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Are any of you struggling with telling people you're having weight loss surgery? I have only told my boyfriend because he's taking me. I really don't want anyone to know, but I also don't want to lie when questioned how I lost the weight. Any of you dealing with this too?

Foamies, stupid autocorrect

Sleeved on may 13, what are goalies?

Had my surgery one week ago today. I've always knows I'm sensitive to anesthesia and pain-meds (both make me nauseous), so I spent the first 24 hours after surgery vomitting up blood. It was horrible because of all the stomach muscle contractions that are involved in vomiting. I told them to remove my pain medicine IV, because the pain of throwing up was way worse than the pain of the surgery incisions. I've just taken Tylenol since surgery. Today is the first day I could sit up using my stomach muscles instead of relying on my arms to push me up, which is awesome. My bruising is pretty much gone and I feel good. Down 10 pounds. Eating has been weird. Sometimes, even if it's the very first thing I've had to eat all day, after one bite (of say yogurt or milk) my stomach sends me a pain-like signal that it's extremely full. But other times I can eat half container of yogurt and be fine. It seems like all my stomach receptors are confused and out of wack. I'm sure that will become more normal over time. Another thing I've experienced a lot is bloating, gas, a feeling of air-type pressure in my chest, and burping. The doctor says it's pretty common and that sometimes people develop a bit of lactose-intolerance due to all the dairy. I eat Gax-ex chewables several times a day and it never seems to go away. Yesterday I tried some ground turkey in hopes that could start swapping out meat for all this dairy I've been consuming, and surprisingly I tolerated the turkey just fine. Even better than yogurt it seems, so I'm going to start incorporating that. I haven't been exercising enough, just walking around the house, grocery store, etc. I tried a couple days after surgery but got tired very fast. I think today could be the first day I'm able to go for a real walk. The person who posted they are walking 4-5 miles day was a real kick in the butt for me, so thanks for the motivation. I've been good about staying hydrated until yesterday, I knew I hadn't had much water and I was SOOO tired. So I won't be letting that happen again. Because I'm not able to eat 3 whole meals a day right now, I feel like I'm eating/drinking all the time to compensate, which makes me feel like I'm not going to loose weight. That and I'm super bloated so I feel huge. I know that's in my head, but I'm looking forward to things getting more normal and the pounds to start coming off with some consistency.

Your story sounds a lot like mine. I have a lot of guilt about having surgery. The only person who knows is my boyfriend, I feel like my friends would be like "you don't need something as drastic as surgery" or "why don't you just work out". And I have trouble saying no to the same foods you do. I will miss them, lol. The photo I'm using on here is a picture I would NEVER post on social media because I look fat. Just like you said, I usually "position" myself or hide partially behind people. But on here I feel like I should use one that most accurately shows what I really look like. And I hate it, lol. My surgery is next Wednesday, May 13th, I'm freaking terrified.

May 13th, I'm getting really nervous. I have my pre-op appointment tomorrow, I haven't been really following the pre-surgery liquid diet so I don't think I've lost weight since my last appointment. Will this be a big deal since I'm already approved and have a scheduled surgery date?

Good luck Lisa! I'll be exactly one week behind you on the 13th!

Hi guys, I've struggled with my weight since childhood. I was put on meds in high school for attention deficit and lost a bunch of weight. I felt great about myself, boys were noticing me for the first time, I was pretty happy with life. Sometime in college I went off the meds because I couldn't stay awake without them and I didn't like that my body depended on them. Slowly the weight crept back on and it's been here ever since. The only minor health issues I have are PCOS and a mild case of sleep apnea. I'm super excited to dive into this sight and read on all these specific topics I've been wondering about. Here's my problem. I hope someone else can relate to this because I really don't know what to do about it. I have a big family and a big group of friends. I haven't told anyone I'm having surgery yet. I'm terrified to tell them. I've been going through this process for FIVE months and my surgery is in ELEVEN DAYS and I can't seem to work up the courage to tell people. My boyfriend knows, but no one else. Not my parents, not my BEST FRIEND. I told her I have something I need to talk to her about and I wanted to tell her in person. Pretty sure she thinks I'm dying or something. I feel like it will be the number one source of discussion in my social circle, everyone will be talking about it, and I feel like people will think less of me or something. I picture people in my head saying things like, "she wasn't THAT big, I think surgery was a bit of a drastic choice. She should have just worked out, she must be lazy", and stuff like that. This is going to sound so dumb, but in my head I keep thinking that if I just don't acknowledge that I'm over weight, no one will notice I'm fat. In my head I look like a totally normal sized woman. But then I see pictures of myself and sometimes it takes me a second to realize the fat person in the picture is me. So I just ignore it. I never talk about my weight, or say negative things about the way I look. Not because I have high self esteem, but because I feel like if I ignore it, it's not really true. I must sound insane. I have honestly considered googling stomach tumors and telling people I have some sort of benine abdominal tumor I'm having removed so I don't have to admit what I'm really doing. Please tell me someone else out there struggled with this, lol. I know 2 other girls who had this done in the past and they were perfectly comfortable telling everyone. But when I look at them, I don't see thin girls, I see the girls who had weight loss surgery, and it makes them less attractive in my opinion. How do I get over this fear of telling people? Why am I so ashamed?

Very helpful, thank you. Like you touched on, I'm worried people will figure it out when I loose a lot of weight and put it together that I just had a "medical procedure". I'm stuck because I don't want to tell anyone, but I don't want to be dishonest about how I really lost weight either.