Bluesky1

I'm staying local and have a load of paperwork to do. I'm so not ready. I'm praying all will goes well for you. Are you going out of the state of country?

Thank you for the responses. I really admire those of you willing to start early with no orders from the Dr., that is NOT me. The reason I'm having this surgery is because I'm a food addict, and I need surgical intervention. I have the rest of my life to figure out how to eat less with a sleeve....not going to deprive myself before I have to. It makes me laugh when I see people on the forum who say...if you don't do "such and such" you're not ready for this surgery. Really? Anyone who needs this surgery has proven they are not a expert on losing and maintaining weight on there own. So, I ate a lot today...and yes I am ready for the surgery because of that very fact.

Mine too!

So, I'm having Sleeve surgery on Tuesday ???? I am super nervous, and of course have a million fears trying to crop up. I looked at a paper that my surgeon wrote on it, and it looks like it says 30% of my stomach left (so 70% removed). For some reason, I thought 85% of your stomach is removed. My concern is that it won't be small enough. I am a 35 BMI but need to lose close to 100 lbs, I sure hope she's not going to leave my stomach bigger than the usual size (because I have the appetite of a 700 lb person). So two questions... 1. What perecentage of stomach removal is the standard? 2. How much did your surgeon take out? (or is going to take out) Thanks for th input ????

All those variables are in your favor. Keeping you in my prayers. ????

I can imagine. I'm a nervous wreck without facing the possible reschedule. Prayerfully it's nothing too bad, and he will clear you. Of course, as disappointing as it would be to have to reschedule...you want to be sure your heart is good to go. I am obsessing on the size of the stomach. I found a paper that looks like it says my doc is only taking 70% out, for some reason I thought it was 85%. What did your doc say?

I was hoping for 85%. I'm so scared I will still be able to eat too Much.

I'm sorry you just found this out. ???? Keep us posted.

I may be old school (63), but when did a spouse telling his/her wife that "eating Starbursts will make fat" become Domestic Violence? I've been married 36 years and along the way to becoming 80 lbs overweight, my wife told me "to stop eating so much" many times along the way. It was hurtful to hear, but absolutely true and probably helped motivate me to finally take action. Do you think anyone struggling with obesity should be eating Starbursts? Do you think any average weight person enjoys seeing their spouse gain weight (while continuing to overeat)? Do you think spouses should speak honestly about their feelings with one another, particularly in matters of health? I'm not saying preacher boy is in the right, but I've read nothing here that convinces me he's ready to be charged with a crime! I'm still waiting to learn if the OP has told him how SHE FEELS about her weight and his lack of support. Though, I think telling a spouse to stop eating is as productive as telling a skunk not to stink, I do agree with most of this post. I wrote my feelings and opinion about what I think this lovely young lady should at least try in my first post. I do hope she goes back and reads it again and again and again. Couldn't hurt! Thank you Valentina for your orginal response. I did respond to it. Also, I sent you a private message, not sure if to got it.

God bless you for you words. I read them several times and wept. I needed to hear exactly what you wrote. Forgive me for the delay in response. I was overwhelmed with the reponses (which is a good thing), and..exhausted thinking about the issue. I needed to hear that I need to respond with grace, as the Father has told me to do. I don't do well with that, and I have raged back at him because I'm so hurt. It is a soft answer that turns away wrath, and I truly want to be the woman God has called me to be...regardless of anyone else's behavior...even my husbands. Although we've never met...I love you too Sister in Christ, and God loves us too! ???? God Bless you!

