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I'm 2 weeks out and I have noticed I've been drinking more in a shorter time as the days go on. Also, I noticed I can drink the broth faster (maybe because it's hot). I was told to get at least 64 oz in, and I think that's important. I don't think the the sleeve will stretch from liquids, but I'm a newbie too. If it makes you uncomfortable , just try and slow down a bit. I do, when I see I'm going to fast.

I don't know if they would do a sleeve, but my Mom had a N F several years ago, and she had a terrible time with it (I think it failed). She just had a Gastric Bypass about 3 months ago. So, I know you can have a Bypass...not sure about a sleeve though. Maybe email a surgeons office or go for a Consult.

I also feel really week and tired. It's probably just this stage of things. But, I'm looking forward to getting my energy back.

Hey All, How is everyone? Just checking in. I've had a good and rough couple of days. I had to go to have a Cat Scan (related to my hysterectomy), and I had to drink a big container of dye so they could see. I got home and I have had horrible diahrria (like water)....sorry if it's TMI. This was Friday, and it's still going on. So, I'm trying to figure out if its's from that, or sugar free stuff (in the past it gave me Gastro problems, gas etc, or is it because I'm just drinking fluids. Anyways, have any of you had this issue? I'm still on Clear liquids hopefully until Thursday (I have a Post Op exam). I am hungry, and really tired of liquids. I miss food A LOT. I drove by some of my favorite spots, and I had to pray...because I wished I could eat that stuff again. I haven't been advanced to Protein yet (probably will be on Thursday). What Protein shakes do you all like? The good news is I'm down 15.8 lbs! I am thrilled about that. My bra is loser, and I tried on 3 outfits in my closet and I could fit them! I even was able to wear a couple of 1X or X-Large items. That part is great! My husband is noticing every day, and he started calling me Skinny today. We are both happy that the weight is coming off. Also, do you all take a PPI. I take Zantac twice a day, and I still get this gnawing feeling at night. Some have suggested I change it if I'm feeling hungry, because it might be acid.

Maybe I need to try another. I am on Zantac twice a day. But, I do feel a gnawing in my stomach, especially at night. Which one worked for you? I have my post-op on Thursday, and I may ask to change. I hope I can have pureed...anything...I am so tired of liquids, and sweet taste.

You are so right...we as human beings can mess up. Especially if you have learned a dysfunctional way of loving from your upbringing. As far as a small criticism seeming like a crushing blow....yes, it definitely did. I hate being obese....it's also hard when it's coming from someone who looks like a statue (my husband has a gorgeous body), who has never had a weight issue. My husband has told me, I love you....but, no....I'm not attracted to you overweight, and it is not how I met you. We've only been together for 3 years (married a year and a half), and he met me 80 lbs lighter than I am. So, he feels like it's not OK with him. I do feel that is his right to express. But, I don't think he should say it mean (and he has). Having said that, he has been saying noting but kind things to me since surgery. He started calling me skinny today. He can see that the surgery is helping me lose weight, and he said he's excited to have his wife back. I'm so glad I followed my own truth, and pressed on (even when he was against the surgery). I think we will both be happier. Will all our marital issue be solved? Probably not. But, it's a start. The fat butt's being the rage is Hysterical! So funny! It's true....these young gals are injecting their's butts. I think it looks terrible. I can't wait till I have a skinny butt! On another note...did you have the surgery? I saw an update about your preparing, but you're profile says you had it...just curious. Thank you for taking the time to write to me. You're perspective was spot on. Have a great night!

Thank you for your concern. Yes, there is a shelter in my area. They have great support groups, that I have attended in the past. But, I don't plan to go there now. I'm not sure if you had a chance to read all of my posts, but a lot has changed in a short amount of time regarding my husband and my weight. He is seeing the change in just 14 days post op, and he has had nothing but kind things to say. I didn't marry him at the weight I got to, and it just wasn't attractive to him. To be honest, while I don't condone what he has said that has been cruel, and unkind...I have tried putting myself in his shoes, and I don't think after less than 2 years of a relationship...I would want him to put on a large amount of weight. So, in some ways I understand. And he isn't a food addict in the way I am....and he can eat normally...he simply doesn't get that I would eat fattening things, when I said I was unhappy with my weight. So, again thank you. And if my situation warrants going to a shelter...I definitely will. As far as Disability...the information I have gotten is to get an attorney if you are denied. I haven't applied yet. Just in the process...it's a LONG application.

Thank you for your post. I agree that emotional abuse is far more damaging than any abuse. I have unfortunately suffered a lot of abuse in my life. I have been in therapy, and domestic violence counseling in the past (for a past relationship). I plan on setting up Christian marital counseling as soon as I'm well enough. Again, thank you for your post.

This is very true.

