 1000-1300 cal. Anything over that and it’s a gain for sure.

Did TPN make you nauseous?

How did TPN go for you? They want me to start it. How are you doing now?

How are you doing?

How long was your feeding tube in?

Btw they are doing a picc line

I'm not sure how to pm. My symptoms are very similar to the stomach flu. Nausea, dry heaves, lethargic, and tmi, but now that I'm trying phenergen suppositories, diarreah. I don't think I can last 3 months how can I get my surgeon to try what they did for you?

I'm having very similar problems I have spent most of my time post op in the hospital. I'm 5 weeks out and so nauseous that I feel like I have a permanent stomach flu. They are going to try TPN. How did TPN work out for you? Unfortunately my surgeon thinks it's psychological because after 6000 surgeries he hasn't seen this before. Does anyone have any advise?