I may be old school (63), but when did a spouse telling his/her wife that "eating Starbursts will make fat" become Domestic Violence? I've been married 36 years and along the way to becoming 80 lbs overweight, my wife told me "to stop eating so much" many times along the way. It was hurtful to hear, but absolutely true and probably helped motivate me to finally take action. Do you think anyone struggling with obesity should be eating Starbursts? Do you think any average weight person enjoys seeing their spouse gain weight (while continuing to overeat)? Do you think spouses should speak honestly about their feelings with one another, particularly in matters of health? I'm not saying preacher boy is in the right, but I've read nothing here that convinces me he's ready to be charged with a crime! I'm still waiting to learn if the OP has told him how SHE FEELS about her weight and his lack of support. Hi, Thank for sharing your experience. I did respond to your original response. Not sure if you saw that. You are right about Starbursts. Unlike many people, I had to GAIN 7 pounds to have this surgery. I enjoyed, and have enjoyed every second of that. For most of my life I have been dieting, taking diet pills, excercizing, and depriving myself...only to fall of the wagon and gain weight. It has been wonderful to eat what and when I want, for these last few months. I have been up and down 30-70 pounds over and over and over. My husband only met me 3 years ago, so he does not know the 70 lb heavier me that I am now. But, I had just lost 55 lbs right before I met him. In answer to your questions, yes I do believe you should be able to be honest with your wife about her health. But, to keep at it until she's sobbing is not the way to do it. I KNOW I have a food addiction, and a weight problem. That is why I am having this surgery. For my health, for my self-esteem, of my chronic pain, and for my husband. I don't think he has committed a crime. I just think being more supportive would probably get him a lot further, and we would have a much better relationship than the approach he is taking now. I have asked, screamed, and begged him to stop. He thinks he is helping me, and so he always manages to bring it up. He also does not want me to have the surgery. If this was an issue of health, he would realize that the surgery is for my health. Anyways, he is not a horroble man. He is just making his wife feel horrible about her weight. Something that I don't need any help with, I already feel bad about it. I can't wait to Feb. 23d, to have the sleeve surgery and start to lose weight. Thanks again for sharing. Thank you for sharing the additional info. My wife was "blessed" with a Mediterranean metabolism that allowed her to eat as she pleased and not gain weight until she was about 60. I am the home chef and I know we were both eating the same food in the same quantities and I grew to 275 while she stayed at 145. She would give me advice based in total baloney and sometimes it would get ugly. And, she wasn't that supportive about my wls decision at first. She suggested hiring a nutritionalist and a personal trainer for a year. When I lost 30 lbs pre opt, both her and my mother told me to call it off! Now I'm 4+ months out and down 86 pounds (overall). Now she tells me to stop losing! Just put your head down and stick to your program. The best way to get the upper hand is to do the surgery, lose the weight, buy smaller clothes and get your confidence back! You can do this... Thank you for all of your support and sharing your experience with me. It really is invaluable. Few people stay married as long as you have, and it appears you've survived the weight issue causing problems in your marriage As far as my marriage and weight issue. I've also really tried to look at this from my husbands perspective. He is frustrated. He wa/n't expecting this kind of weight gain in a year, and he is not a Complusive Eater or yoyo dieter. He simply doesn't get it. I love my husband. In many ways he shows his love for me. Good provider, faithful, responsible, and he does love God. He just thinks that He can fix this issue for me (with his diet and exercise program) and "Tough Love" and be can't. He truly does not get that this is 20 years of this weight battle, and I'm DONE. No more doing the same thing I have always done, that has always failed without surgery. I have been busy with life, and getting ready for surgery. Thank you again for your enouragement. I'll see you on the otherside on Tuesday, a Sleeved Woman! ????

Me too! No liquids (but super nervous) and lots of life stuff to do. Do you know how long we're expected to be down? And do we have physical limitations, carrying stuff etc.?

I feel like I'm running out of time too! I was told I wouldn't be required to do a pre op cause I'm lower bmi, but I asked for the plan. From what I read the lower your surgery weight more overall % you can lose. My kids are too young. They don't know. I have one more day of work! I'm getting excited! I have to get though tomorrow. Run a billion errands on saturday. Spend a lazy day with the family on sunday.... then finish packing. Are yalls out patient? WOW! That's commitment to start a preop diet early (with out having too). I feel like a life time of change eating is plenty for me ???? You are way ahead of the game if you're resting on Sunday. That sounds wonderful. I am going none stop until Tuesday. I haven't even really done any sleeve related stuff, like shopping for after surgery. I am really nervous because I don't like milk, or yogurt, or cottage cheese. Makes me gag. Not sure how I'll survive! Hopefully it will all work out. We're all taking the plung together! ???? That's cool! Glad you started this thread

Thank you SO much for sharing. My step-daughter is getting married and I will just be 3 months out. I have so many fears about how eating will work out. We also have some family issues, so that alone is anxiety producing. I appreciate your honesty, and it helps me to know what I'm facing. Congratulations on the weight loss! I hope I'll lose a significant amount before the cruise too! ????

Hi! Great idea! My surgeon doesn't require me to do preop diet. I don't have any kids either. Just busy working on a deadline, and trying to get taxes done. I feel like I should be doing a million other things. But, no time. How about you? Do the kids known about the surgery?

Every time I have novicain, I feel shaky, heart racing and generally not good.

thank you sure!!! im so nervious ME TOO! I wan't to get it over with too, but scared. We can all be Feb. 23rd Buddies!

I am so sorry to here this. I'm praying for you. I'll be having surgery on Feb. 23rd too. We will start this new adventure together! Take your pain to the Lord, and Trust that He will see you through. You wil be stronger and healthier. ????

EXACTLY how I feel!

SO glad you wrote this topic! I am exactly the same, no yogurt, milk, or fish for me. They all make me sick. I am having surgery on Tuesday and I am really worried too. Seems like there are alternatives. Thanks again for asking! ????

Wonderful! You look so happy and that shade of peach is lovely on you! Well done, indeed!

Glad you made it home safe and surgery went well. ????