rorysmom

i'm sorry you're going through this. is your husband a selfish person? you list all of the toys that he's bought for himself. is that indicative of his approach to money and getting what he wants? conversly, do you normally not buy for yourself? when you do, is it in comparison to what he buys? does he see this surgery as an extravagant luxury? especially since you aren't working? if this is the case, then the cost of your surgery, combined with what the others have mentioned, may be making him angry.

what type of workouts are you doing? any weight-based ones? if you're new to exercise or not so new and doing weight work, you're probably gaining a nice bit of muscle mass. scales are the bane of everyone's existence! it is so hard not to care what it says, even if you're looking/feeling better. but do try. as for filling your band to capacity... does your doc think you might not have the right size band?

congratulations on getting this far! i agree with everyone. and really be honest about your nutrition and exercise. if you are being honest, it may just take more--increased exercise time, harder exercise in the same amount of time, and also another fill. i will say that it is a mixed blessing, getting so close to goal. it's like, now you want to be perfect. you can see the finish line, the door at the end of the hallway. but it just so happens to be the door jo beth williams is running to in poltergeist. :faint: and on the perfection scale... going from 85% to 97% (i dare not say 100%) is a helluva lot harder than going from 10% to 60%.

"And I have read the words 'medically necessary' over and over. That is the problem. We are forced to let someone or something else make determinations for us. Define medically necessary. Can't do it. It's different for everyone." i totally agree. medical necessity is relative and personal. and it shouldn't be based just on physical medical necessity either. the emotional turmoil 25 - 40 pounds that won't come off wreaks on a psyche over 10 - 15 years is immeasurable. the missed family portraits, feeling fat at every "fun" event, wondering if you might find love if not for... i could go on. but y'all know.

and i'm not so sure that the gov't guidelines for what constitutes a medical necessity for a band is purely based on scientific research and safeguarding the public's health. i simply don't believe in them like that.

i'm not for trying to beat the system per se, but what marimaru said is very true and worthy of more national discussion: isn't it just as "immoral" to go and push your weight up even more just to qualify for WLS? immoral to continue abusing yourself when you know that it's wrong? i believe so. that's why we need to push to make medicine more preventative, WLS included! lapbands are just as revolutionary and life changing for those who want to reverse a (quite often) yo-yo weight gain at 50 pounds as it is to reverse a 200-pound one. many people who are within 50-60 pounds of their goal weight are hanging on my their bare knuckles! and if they know themselves and their life-long struggle, that's a PRIME reason to 1) have the surgery and 2) make insurance companies and the FDA understand that stepping in to relieve the pressure, pain, and possible (inevitable??) climb to a higher weight is good medicine.

okay, so one of my favorite things that dr. phil says about weight loss is don't base a lifestyle change on willpower! instead, make as many substitutions as you can. what food substitutions or additions have you made that make it easier to eat healthy, feel satisfied, and lose weight? some of mine: homemade split pea Soup chicken breast in 98% fat free cream of mushroom soup with carrots and celery (a cross between soup/stew) hunts "no sugar added" pudding buying fresh salmon once/week

edamame! really tasty

100 calorie popcorn bags! and a friend told me about kettle corn--a little sweetness. good sometimes. also, i've re-added raisin bran. the kellogs brand. the smell is so great. oh and i usually eat a packet of raisin, date, walnut oatmeal with my Protein if i don't have Cereal. but i'm going to make a big vat of the original quaker oatmeal and have a bit of that, with a bit of milk and a little bit of sugar, when i want something sweet. i'm a sweets eater; not really a volume eater. but since i've added the salmon to my weekly menu, i definitely notice that don't like a real sugary taste as much. interesting....

i think it has to do with bleeding gums. some people have a problem with it.

how about vegetarian refried beans--they have 0 fat because they are not made with animal fat. very tasty, high in Protein, and Fiber. butternut squash soup split pea soup, made with chicken broth, chicken bouillon cubes, bay leaves, and your favorite spices is excellent cream of wheat grits and the "tender harvest" brand of gerber baby food has one called "chicken and wild rice." excellent.

juniors are odd numbered; misses are even. juniors are cut a lot straighter: smaller chests, hips, booties, and thighs.

yes, call your doctor. walking could also help move things along.

no surgery Height: 5'4.5 Weight: 168 pounds (going for 157 - 160) Pants size: 10 - 12, & sometimes 8 (at target weight would be 8 - 10, & sometimes 12) Shirt size: M - L (would stay same) Bra size: 36D (would stay same) Shoe size: 8.5 - 9 Ring size: 6.5

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/02/21/AR2006022101664.html "The impact will go beyond Medicare: Private insurers, which vary widely on whether they cover the surgery, often follow Medicare's lead. For example, when Medicare decided to cover organ transplants, insurers began to pay for them."

you're welcome!

yes, up your calories by a few hundred and see if you start losing something.

some friends and i took our girls to see the live play of dora's pirate adventure yesterday, and i was telling them how this random thread popped up! good show. hicimos is the conjugated form of hacer = to do, to make. and all this time, i should have known that, geez!!!! BUT THANKS!!!!

hee! you can do it!

thanks! i never could get the "Lo Hicimos." boots is supercool, explorer dora! dylansmon, it's come on, vamonos

big paul, i totally agree with you. janet, have you considered talking with a professional about your food addiction? my aunt said that the fact that the band makes her stop eating causes her to be more introspective and figure out why she wants to overeat. the physical restriction forces the mental and emotional issue.

dragonwillow, the trainer was probably right. are you going to up your calories?

danaclark, i'm totally cool with your tone. weight is a touchy subject. and i know from hella experience how frustrating it can be. more times than i care to remember, i've been getting ready for a special event, only to be upset because i didn't look as good as i knew that i could. and i totally understand having it going on in every area, save one. and, and i would never presume to tell anyone "this is why you're not losing weight." as you said, there are always mental and emotional aspects to doing any activity to negative excess. my body type is such that at 155 - 170 pounds, i am a size 8 - 10, sometimes 12. i look smoking at 155. i can maintain 160 - 163 (when i get back there! ) and that 5 - 8 pounds of difference is probably imperceptable to the naked eye. but my body just loves hanging out at 167 - 170. i still look good, but not as good as i want to/can look. but i know that to get there, i have to be extremely diligent about my diet. i'm tempted to ask you questions about your routine to help you over your fitness hump, but since you "don't know me like that," i won't. thanks for the well wishes! i'm reaching out to her as much as i can. and i hope you have great success too!

glad you're doing well!! i'm so happy for you.

first, i have been overweight. at my highest, i wasn't measured by a doctor or gym, but i'm pretty sure that i'd made it into obesity too. second, i understand getting the short end of the healthy stick because of things our parents did. happened to me too. thankfully, i don't have any contributing health issues that make it hard to lose weight. and as far as personal responsibility goes, i am talking only about the things that a person can do to keep him/herself healthy. i do think that obesity is a disease. but it is a disease that can be somewhat controlled/prevented through the choices we make. ETA: 175, depending on body type, is a healthy weight. it may not be the weight we look best at or aspire to, but it is healthy. i'm passionate about this issue too. my eyes have been open for a long time.