I applaud your studying and carefully considering your decision. I was banded in July of last year. On Wednesday of this week, I had to have my band removed and another one put on. My band had slipped. Even with all of that, I'm glad I did it. I've struggled with weight all of my life. I think I've gained and lost 10 people in my 45 years. I've lost 55 pounds with another 30 left to go. What I love about it is that it is a lifelong tool. My daughter is also doing it next week. I'm 2 days post-surgery. While I don't have much pain, I am still really sore and having a little problem with the gas. But, the worst issue is that the pain meds make me irritable. With young children, I would suggest getting help for several days. You really shouldn't be lifting them and you need to focus on you for just a few days. Just plan to be selfish for a week or so. Lots of Luck.