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@@24601 He is a man and how he looks with a BMI of 30 is going to be different than a female. According to my BMI I am mostly fat but according to my DEXA scan I have more lean mass than fat, and the BMI calculation is very far off on my body fat percentage. Being heavy for a long time strengthens your bones and makes them very dense. My bone density is at the top of the chart. I don't know how long OP was overweight but if he was over weight for a long time, he could have very dense bones. Being overweight for a long time changes your body, that is why most doctors don't set goals for for long time morbidly obese people that low. Carry a large amount of weight for a long time increases your muscle mass and your bone density, then if you add in ethnicity and body frame, there are more differences.

@@sammielouwho @@jlw18 Are you mentally or physically hungry? Are you on a PPI? Are you taking an acid reducer? Is your physical hunger below your breast or below your rib cage?

It depends on how you were before and how you felt about yourself. I think age and culture is also a factor. I notice that it seems common in certain cultures that being fat means you are worthless and invisible and people give up on looking good and making an effort. I had a business associate that had WLS and afterwards her personality totally changed. She had never had male attention before and suddenly she had lots of it, and we completely boy crazy. Also due to some other issues in her life, she had to grow up early and missed being a young adult and it was like she reverted to being 18. It was difficult to watch. I have always been an outgoing confident person and that hasn't changed. I have a different weight loss environment than most people since I live and work alone. I don't have other people projecting their feelings onto me every day about how I look, so that allows me to adjust in my own time and space. I think a big factor about people thinking they are different is other people seeing them differently and projecting different feelings onto them. Like people used to ignore and discount someone and suddenly they have lost weight and seem like a real person to them. I have always been a flashy dresser, and that hasn't changed. The only difference is I look a lot better in my clothing choices and I have much larger selection of clothing to choose from, and many more stores to shop at since I am at the bottom of plus sizes and the top of normal sizes. I always wore skirts and dresses, now I just wear bodycon dresses more than I wear fit and flares.

Stop watching TV, it is full of food commercials. When you think about food, go for a walk and think about your weight loss goals while walking.

It is kind of pointless to try now. Everything is different after surgery. Don't stress about it. One of the tgingd thats happens after surgery is you learn to eat again, like a baby. New habits come easier.

Congrats. I hope my 1 year looks like yours. I think the least amount of lead time to surgery is the best.

Just get a steak at every meal, skip the starch and get a good veggie. You can do it!

I know a lot of people use small plates and utensils but I really like using normal sizes. It keeps me mindful that I am eating small amounts, and I really enjoy that I can be satisfied on so little, it makes me feel more in control. Also it helps for when I am in situations where a plate might be prepared for me. I know how much I should leave (like at a restaurant). Also a small amount of food on a larger plate appears to be fine dining. I have some really nice dinnerware and flatware I purchased not long before surgery and I love to use them.

If a person has certain desires and their partner is unable or unwilling to meet those desires, it can be a big blow to the ego of that person, especially if it is something that people consider common like oral sex, and their partner refuses to do it. /r/deadbedroom offers a lot of insight into this, you can read about what sexual incompatibility does to relationships and people from both perspectives. So your husband probably has a lot of resentment over his needs not being met and he is being an ass and going out of his way to make you jealous as payback. As other people have said, you have to cut off contact with him. I can't imagine how hard that is to do after all these years, but if you can go a few weeks with no contact with him, it will do you both a lot of good.

Look for a makeup artist in your area that does one on one makeup sessions and book one. You can learn to correct a lot of what you are complaining about with artful makeup application.

@@Andi07 I use the MUAC Body peel. http://www.makeupartistschoice.com/5-Acid-Body-Peel_p_212.html I love MUAC, and I have used their products for years. Their body products work great. Make sure your brush has natural bristles. http://www.amazon.com/Natural-Bristle-Contoured-Wooden-Handle/dp/B0016ISD04/ref=sr_1_7_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1458597073&sr=8-7&keywords=dry+skin+brushing What I do is dry skin brush, then acid peel, then shower, Follow up with Bio oil on my problem areas, arms/upper inner thighs/stomach, and almond oil all over, once the oil settles and little, I follow up with Vitamin E cream, or MSM lotion.