Thank you for your heartfelt and very wise response. This is actually my second surgery in 8 weeks, so I really do need to rest and heal.....trying to do that daily. I don't plan on leaving my husband. His behavior has been abusive around my weight, and it is unacceptable, and I've told him that. I also see a man who does a lot to show me he loves me. He has taken care of me very well for both surgeries, and he works hard to take care of our family. It is clear to me that divorce also has consequences. I know a lot of divorced people, and believe me...that has it's own pain. It is not a decision that I, (or any one else for that matter) should take lightly. I really wanted support from the forum... to know that this thing my husband was doing (around my weight) was in fact wrong, and hurtful. I got that support, and I'm very grateful. Sometimes you need to know that...yes...it is OK to feel hurt by this person's behavior. Your words are really exactly what I needed to hear. I am taking this time to put the focus back on me, my healing, recovery, and the weight loss journey that I'm on. Thank you for taking the time to write such a heartfelt response. And I will take all the prayers I can get. Praying for you too!

So sorry for you loss, and so grateful that your husband is OK. That is A LOT to have happen...I would imagine that your emotions would be all over the place. Thanks for the update, and I'm lifting you and your family up in prayer. God bless you.

Hi, Welcome! This site has been invaluable to me. I'm 11 days Post op, and I can totally relate to your post. My husband was and is against the surgery. My sister is super supportive, but as a natuarally thin woman who can eat as much as I did...she doesn't really get the weight issue. I poured over this site for months before I started to post. I wasn't sure I would be approved, so I didn't want to post. Once I got approved I began to really utilize the support that is available here. It has been so great! I feel like I'm not so alone with this. I also benefit so much from posts that are sometimes 5 years old! I'm so glad people take the time to share...because you never know how helpful that can be for someone you'll never meet. So, again welcome! Feel free to reach out any time. ????

As I guessed, your husband is just a guy, and most guys don't really know how to talk to women (eventually most just learn to fake it). Similarly, most women "hear" things we men day, that we never intended! In terms of hunger post opt, I agree that my surgery didn't do much to diminish my appetite either. I used two other tools that always worked before - Protein and capsaicin. I found that if I avoid carbs, eat protein (some fat okay), and make everything spicy, my appetite says in check. Your experience is invaluable, thanks for sharing it. I can't wait to add protein, but I can't imagine anything spicy at the moment. Even broth with a more oniony taste has made my stomach hurt. The day cannot come soon enough for me to add real food. I don't see my doctor until next Thursday. Hopefully I'll get to add something heavier than Clear liquids.

Thank you for asking. So...the Good...I'm down 11 pounds, I see it in my face and feel it in my body, I was able to wear some "normal" clothes I have (Instead of the "I have no clothes that fit me...so I'm wearing yoga pants and sweatshirt every day" clothes), I can tell my husband notices and likes it, and I feel hopeful again about losing weight after being so defeated by gaining and not being able to lose. The Bad...I'm hungry... a lot... it has been hard for me to do the clear liquids since surgery day (I didn't have to do a pre-op diet), I'm tired (this is my second surgery in 8 weeks), I miss my food routine, and it seems like every where I look, TV, billboard, internet...show people eating or food. But, truly the good outweighs the bad, and I feel so blessed that my insurance paid for this surgery. I now it will get easier when I can eat. I am so excited for you! I was hungry for about 10 - 12 days post sleeve - once I started on soft foods, very little fills me up and I am almost never hungry anymore. I hope it will be the same for you. This is good to hear. I hope that happens for me too.

This drinking 16-32 ounces of Water, 20 ounces of broth, and the rest sf popsicles and Jello is really working! I got 70 ounces in yesterday & 66 ounces in today.

What is surgical menopause? Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App In the beginning of January I had a hysterectomy (uterus removed), along with both ovaries & fallopian tubes. Once your ovaries are gone, you go into instant menopause. They call it surgical menopause. The symptoms are much worse than regular menopause. I have terrible hot flashes, night sweats, and it can cause weight gain...so I am very glad I had the Sleeve. The good news...No more periods! I am very happy about that.

Hello All, Thank you for all of your words of encouragement, support, and experience. I just wanted to update you on things. So, I had my surgery on Feb. 23rd. I'm 10 days post op, and 11 lbs down. I feel great about that. I wanted to let you all know that my husband has been Amazing since the day I went in for surgery. He let me know that he did not agree or support the surgery, but he supports me. He drove me to the hospital, waited all day, stayed with me, came and visited the next day, brought me flowers, drove me home, went to the grocery several times, took over housework, and most importantly....he has been kind. I can see, and he has made comments that he notices the weight loss already. He has told me I look beautiful, and I can see he is making an effort to not be negative about the weight. As a Christian, we have the Holy Spirit to lead us and guide us in to all truth. He also chastens us when we are wrong. I believe He has been dealing with my husband, and that is in large part why he has been better about it. My husband has shown me that he does love me. I don't agree with the pain he's caused me with the weight comments. But, I am trying to look at the bigger picture. And, I see a man who is trying to do better. I have really tried to take your words to heart, and see myself as God sees me. What's hardest is my husband is just the most current person who has made comments, or made me feel bad about my weight. Every single person I have been with has had an issue when I've gained weight. They may not have been so aggressive or mean about it, but believe me....I know they didn't like it. I can't say I have the experience of being with someone with a weight issue. I have always dated fit people, and my husband is built like a model. So, maybe it would bother me too honestly. I don't really know. Back to post-op.....it's HARD! I am hungry. I can't wait to add more food. I guess I was hoping I would just wake up and not be hungry anymore. That hasn't been my experience. I definitely feel hunger. I'm praying that goes away once I can eat more regularly. Part of the reason I had the surgery was to be free of the ravenous hunger that has always plagued me, the other reason was so a normal portion would satisfy me (hence I would maintain a normal weight). I have always (since I was 5 and skinny needed A LOT of food to feel satisfied). So....we shall see. Thank you again for all of your replies. Good night and God bless!

