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My husband and I both had the RNY - me, 2 1/2 years ago and him 10 months ago. We love each other desparately, but we're feeling sexy and playful. Any other couples out there post gastric bypass who have experience in swinging? No judging, please 🤗

... and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! I rode on one of those just this last summer, now that I can FIT in a swing

Love, love, LOVE your response! The groups we've found are on the internet, Couples Next Door and Swing Lifestyle - warning, do not open these in front of minors or at work We've tried swing dancing, and it's fun, but no quite as exciting for us

I had my surgery July 2015 and my husband will have his December of this year. I definitely think it's a good idea to have the surgeries at the same time or at least close together. At first it wasn't hard to resist the temptations he occasionally subjected me to, but after about 6 months, When I started getting hunger pangs again, it became more of a challenge. As a matter of fact, just last night he brought home a pint of Ben & Jerry's. When he does that I tell him he's not being very supportive. I think you all are making a good decision to do it together

James, thank you so much for your story and your thoughts. I really enjoyed your article and am going to try your essential oils experiment. I too have been plagued with a terrible sweet tooth all my life. Whereas people get sick eating too much frosting, the more I could down, the happier I became...until I would come out of a food coma and be so upset with myself, I could hardly stand myself. I say this all in the past tense because 9 1/2 months ago, I had a gastric bypass, RNY. It was a miracle - I couldn't even stand the THOUGHT of eating something sweet! But I feel a change a comin'. That grazing they talk about is no joke, and though I stick to a high protein diet and exercise and lift weights, I'm finding that sweets are starting to look good to me again, mostly baked goods. Right now dark chocolate and desserts made with lemon are tasting good to me, but At the occasional b-day party I've tried cake, and even though it makes me feel sick to my stomach for a while, it still tastes good And I have not had a single dumping syndrome incident SO, I am deathly afraid of what is to come, but I am going to try my hardest to maintain this 125 pounds I've lost. It would be a lot easier if I thought I looked AMAZING after this weightloss, but now I have saggy skin, a small rack and a terrible varicose vein to deal with. I'm 44, but my naked body looks like I'm 70 oh, well, thank God I'm married - lol! Anyway, thank you so much. Your story meant a lot to me. Blessings

I understand the depression situation. I'm 6 weeks post surgery, and I feel like my little mood stabilizing pill has become less effective, too. I'm pretty sure the key for both of us is exercise. It's Monday, a great time to set goals for the week. Start small, maybe just a walk around the block today. Then tomorrow or Wednesday you will be proud to have gotten moving and will make your walk a little longer. By the weekend you will be feeling stronger. Then plan a FUN activity you would enjoy for the weekend - definitely not cleaning your house - lol! You will be surprised how much better you feel when you get active - it's the best cure for depression, AND I bet you see the scale drop next week . Do you have a FitBit? I could use a challenger

Hang in there - it gets better!! You will likely be able to tolerate your favorite foods; it's just that you will only eat small amounts of them - and the best thing is, you'll be all right with that!

Wow - you're only allowed one meal?! Our program has us eating or drinking protein shakes every 2-3 hours, so 5-6 times a day! We're only allowed 2 oz. per meal, though.

From my experience, exercising helps you lose inches but not necessarily weight, just so you don't get too upset if that still doesn't help with the scale. Of course, this protein thing is a whole new world for me - I'm only 3 weeks post op, so I could be wrong about that. Any regular exercisers out there who want to advise us on that?

You're right - one day at a time! One other thing - Do you weigh yourself daily? If so, as hard as it will be, you might try switching to weekly weigh-ins so you're not as focused on the weight loss aspect of your new life. ☺️

I see a huge difference - look, you hardly have any back fat left!! Hate back fat - lol! The big question is, how do you feel? I'm more excited that I have peace of mind, not mentally beating myself up anymore because I was eating unhealthy food - and too much of it - at every meal! It feels good to be living a healthier lifestyle, right?!

It will be much easier in about a week. Hang in there! Just get as much rest as you can - sleeping comfortably is likely going to elude you for a few more nights - would recommend sleeping in recliner for ease of getting to restroom when necessary. Also, don't be afraid of the pain meds - they help you sleep, which is what you need to do to let your body heal. I'm two weeks post surgery and can finally completely roll around in bed without feeling like something inside of me is going to tear

I'm at the beginning of my journey right now, so your post was very inspiring - thank you!! Best wishes as you continue your journey!

