catek

Your post reminded me greatly of my ex-husband's reaction when I went through post partum depression years ago when our little one was born. He got mad (yellng mad) because I could not stop crying, refused to go to the doctor with me (my mom had to take me and when he refused to watch the baby while we were going, we took baby with us). Years later, he was diagnosed with depression as well; but by then we had divorced. In contrast, current hubby has gone to the pre-op appointments with me except for the nutritional class even though he did the driving. I taught him to cook, because he retired and I kept working, so he is now the house husband... but he said that he would rather have me teach him. On the ride home he admitted that the whole thing scares him, but he is more concerned about my health and knows I need to lose the weight... he is just afraid he will also have to eat like I am going to have to eat and he doesn't want to. He is not skinny, but still within a healthy weight for his age and height. I'm trying to assure him that the liquid diet, puree diet are temporary and he can eat all of his favorites and it won't bother me. Later, when I can move into regular food, I will just be eating a great deal less than him and may skip a few things (like potatoes and pasta). He can eat his lasagna and I'll just cook a little something else... no big deal. I reminded him of the various allergies the kids have and how I had to fix separate meals for them from time to time. No biggie. After that, he realized it was doable... But I think our men are actually scared for us as surgery is a major big deal and they are also fearful of change. As someone else suggested, just leave the reading material out somewhere. He might look at it. He might not... but let it be his idea and his option.

I have completed all of my pre-approval testing as of last week (Mamo, pap, ultrasound on liver and gallbladder, echocardiogram, nutritional class 1, psych eval, visit with cardiologist) and got flying colors on all of them. I also have a statement from my orthopedic guy that I need to lose 100 pounds before I can have my knee replacement (we are all hoping losing the weight will mean I won't have to have the knee replacement for a much longer period of time). Now waiting for the insurance company to do their thing (Tricare Prime) and approve the RnY surgery (apparently the only bariatric surgery they cover). I was hoping for the surgery in mid to late October, but we may not have the insurance okay until then, then we have to schedule the surgery, so I'm hoping early November. I have a large and important event scheduled at work the week of Thanksgiving and must be back to work before then. Surgeon has me starting a pre-op diet now to get used to what the post-op diet will be like (primarily Protein with veggies). We live too far from a gym (and it's too expensive anyway), so hubby and I are going for a home fitness gym and I have nine acres property I can walk everyday (as well as miles of country road). I've been caffeine free for three weeks, sugar and alcohol free for two weeks, bubbly diet soda free for three weeks... working on learning to chew.... having time to practice the new habits and give up the bad ones is good, but not sure how long I can really hold out with out the help of the surgery. ​ I'm worried the insurance people are going to drag their feet or worse yet, deny me. I started out 120 pounds over my ideal weight of 128. I've lost a couple of pounds in the last week thanks to the Post-op diet (but feel like I'm starving and craving sugar something fierce). Surgeon tells me I have no worries about being approved even though I am healthy despite my weight. My weight alone should be enough she says. Any experience with Tricare Prime?

I'm very new and wondering why decaf?