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@@Alex Brecher - Thank you for that reply! You're absolutely right. I have been all over the internet looking for people who aren't as happy with their decision, I wanted to hear from both sides. And now that I have, I have made the decision to go for it.
"If your doctor suddenly said you’re not a candidate and you need to do this on your own, would you cry, or would you be relieved? If you’d be relieved, WLS may not be for you."

When I think about it that way, I know I would cry. So that completely validates my decision. Now I know I am going down the right path! Thank you!

@@James Marusek Thank you so much! That is really helpful and eases my fears a little. ((hug))

Tell me about your life! How limited is your new way of eating? The fear of dumping is honestly the only thing making me lean towards the sleeve. I do think that dumping is a blessing in disguise, and part of me wants it to keep me from eating things I shouldn't. BUT my hubby said "You won't always have perfectly prepared meals for the rest of your life." And he's right. Life happens, and when it does I don't want to dump!! So please tell me what your average day looks like, tell me things that make you dump that you have to avoid. I know everyone is different, but I just want to see what your experience has been like. Thank you!!

I just went to an oreintation this morning and I am just wondering for those of you who have had RNY what kind of things you can/cannot eat? I am terrified of dumping syndrome, so I think thaty would be a good way to stay on track. But what do you do on a rare lazy night when you don't have any food in the fridge and the family just wants take-out or to order a pizza? How do you handle those kinds of situations? Will I just have to man-up and make myself a chicken breast or something? That's totally do-able, but I'm just curious. I just want to go into this knowing exactly what I can expect for my post-op life.

@@VSGAnn2014 AMAZING!!!!! That is THE BEST NEWS ever!! So happy for you and your hubby!!

@@JamieLogical - I completely agree about the stomach staying inside...freaks me out! And you make an excellent point that probably just made my decision for me - That if the old stomach develops ulcers/cancer it cannot be checked out with an endoscopy. Thank you for this post!

Wow, @@CanyonBaby thank you so much! I really appreciate your kind words. To be quite honest, I almost feel that by choosing WLS I am "being bad" or "disobeying" my family. (Mom, Hubby, sister and Grandma mostly) Like I will have to defend myself and my decision. And I know I won't ever be able to say anything less than stellar about it or I will get read the riot act about how I never should have done that to myself. This whole thing has really opened my eyes about how judgmental my family is and how they feel entitled to impose their thoughts/beliefs/ideas on the rest of us. And sadly, I can't keep it from them, I work with my Mom...so she obviously will know what's up when I have to request time off for surgery. And she won't keep something like this a secret. I'm pretty sad about it all. I know I will be going into this pretty much alone - which I have accepted, this is my journey and my choice alone. I just wish I had a family member or two who supported me. But regardless, I am starting to feel that is this the right path, and I will walk it alone if I have to!

You are all 100% right. Way to hit the nail on the head. Thank you. Especially Iclemur, that is EXACTLY how I feel, like I want to nip this in the bud before I am facing medical issues. And Miss Mac, I literally LOL'ed at increasing hubby's life insurance, but we probably should!

My doctor recommended me for bariatric surgery. She said I am a "prime candidate". The surgeon is supposed to be calling me soon to schedule my first appointment. Before all this, I actually have been attending a class on Mindful Eating (which is required for bariatric patients) but I was just taking it in an effort to become more in-tune with myself and my food issues. I honestly had never even considered weight loss surgery. I always saw it as something I would never do, as a last resort for people who couldn't lose the weight, who had hundredS of pounds to loose, or who have major medical issues. But here I am at 246lbs and only 5'0. My BMI is 48, I should probably loose 125-ish lbs. I have been heavy pretty much my entire adult life. I do not have any major medical issues, but my father passed away due to type 2 diabetes complications in his late 40's and my mother has high blood pressure and high cholesterol. I have tried everything to lose weight, and I have been semi-successful in the past (never got to goal though), only to be derailed by pregnancy. Then after baby, I get back on track and loose some weight, then gain some, loose some, BAM pregnant again, and the cycle continues I'm sure you all know the story. I am having a hard time coming to terms with the idea of weight loss surgery. It is very overwhelming and kind of humbling. I am still in the getting info stage, but the way I have been thinking about it and talking about it to my hubby and my Mom, I feel like I have already decided. But I'm scared to admit it to myself. Seeing as though I have no major medical issues, I feel like this is a little motivated by vanity. And I really struggle with that. Maybe that is my fat brain trying to convince me not to do it? I *AM* morbidly obese, 246lbs is WAY too much for my little 5'0 frame to carry, I am sore and tired all the time. I do get winded on short walks. And I do need to do something if I don't want to end up like my Dad. But does it really need to be WLS? I do feel desperate, like I have exhausted every other option. I am ashamed of having WLS...is that normal? I feel like my family does not support it...and they are all frowning upon me for looking into it. I know their opinions "do not matter", but it's hard to ignore EVERYONE around me. Even my hubby "just doesn't really like the idea", but he will support me in whatever I decide to do. (But long story, I feel like he kind of sub-consciously likes me fat and insecure as he is very heavy as well) I just don't know how I feel about the whole thing. I want to be excited about it, but it's hard.

Thank you for your responses!

B-52: I'm sorry, I said that wrong, I didn't mean "diet" like I'm dieting to lose weight, I meant diet like the foods we eat on a daily basis are what make up our diet.

I have been talking to a friend who had gastric bypass, and the scare of dumping syndrome made me freak out a little. But the more I read, I am seeing that does not happen with the sleeve. Guess I just have more learning to do!

For those of you who are 5+ years post-op, how do you feel about your life/diet post-op? I am looking into bariatric surgery. My Doctor referred me to a surgeon, and I will be going to a class. I am feeling very overwhelmed and a little intimidated by the idea of committing myself to that restrictive diet for the rest of my life. I know it's necessary, but if it were that easy I wouldn't be needing bariatric surgery in the first place. I guess it's all a matter of getting your head in the game 100%...any tips?