I a. Only a week out and everything is 50% easier! Welcome to the other side

Congrats on your WL so far!! Since you have problems just getting your water and protein in and filling up so quickly, doesn't sound like you should have any problems with eating just because you are in a different place. I just had surgery last Tuesday. Normally by the end of a long holiday weekend, I would feel miserable both physically and mentally after pigging out and drinking all weekend - I had absolutely no desire to eat or drink - it was awesome! I would make sure not to drink alcohol though, cuz any control you do need to maintain will likely go right out the window - lol! Enjoy your vacation!!

Hey, MarcK. It's different for each person, but I've been hearing it's about 6 weeks to get your energy level back to par. My med team says no intense workouts for at least 6 months.

Did you keep it all down? No tummy ache?

I am scheduled for surgery June 30, and I know I'll be put on some kind of diet on the 17th. I'm ready for it! My fears stem more from complications that might occur in the future than my ability to live the new lifestyle - I've never been a risk taker, so the chance of dumping and/or not feeling good because I didn't follow my diet are very slim, especially if I go to group weekly and stick to these boards. But, yeah, hernias and other complications that may require more hospitalization or anemia and hypoglycemia that might only get harder to control in the fire and time off of work when my schedule is so busy, just praying it doesn't happen like you, I've told very few people as we

I'm scheduled for the roux en y, but my surgeon prefers to do the open surgery. Maybe I can talk him into doing laparoscopic I find that "exercise" is easier for me to do when I don't think of it as exercise. For example, hiking with a group or walking the dog, mowing the lawn, just generally staying active. I agree with the no-good-trade ins ☺

Thank you so much for sharing Moki68! I'm always very interested to hear the experiences of people who are post-op at least three years, and when I hear from someone who has been successful, I feel so much better about the decision I'm making to get the surgery.

Good luck on the 5k! Was curious whether you got the Roux en y or the sleeve and whether it was laparoscopic or open surgery. Really excited to get back to swimming and a good workout routine, but I hear it will be about 8 weeks until I should even begin to think about doing anything too physical. We shall see... You know, my husband saw a statistic that indicated that of marriages where one of the partners is post gastric bypass, 85% of them end in divorce - he's been on his best behavior Just sayin

Just remember, you wouldn't be given approval by insurance for the surgery if you hadn't already tried "just getting off your behind" several times with very little success. And as far as being terrified of pain, that's why you will be more successful post surgery because you will do whatever needs to dome to avoid it! Have faith. You can do this!

Hi, Kelli7603. Your comment about living 2000 miles away from home, coupled with the fact that you seem to be doing well post surgery is comforting to me. I live a thousand miles away from all my family and haven't said anything to them even though my surgery is scheduled for next month; also, like you, not sure if I want to. I am married, however, so obviously he knows, but I want to go through everything without asking for a lot of help (he just started a new job), so this gives me hope that I should be able to. Maybe I missed it or you don't want to reveal, but which surgery did you have if you don't mind my asking?

Glen Burnie, here. If all goes well, my surgery will be July 7. I work in DC, so I'm having my surgery done there, so attending weekly group and other doctor apps will be a breeze. How are things going?

Hey, there. I found BariatricPal by way of the Big Book of Roux en Y. I am currently pre-op and in the process of determining if I want to commit to this extreme change in lifestyle. My surgery date is set for July 7, pending approval of insurance and pre-ops. As of right now, I am 90% sure that I want the surgery. I have an an all-or-nothing type personality, but I'm not the type to push the envelope or take risks. When I commit to a diet and exercise, I give it my all; unfortunately, as proven by the many diets I have failed, my all isn't good enough. As far as a healthy lifestyle goes, I am either "on" or "off," but my biggest problem is that when I'm off, my eating habits are extreme - my diet consists of fast food, ice cream and pastries. I think the reason for the extreme off behavior is that I haven't found a good enough tangible reason to NOT go to extremes. "Tangible" is the key word there - yes, I may be shortening my life and yes, I may be missing out on a better quality of life, but those reasons are so hypothetical when most days I'm tired and hungry after a long day at work and I want something that is convenient and tastes good; uh, what do you know, there's McDonalds, perfect, won't even have any dishes to do! - unfortunately, at that point in time the fast tasty food is much more tangible than trying to live healthy. The surgery will give me the very tangible reason I need stop acting out on impulse desires. For me, knowing I'm going to get sick and run the risk of a rupture is much more tangible than the thought that maybe I'll live longer and maybe I'll have a better quality of life. I am a cautiously optimistic person by nature. I welcome any thoughts anyone may have about me, my reasons for the journey and/or the journey.