Thank you so much for your response. I just saw that you wrote it. For some reason, I don't get all of my notifications. I am glad that you are doing well, and working on yourself....and that your self love is coming back. I too have the unfortunate experience of being with a sociopath (before I met my husband)...he really destroyed my life and he too had negative things to say about my weight. Truthfully, my weight has been a problem in every relationship I've been in...mind you...I'm not trying to boast...but, I'm not an ugly woman...even with weight on me. I have just never stayed a certain size, and have yoyo'd all my life. So, my husband has just been another person who has made me feel not good enough about my weight, the problem is I have a love for him as my husband...that I've never had for any other person. I was glad to hear from other people that I'm not crazy, but it is mean to keep at someone about their weight. I don't plan on leaving him now, but it helps to know that I am worthy and people are praying for me and for us. I appreciate all of your supportive and kind words. They mean a lot to me. God bless you!

Wow...Congratulations! So glad to hear of your success. I had my surgery with Dr. C on Feb. 23rd. I hope to have the same things to say in three months. Well done!

I'm 10 days out, and this has happened to me yesterday and today also.

Also, I am hot and cold constantly...but I just went into surgical menopause 8 weeks ago, and I was thinking that's why I was colder. I am either freezing cold or burning hot. Not fun...AT all.

Hello All, Congratulations on the losses. Just checking in. So, I went to a Dr. appointment yesterday...and they weighed me...on the good scale (you know the big one)....I freaked out a little (because I was going to try and wait 30 days to weigh)...well, no such luck...I ripped off my shoes and jacket (we don't want any extra weight now!), and I lost 11 lbs. since the day of surgery (and 21 since coming home...the I was so happy to see a loss. The 10 lbs was from IV fluids for sure...so I don't really count that as a loss). Also, my bra is much loser and I put on "regular" clothes today...instead of my "yoga pants and T-shirts" because I can't fit any of my clothes. I feel better in my body already, and I can see it in my face too. That was the good part of my day yesterday. The bad part is my Dr. was very rude to me, and basically told me he won't support me for Social Security Disability (I have a couple of chronic incurable diseases, one of them is rare and very painful). So, I wanted to burst into tears. I walked out of the Drs. office, it was lunch time, and I was surrounded by restaurants that I ate at and the smell of so many foods that I ate. I wanted to eat SO bad. As soon as I felt those emotions, my mind went right to wanting to eat. I really had to pray. I also was out, so my Fluid intake was not up to where it should be...that made being hungry worse. I didn't have anything, thank God. But, it was super hard. It has been harder ever since. I can't wait until I can be upgraded to food. So that's about it...have a great night!

Thank you for asking. So...the Good...I'm down 11 pounds, I see it in my face and feel it in my body, I was able to wear some "normal" clothes I have (Instead of the "I have no clothes that fit me...so I'm wearing yoga pants and sweatshirt every day" clothes), I can tell my husband notices and likes it, and I feel hopeful again about losing weight after being so defeated by gaining and not being able to lose. The Bad...I'm hungry... a lot... it has been hard for me to do the clear liquids since surgery day (I didn't have to do a pre-op diet), I'm tired (this is my second surgery in 8 weeks), I miss my food routine, and it seems like every where I look, TV, billboard, internet...show people eating or food. But, truly the good outweighs the bad, and I feel so blessed that my insurance paid for this surgery. I now it will get easier when I can eat. I am so excited for you! I have the 7 day liquid diet the last day being clear liquids. I don't know how that's going to work, but I'm going to do my best! 7 days isn't too bad. Many people have a 2 week preop diet. You'll be able to. It's easier for some than others. I just keep thinking....keep your eye on the prize. One day this will be a distant memory and we will be healthier and happier in our bodies.

Thank you for asking. So...the Good...I'm down 11 pounds, I see it in my face and feel it in my body, I was able to wear some "normal" clothes I have (Instead of the "I have no clothes that fit me...so I'm wearing yoga pants and sweatshirt every day" clothes), I can tell my husband notices and likes it, and I feel hopeful again about losing weight after being so defeated by gaining and not being able to lose. The Bad...I'm hungry... a lot... it has been hard for me to do the Clear liquids since surgery day (I didn't have to do a pre-op diet), I'm tired (this is my second surgery in 8 weeks), I miss my food routine, and it seems like every where I look, TV, billboard, internet...show people eating or food. But, truly the good outweighs the bad, and I feel so blessed that my insurance paid for this surgery. I now it will get easier when I can eat. I am so excited for you!

PRAISE God! I'm so Happy to hear this! I'm 10 days out and already seeing a difference. Thanking God every day for this surgery. I'm so glad it worked out for you.