Pillar2butterfly

@IJustWant2BeALoser Welcome! There is no right or wrong answer as to who should you tell. We all are different. I personally only told my husband, kids, and best friend....and all were supportive. I've since told all those that have asked...if they just say "you look great" and don't ask, i just say "thanks, I feel great!" Only you can answer who should you tell. We have all heard the stories like you mention....don't let it discourage you. We are all here for you....

Praying for you....please keep us posted when you can.

We all know LUCK is not what makes this WLS a success....it's is a TON of hard work, surgery only removed most of our stomach. Daily motivation, and heaping helpings of willpower is what makes it work. Good for you for not lecturing them...it sounds like it would not do any good anyway.

Are you on blood thinner? When in doubt, call your doctor.

That is awesome! It feels like at first that time drags on, but it will be here sooner than you know it! Will they not remove the band and do the sleeve at the same time?

I only had the shots while in the hospital. I would say, if the doctor says you need them, you need them. I would ask about them again, but blood clots are not something that should be chanced.

I had 1/2 cup of Turkey Hill No Sugar Vanilla Ice cream. It is made with Splenda. I've only tried it once, not really having the cravings....just as a nice reward every now and then. I've not had any adverse effects, nor has it slowed down my weight loss. I'm careful to not over do it. TH Vanilla, has 0 fat, 6 net g sugars, 70 calories, 3 g Protein

Ugh...yep...I've heard it too from my own husband. I have to remind him often that I plan meals on Saturday for the entire week prior to grocery shopping. i ask for input from the whole family....I make what they want, within reason, and I eat what I can and if they are eating what i can't I eat something else. At times he complains that he wants what I am having...and I remind him "YOU picked the meal!" We had an disagreement one night because he said all I cared about was my own weight. (as he sat stuffing his face with potato chips) I have been trying to get the entire family to eat healthier...it's a struggle, one they are willing with words to endure, but when it comes down to it, when it is time to eat it...they all want the unhealthy meals...I'm not willing to shop again, so they are stuck with it. Pure lack of willpower, IMO. Once not long ago during an argument, he told me I was still fat, what good did the surgery do?....I told him if he EVER said that again, we would be separating. I also told him, "I won't be fat much longer, YOU are an ass...hold long will that last?" Granted, I love my husband, but I will NOT be ridiculed by him, ever! 99% of the time, he is supportive and encouraging and I couldn't be happier. The other 1% of the time, I want to smack him with a pan. What irks me is that he can eat chips, etc....beer etc...have only a Protein shake at lunch and he is down 14 lbs in one month...never exercises either. I struggle for every lost pound. I told him finally, you are either on board or not. I don't pressure him to live my WLS life, i don't inconvenience him. I agree with you...truth is spoken in jest....if it is thought and said, I can only imagine what is NOT being said. When he gets that way, it is his problem (speaking from my situation)...I just stop sharing things with him for a while. When he asks me about it, i just say "Oh, I didn't think you cared anymore."

I would call your doctor asap....could be any myriad of things....

I f****ing love them too...like having my nails ripped off the beds of delicate tissue beneath. If I never have to drink another one for the rest of my life, it would be a start to a fulfilled life. I've tried in times of necessity and self torture to drink one, but I can't drink more than 4 oz, then I'm hurling the container into the trash can....NO MATTER what kind. Oh and since we are talking football....I f***ing love the Eagles too...and they also suck ass this year.

I had no co-morbidites, and rarely went to the doctor. My total out of pocket for the surgery (including copays) was $2178...comparing to a previous year of only co-pays of less than $100. However, I was starting to notice my blood pressure creeping up and lack of energy, etc. Diabetes and heart disease runs in my family, so that would have been coming soon too. So while it didn't really save $ for me compared to the past, it sure did help my future.

Morningstar makes a great black bean veggie burger....I LOVE them! Use lettuce as a bun, with cheese, pickle, and a thin slice of tomato...yummy! My family loves them too, but they eat bread thins with them instead of using lettuce as the roll.

