Ktprimo

OMG!! Your mother-in-law sounds like mine. You poor thing!

What time are you being sleeved on the 30th? I'll be at noon. Wish it was first thing in the morning so I wouldn't have too many hours awake to get more nervous. Shame I've gotta drive an hour and a half to get there and I can't sleep and go straight to the hospital when I wake up. I'm such a worrier....I'm actually worried about how worried I'll be. Hahaha Makes me feel better knowing so many others are having the surgery and have co-morbidities like me and are not worried. I trust my doctor...I just have a bad habit of preparing mentally for the worst and hoping/praying for the best.

That's not too bad for two weeks. I am a carb addict. I laughed when my doc asked me if a contributing factor to my weight gain was sweets. (This fat chick doesn't like cake! Haha) I am a bread and rice girl all the way. I'm thankful he's letting me enjoy them until the morning of the 29th. But oddly have no problem giving it up for good after. He said it's best that I try my best never to allow any carbs back into my diet after surgery other than occasional potatoes or cauliflower. He said he won't restrict me but highly advises against it even in my maintenance phase down the road. I am really ok with Protein and veggies for the rest of my life. Don't like fruit much so no loss there. But I do have a "texture" problem with yogurt, smoothies and pudding so I am a little worried about the pureed stage of post-op. That texture make me want to vomit. I'm praying I can get past the mental problem I have with it so I can make it through that phase ok. I am so jealous that you aren't nervous. I am holding it together ok right now but know I am gonna really lose it the day before surgery. Part of me is ready to get it over with so the anxiety can go away and the other wishes I would have given myself more time to prepare mentally. I'm not afraid of pain or giving up food. I'm afraid of surgery and anesthesia. If I could just make it through that day...I'll be ok.

I can't imagine losing her over this. We've been through so much together in the last 30 years. Her own sister had the surgery three years ago and she's seemed bitter about it but I didn't think she would have this reaction with me. I've been closer to her than her sister all this time. I know part of it is that she wants the surgery herself and can't afford to self-pay and her insurance won't cover it. Plus, I originally didn't want the surgery and have been advised to get it now to help with fibromyalgia pain and some major co-morbidities that will certainly take my life within the next 10 years. I just don't know how to fix this and I'm devastated. I really needed her by my side through this.

One day ahead of me! Yay! I see you are like me and setting smaller goals first which feel a bit more attainable. I personally feel afraid to set myself up to believe I can lose it all and then feel like a failure if I don't. I haven't weighed 215 since junior year in high school and I haven't weighed 199 since maybe my freshman year. (I'm 35 now so it's been a really long time) I can't imagine being that size again. I have a massive bone structure for a woman, so I am fearful of how I may look if I get too thin. Even my PCP suggested I aim for no lower than 175 to maintain optimal health. It puts me above my BMI goal on the chart but I suppose we will see how it goes if I get there and decide losing a bit more won't hurt. I'd be so happy to keep up with you and hear how your journey goes! It feels good to know I won't be alone in my fears, nervousness or recovery that week. Please feel free to private message me or keep up with me here in this post. What does your pre-op diet entail? I suppose I'm lucky that I only have one day of liquids before surgery. Especially since I'll be on vacation in New York from the 25th until the 29th.

I'm so ready to be there too! Please feel free to private message me or just post here if you want to talk or share how it goes. Your surgery is on my pre-op test day so I know my nervousness will really kick in that day. I'll be sure to say some prayers for you to have a super speedy recovery while I'm sitting around waiting for all my tests to be done that day. It will be certainly help my nerves to have your surgery to think about and pray for instead of my own during pre-op. Have you had any pre-op diet to follow? How much do you have to lose if you don't mind me asking?

My best friend of 30 years broke my heart with her response when I told her a week ago. She said "I suppose you'll be getting new skinny friends when you get skinny. Guess I'll have to find a new best friend." She quickly made an excuse to hang up with me after that and I haven't talked to her since then. Both my mother and mother-in-law have called numerous times to try to talk me out of it. I don't know what the heck is wrong with these people I considered my biggest supporters. I am so disappointed. Thank God I have an amazing husband to stand by me and hold my hand when everyone else is letting me down.

Wishing you luck & a speedy recovery!!! I'll be joining you on the losers bench June 30th!! Yay!!

Thank you so much for sharing. I love seeing success stories and pictures. You're right. It may not totally Erase my fears but it reminds me of why I'm doing this and the amazing possibilities & goals this offers me that I would never have or achieve without the surgery. You are so beautiful. (Before & after) Congratulations on your successful weightloss!!

No major pre-op diet for me. Just liquids the day before. I quit smoking two weeks ago. I was going to schedule the surgery for August 4th and give myself time to get past the cigarette cravings and enjoy my vacation but surprisingly ended up scheduling for June 30th. So I go to pre-op on the 23rd, NYC on vacation from the 25th-29th then surgery on the 30th. I've had a few "food funerals". A close friend who had the surgery recommended I don't skip it. She said it was part of the process she didn't regret. She doesn't miss any of it now but enjoyed those last buffet meals and carb indulgences. Kind of weird to treat myself to foods I've avoided for a long time even tho it's not like I was losing any weight while avoiding them. Part of me feels really guilty indulging when my goal is to give them up for good and lose weight. I am determined to enjoy every one of my Favorite Cajun comfort foods including gumbo and shrimp stew next week and of course my final crawfish boil today where I am determined to eat until I can't eat anymore. Lmao. (I know that sounds awful but this is why I'm fat and part of this food funeral is also helping me to say goodbye to my "glutton, binge-eating, food-comforted" personality too.) This process has helped me to learn just how disgusted I am with this side of me. And just how eager I am to change and become a better, healthier person. I love food...but I love my daughter and my husband even more. So I'm mourning the loss of who I've been with these little food funerals and on June 29th as I begin my liquid diet- I will celebrate by raising my first glass to toast who I will become and the years I will have with them that weren't possible before.

June 30th here too! Pre-Op tests on the 23rd. Pretty nervous but ready!