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I am on multiple sites but some I have put more into the profile than others. Messaged quite a few women and none of them have returned my message. I really liked the first woman. I immediately knew I wanted a second date. The second woman I wasn't feeling it. I spent more time thinking about when can I go home and how do I tell her I'm not interested. There's also a part of me that thinks maybe she did have legitimate car issues. This seems like high school drama.

This is why you should be pursuing more than one person. It's a numbers game right now. I did this for more than a year till I got lucky and found someone I wanted to be exclusive with. I will admit I wasn't comfortable with more than one man at the same time, but it's what you have to do. Just so you know...I did not become physically intimate with any of them. The only one is the man I'm now exclusive with. This isn't a judgement...I'm just letting you know how I approached it. I have been but no luck. I would definitely meet with someone else if I could find that person.

So I offered to pick her up and she said she appreciated that. She said she needed to get a new car. I proceeded to make small talk and after a couple exchanges she went silent. For a week. Then today out of the blue she asks how am I doing. I told myself I had moved on. I enjoyed our first meeting so I'm tempted to respond. I don't think I'm being to clingy expecting a second date in less than a month after the first.

I'm wanting to join a gym to do some strength training. Looking to continue to lose weight but hopefully keep some muscle mass and tone up. I have cardio equipment at my house. I would only be going for about 3 days a week since I do cardio at home so that's why Planet's cheap rates are appealing. Is it really judgement free? I would like a gym that has more people looking to lose weight than people bodybuilding. I've lost 50 pounds already but I still weigh 420 pounds. Am I even going to be able to fit in the machines? I would hate to buy a membership and I can't even use any of the machines.

I'm not going to pursue the woman at work. Don't need to make things awkward at work. Just surprising the odds we would be matched given the thousands of available people in my area plus the fact there are hundreds of people where I work and I would be matched with someone I know.

Well I discovered something interesting today. While perusing my matches on eHarmony, I noticed I was matched with a co-worker. This is someone who I like a lot and didn't know she was single. I'm wondering if I should pursue this? Not sure about office politics. It would also then become awkward if she wasn't interested in a romantic relationship.

It's not going to work with the second woman. I got a text this morning and basically said she wasn't interested. I was more relieved than disappointed. She was nice but I just didn't feel it. I was wondering how to approach that and she did it for me.

I met the new woman. It was ok. She was nice but I didn't get the same vibe as the first one. She didn't leave any hints about meeting a second time like the first one. Speaking of the first one, she texted me while I was with the other woman. She said she felt bad because she was looking forward to meeting. Would it be ok if I offered to pick her up?

I was wondering if it would be creepy if I offered to pick her up? Not sure how a woman would feel having a man come to her house on a second date.

Well technically not another state but another country. She works in the US and crosses the border each day for work. She works be me so we're going to meet after work. Not sure how the logistics of this is going to work. The majority of the hour commute is crossing the border. Now the other woman finally answered and said she is having car issues. I'm not sure how I should proceed.

Kind of feeling suspicious she is seeing someone else and maybe I'm a back up. If it's this difficult to talk to her again and get another date, what's the point? It sucks because I had a good time and she seemed to as well. The other woman lives about an hour away so it's not like we can just meet after work or something so that kind of sucks.

I asked her about seeing a movie since she had mentioned that when we first met.

So she finally gets back to me and wants to meet. We agree on a day and I ask her what she would like to do. She asked what I thought so I made a suggestion. Nothing. Is this some game? Is this what they call playing hard to get? I liked our first meeting but this is becoming too much work. Meanwhile I have been chatting with another woman. She is kind of far away so I'm not sure how that will work.

So she texted back and we had a little back and forth. I asked about meeting again and she said she would like that a lot. I then asked her when she is available and gave a suggestion of something we can do. This was Monday and I received no response yet. Not sure what I'm supposed to do now. I assume the ball is in her court so I just wait and move on if no response?

Text sent. I guess I wait and see.

Still haven't heard anything back. She said she was going to text me. Is she waiting for me to text? Have I waited too long or not long enough? I'm not sure what to say.

She said she was going to text me. That's why I'm nervous making the first contact. I don't want to come off as desperate.

I have to say everything went well. We ended up talking for about an hour and a half. She was the one who brought up going out a second time and asked when I would be available. She is going to text me perhaps this weekend or next week.

Actually going today. I have no idea what I'm going to talk about it. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Did my second workout. Sunday afternoon and it was pretty empty which was nice. I ended up doing chest press, leg press, underhand delt row. Then shoulder press, calf extensions, low back extension. Then chest flys, leg curls, and overhand delt rows. My plan was to do 3 sets of each but got tired after 2. Since it is only my second time I'm going to build up to 3 sets of each at about 12 reps. I probably could have done a little more weight but I'll build up to that. My legs and arms aren't nearly as sore as the first day. So far I'm liking Planet. Worth the $10.

Did my first workout today. Place wasn't too busy. There was two of every machine so there wasn't a wait for machines. I fumbled around a bit getting the lay of the land. I was a bit surprised by how little weight I could lift. Used to lift a lot more in high school. This was more an orientation. I still think I got a good workout. Not sore yet but my arms and legs are tired. I couldn't do lat pulldowns. My ass was hanging off the seat. Have to lose some more weight before I can do them. I ended up doing chest press, shoulder press, chest flys, leg press, calf raises, low back extensions, and delt rows. Didn't do leg curls because it looked like I couldn't fit in the machine. I'm going back Sunday. Since this was my first time lifting in a long time, I'll give an extra day.

I noticed there was a giant box of Cheez Its behind the counter. I just want to go there to lift so the gimmicks don't bother me. Didn't notice any bodybuilder types. There were some fit people but I would say most were normal to overweight. The location is ideal for me. It's 2.5 miles away and I can get there by taking all side streets so come spring I can ride my bike there.

Checked out Planet. Decided to go with them. They had a wide assortment of people. I had been driving by checking the parking lot and today was the busiest I had ever seen it. Took the tour and all the machines were available. Some of the downsides is there are some winners. One woman was just camped on the leg press playing with her phone. They had all the machines that LA had. Weight is weight. I'll pay less for the weight.

I'm assuming Planet is staffed 24 hours so I can show up at night and get a tour? Don't really have time during the day. Think I may go there tonight and check it out.

I think I'll try my city community center. I can get a one day pass for $5. It also includes access to the pool and Water exercise classes. I think I'll go tomorrow and pay $5 and then decide.