Jangy03253

I decided DS because I have 100% trust in my doctor and he said that he feels this is the best surgery for me. I do love my husband and I have expressed how much this bothers me over and over. It takes him along time to even say anything. By that time I have already taken the abuse for way too long. I am going to get this surgery done. And, I have to be strong enough to do what I have to do if he can not stand strong against his family. He has openly admitted that they were wrong.. But, he thinks I should just ignore it and let it go away. He things i should not let it bother me.

okcpirate i did read it.. took me awhile to get thru it all.. But, it is very similar other then I have not left yet. I do talk with the therapist that cleared me on my psych eval every week. He is also in agreement that I need to have the surgery and then once healed take charge of my life and go home since noone here has my best interest at heart. Thank everyone for giving me such support today.. it was a horrible day or me and im trying to get thru all this stuff without smoking a cig. i know they are trying to sabotage what i have done so far. i just need to quit allowing people to hurt me and live my life for me and what is to come after surgery.. i just know this is major and it scares me to go into it stressed out.

Oh I tell them all the time how i feel.. I tell my husband the most that I cant understand why he does not protect me. But, all I get is I do not want to hear it.. Noone but the two of us have anything to do with our marriage and only the two of us can make decisions in our marriage. But, what he does not understand is when he just does not say anything about their behavior it just gives them the ok to do it more. I found out by asking his daughter today what i did to make her hate me so much.. she said i didnt do anything.. but he was her daddy and she didn't want to share him then and don't want to share him now. She also said that his mom feels the same. This is a very unhealthy relationship for him, for me, for everyone.. It is more so that they are his wives and i am not. I am trying to get someone in my court to be my voice thru surgery. Anyone in my family will do. Just so i can have my surgery and heal.. Then I will be making major life changing decisions. No marriage is healthy like this. Unfortunately, I love him dearly and I hate to know that it does not matter who it is.. me or someone else.. He will be a lonely man forever if they have anything to do with it.

Thanks that will defo be my next step. I am so close to surgery. Everything has been sent to the insurance company and we are just waiting for the ok to set the date. I came so far.. And, yes i also feel that it is a very unhealthy relationship to feel the way she does. But, was also told that she feels that his mom also feels the same way that i came between them and she didn't want to share him.. Why would you not want your loved one to be happy? I can't understand it? My family is 1500 miles away but never would they hate my husband just because he loved me. It would make them love him to see him making me happy. So, yes I now see it is never going to change. If I do not rethink my life in 5 years i will be in the same situation.. If I go thru with the surgery just a little healthier.. But, how can I have a healthy marriage with the women in his life feeling this way? It is very unhealthy to say the least for everyone.. I think especially my husband to know that there are family members that do not want him happy in life.

Thank you guys and girls for the encouragement. I know there is alot of things i need to rethink.. I am just scared to go thru such a big surgery with no support.. I mean i have the support groups, I have the psychiatrist ect.. But, its not the same as having family.. This surgery is huge.. It was a huge decision. I just do not want complications even death because my nerves are shot. In speaking to one of the family members today I was told that her reason for hating me was because she didn't want to share him. Then when I come into his life she was forced to share him. 5 years later and she still does not want to share him. I cant understand this. I am really trying to understand. As far as my husband he does not say much until he finally gets enough. But, in the meantime I am being treated horrible. I just feel all alone in it all.. I am sorry for rambling on.. I just don't know what way to turn now. I need this surgery for health reasons.. But, is it worth the risk of surgery being stressed out like I am?? Maybe talking to my doctor should be my next step.

I am not sure what the pg/vg mix is. The bottle does not give the .%. I am having issues with my vaperizor. so I will ask them when I go to the store today. But it is defo 0% nicotine. I have not talked to the doctor about it yet. I do not see him till Oct. 1st. But, hope by then I can be working on that hand to mouth habit. I am not planning on vaping forever.. Just using it to help me along the way. Would like to eventually be off all of it.

I am going to have DS surgery. I have quit everything other then smoking. I went to a vape shop and got a set up with juice that has 0 nicotine. I have proven to myself that it is more the hand to mouth habit then the nicotine. Since I have no nicotine in my juice. I am new to vaping so tbh i am not getting much at all into my lungs.. most being about 5 times a day.. mainly into mouth and blow out. So, not truely vaping.. But, it is working for me. Has anyone ever vaped with the surgery? Does anyone know if it is allowed up to surgery date and after surgery? I feel that I am getting off the nicotine and do not ever want to go back to it.. But, I know it is going to take more then a couple months to break the hand to mouth habit that I have had for 30 years. Any, advice would be greatly appreciated...

Thank you.. But, there are no legal issues.. Only issues with my husbands family. They are not supportive of anything I do and should not shock me, its always been this way

Personally I wish I would have kept it between my husband, my family and myself. I have got nothing but bad mouthed by his side of the family. It is hard enough going through this without my family being here for support.. I thought I could lean on his.. Boy was I wrong. So, that taught me to keep things to myself for now.

Aug. 6th.. What can I say about Aug. 6th? Its my anniversary, we are having in law issues.. Anything to bring me down while going thru this. They have never been a good support for me. Well, other then that I am going today to get my last 2 years of weight history that i need.. Finally found it at a local hospital. Visiting my Dr. for my 4th diet appt. 20 lbs down now woo hoo.. Going to the psyc doc to help deal with these in laws and to help me with the smoking. Then to a Protein tasting class.. Boy is my day full.

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Well, I have completed all the pre op testing.. I have 2 more support groups, 3 more diet visits.. Last one on Oct. 1st. then last nutrition appt after date is set. I am also going thru weekly relaxation therapy with the psychiatrist that did my psyc eval. He is helping me quit smoking and is a wonderful support thru this. He also had surgery a few months back with my doctors. I am 1500 miles away from my family and my husband well he is a man. So, he does not understand all this. They did find some issues in pre op testing.. but 2 of them can be corrected at the time of surgery. The rest well we just have to watch it for now. I am 13 lbs down already and i am greatful. How do you get the weight counters?? Hope all has a great day..