And forgive me for my poor choice of words. I'm lucky in that I have options since I have the resources to pay for a procedure that likely will prevent me from developing esophageal cancer, as that's where I'm heading since there is so much stomach acid splashing up damaging my esophagus. But in my view, the insurance company sure as hell is forcing me (or those like me who don't have the financial ability to pay for the procedure) to convert to bypass, and face the potential side effects/surgical risks if I want to "cure" the problem by utilizing the benefits I pay for. Like I said, I'm very fortunate that I can pull out my checkbook and have the procedure tomorrow. But I pay for an insurance policy and I would like the individuals who work for that company to pull their heads out of their assholes and (1) read my medical records; (2) approve medication that offers some relief of my symptoms rather than insist that I try Omeprazole or other lower level PPIs which provide no relief (a fact that is reflected in my medical records); and (3) stop insisting on a medical procedure that I CAN'T HAVE because of my lack of a fundus. I would be more accepting if there was some actual thought behind the denial. So, you're right. The company is not "forcing" me to accept their very generous offer to pay for a conversion to bypass. Except they kinda are, if I want any insurance coverage. They've presented me with the textbook definition of a Hobson's Choice, since they disclaimed liability for any alternative treatments. I pity the poor person who doesn't have the financial means to make decisions regarding their care without relying on insurance coverage. Sorry if my position regarding the workings of insurance companies in the healthcare arena is distasteful to your sensibilities. A lot people that post here think Drs are Gods also and people should be grateful for whatever Drs what to do for or with them, not realizing they are paid professionals like everyone else. I work for myself and I am moderately comfortable so I have more options when it comes to healthcare than most people. If you lack financial means, healthcare really sucks. In your position I would just pay out of pocket for the surgery I want and avoid the gastric bypass. Good luck.

The sleeve was classified as experimental a few years ago, until they realized it was cheaper option with fewer complications than RNY.

You can low carb for 7 to 10 days and drop that 5lbs, just the little bit of fat you lose and the Fluid from your liver should do it. i would replace 2 meals with Protein shakes. This also helps you learn which shakes you like prior to surgery.

I really hate these Drs that make people jump through extra hoops, and "earn" their surgery and "prove" their dedication. It is just an ego trip for the Drs. The fact she already lost weight on the pills before should be enough. Her weight is so low, she is going to lose and get denied by insurance. They are professionals being paid for a service, the fact that some of them try to treat their patients like children or pets, is so annoying.

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If you feel like you can control yourselfand you have a good relationship with food, then surgery will just make it all easier. You can eat less and not feel deprived. It removes the "stress" of dieting. At least in my case.

Do you track what you eat? Your food log might help.

That's very interesting. I will try taking some Mylanta. Thanks a bunch for the info. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App Try pepcid, but talk to your doctor, they can give you a script. A lot of people come home with one.

See the doctor, don't let things drag on.

Maybe? Perhaps finding a therapist to work through your feelings with would be a good idea.

Your body doesn't adjust the acid production to your new stomach right away. If you aren't taking an anti acid, please ask your doctor for one. If you are on one ask for an increased dose. The nerves in your stomach aren't even reconnected for pain, that is excess acid. BTW these are all things my nurse explained to me in the hospital. My nurse in addition to working with bariatric patients was 6 months post op.

Google dry skin brushing and you will find images. You want to brush towards your lymph nodes. Lymphatic massages help also. Basically with dry skin brushing you make your skin thicker and it acts more like a natural girdle and helps hold in cellulite etc. From your picture I am guessing you are African American, our skin is already thicker so dry skin brushing can really help and bring some rapid results. If you brush and do body chemical peels you can really tighten your skin up. I am having good results with dry skin brushing, chemical peels, bio oil and Vitamin e cream, the when I work out I use a menthol base cream with a neoprene suit.

Citrus fruits are a ton of sugar and acid. Since a lot of people have Gerd issues, not really the best choice. Berries are the best fruit choices. Strawberries, blue berries, etc

At 8 months I drink Water basically like a normal person. I can't chug 16oz without breathing like I did before surgery but I can drink 8oz in a couple minutes taking big gulps and sips. It gets easier at 6 weeks, easier at 3 months and at 6 months you are almost to normal people level. You just have to wait for the swelling to go down and then for the healing. If you are really heavy you should start with walking anyway and give your joints a rest.