Report it to the police.

Don't quote me, but I hear you lose your booty too.

@glitterpockets....mean people really suck. I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I'd like to tell you that inner beauty is immeasurable by society's standards and self inflection by far the most important and only valid viewpoint. I can tell you to be confident and not care what anyone says to you or about you. But the reality is, that it is harder to do in real life. I could say that they should be happy for you and see the light in your eyes of the new healthier you coming out. Yes, I could say those things.... But reality is, mean people suck...they suck so bad I'd like to take a big "Suck it back at you" slap right to their inflated heads. You will never be able to please everyone. But here's the thing...you don't have to....the problem is theirs, not yours. This IS ABOUT YOU, and YOU are worth it. Even if they sometimes fail to see the worth in you. It is there. It sucks not to have your family as support and in your corner....I wish that pain were not there. But...we are here for you. I truly hope it gets better for you. Chin up....

Well...once you make the decision to pursue WLS, everything is super easy. I have no idea why you are having so many issues at all. No one else in the world has ever had these issues. **sympathetic smile** Now...I'll hit myself on the head with my own sarcastic crap bat...because it's crazy talk! Yep been there too.... I personally found the pre-op diets are entirely the hardest part. I didn't have to lose any prescribed weight before surgery, but the requirement was that I could not GAIN any weight. So I was terrified after getting my surgery date that I didn't cheat one single time. But it worked for me..the fear or working that long (6 months) to just blow it. Best advice I would give you is to commit and stick...just do it. AND you CAN do it...it may be one of the hardest things you will ever do, but you CAN do it. Chin up, you got this!!! It is NOT easy...but it is worth it. You are worth it

Congratulations! I wish I could like this post more than once!!!

I ate some about 7 weeks out...when I started reg diet.

LOL...I love wine, but it's doesn't really like me anymore. I'm not so kind to it as I used to be. If I were wine, I would be offended by me and hate me as well...since I neglect it so much. I spent the last 3 weekends at softball tournaments, freezing my rear end off...so I treated myself to a nice Lois Jadot white wine this Saturday, poured myself a nice 6 oz glass. Drank about 3 oz over period of an hour of it and went "Eck", I'm done...toss it out. Wine really hates my ass now. **edited becuz eye speled sum sh*t rong

I only have 4, but mine was done with the robotic arms...probably on the Millenium Falcon too, since afterwards I felt like I was in another world.

OMG...this thread made me laugh, which is so good on a Monday morning! " Her full name isn't for the faint at heart and is used on bad days (it rhymes)." Too funny! I'll have to come up with a name. LOL Good stuff!!!

No abuse necessary, you are doing a fine job of it yourself! However, stop it...stop abusing yourself. We all make mistakes, the difference here is you recognize your mistakes, and you are correcting them. Here is my 2 cent abuse to you: #1 We don't eat fast food anymore (we meaning me and my tummy) #2 We don't skip lunch and then think we are famished at dinner time #3 Why the hell did I eat in the car while I was distracted #4 Why did I eat it so fast #5 Am I a complete idiot for thinking my behavior was acceptable Regarding all the above, yep...you should stop doing these things...No you are not an idiot, but you also know already that way of thinking isn't acceptable. I totally understand the stressful job...I've got one too...I far short on the WLS journey occasionally too. I don't kick myself too much about it because my pouch does that job for me. I pay for it in with an angry pouch and slowed weigh loss. However, I pick myself up and move on to the next day and do better. We are not perfect. The WLS didn't cure us from old habits, it only reduced our stomach. It's up to us to fix the mental part You got this!

I am so sorry you are going through this. Like the others have said already, focus on you, you deserve a slimmer healthier you...be your own champion and coach in one! I know it sucks...but you will get through this.

Wow...prayers and hugs to you....thank you for sharing your story with us, and I wish you best of health and healing.

I really didn't think that is what they meant by this being a "support" board. Good luck in your funding...I personally don't give strangers money.