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    Frustrated

    I hope you're not surprised that the people on the front lines of the UHC phone system are slightly less swift than corpses. They are affable nitwits minus the charm and loveability of Minions. They are designed to be all but impossible to navigate, but check your plan books anyway. Check especially for the address to which to get to the next level up for information. When you call again, demand to speak with someone in an "office" rather than a call center and be frank that it's because you've had five different answers. At the same time, be polite or the call center person will certainly hand you over to whomever is to it's left. Above all, request the info from the insurance coordinator at a surgery practice you're considering. I hope you're not surprised that the people on the front lines of the UHC phone system are slightly less swift than corpses. They are affable nitwits minus the charm and loveability of Minions. They are designed to be all but impossible to navigate, but check your plan books anyway. Check especially for the address to which to get to the next level up for information. When you call again, demand to speak with someone in an "office" rather than a call center and be frank that it's because you've had five different answers. At the same time, be polite or the call center person will certainly hand you over to whomever is to it's left. Above all, request the info from the insurance coordinator at a surgery practice you're considering.
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    I Have My One Year Follow Up Today

    ATTAGIRL!!! KNOCK 'EM OUT, TIGER!!! YOU TOCK ROCK!!! YOU ARE MY HEROINE!!! YOU ARE BRILLIANT!!! YOU ARE GORGEOUS!!! Have I told you that I'm thrilled for you?
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    Oh, the lying!

    You make it sound so easy to be Dub. That's nice.
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    Oh, the lying!

    I did follow your story, hence, my saying "go ahead" if you want to fill in the blanks, but I think that the seeds of the snowball are more significant. Since you're more concerned with what's going on today, why not tell the close friends in a casual way? You're not confessing a crime, only sharing more information that you found especially personal at the start. If asked, you can throw in why you were hesitant. Whatever you decide to do now, keep it simple for your own peace of mind. Since you've lost so much weight, the close friends are more than likely to be supportive and as happy for you as you are. Hundreds of friends? I can't conceive of being able to say that myself. That I'm acquainted with hundreds, yes, but I'd be slightly exaggerating to say "friends." Are you very famous?
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    Oh, the lying!

    @@Cape Crooner, you and your lovely wife made an enormous mountain out of a molehill from the start. The people in the support group who advised you to keep quiet did, I hope, give you their reasons. Yes, there are those who will accuse you of taking the "easy way" out or judge you for not having "discipline and self-control" enough to lose weight without surgery. Those are the ones who don't count. Those are the ones to tell that you're happy with your results and the choice was yours, thank you kindly. It was fine to ask your mother to stop making announcements, but to call all those whom she talked with was overkill. Only frightened rabbits and headless chickens scurry about. You are well within your rights to omit the part about surgery when answering questions. If you wish to reveal the missing detail to any of your obese friends, go ahead. It's not as big a deal as you seem to think. Some will talk about the "easy way." They are the ones who are fearful rather than judgmental. Many people in BP felt that way and then noticed their thinking begin to change. As to your opening lines, there is a vast difference between discussing surgery with someone who is interested and being an evangelist. It's my opinion that no one is more inappropriate, tiresome and plain annoying and obnoxious than a proselytizer. Grownups are capable of making their own choices. Take a deep breath. Calm down. You're fine.
  6. The clothing exchange was a success for the participants and very much so for me, having at long last gotten to meet the woman who, after a phone conversation six years ago, made me want to partner with our host organization. Other things made is special, too. One of the best evenings of any type that I've had in a while. I'm charged and ready for the next event.

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      Christinamo7

      I am glad to hear it

       

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    Will I eat good foods again?

    You're absolutely correct: Nothing wrong with that in the least. Just keep in mind that the learning process after surgery is pretty lengthy. Many of the questions that will occur to you naturally have occurred to most people and will occur to newcomers down the line. The truth is that a good many of the questions have no reliable answers. Five people will describe five experiences. This is not to say that you shouldn't ask. I'm a great fan of having no unpleasant surprises. Hearing what people have experienced at least lets you [us] know what is possible. Asking is good. Best wishes as you go along.
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    I'm going to scream....

    It's cathartic for me to spew such language. Friends laugh when I toss out some words. They say it's so rare that it sounds funny coming from me and that the rarity makes it all the more effective. I think my mouth has been pottier in BP than it has in the past three years everywhere else.
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    Met someone I am really into

    @@CowgirlJane -- Sometimes we just have to fling ourselves off a cliff. Maybe you've at least lifted a foot toward that end without being aware. It may seem simple, but I really do think that your car-washing date is significant. It's letting him into your day-to-day, non dress-up life. You'll get messy and have simple, laughing fun without the stiffness of earlier, getting-to-know-you-and-wanting-to-make-an-impression sort of date. You'll very much be Casual Jane in your own environment. You're not going to turn off the inner tension in a blink. More important, you're not turning from it. Keep doing what you're doing. I think it's safe to say that we'll all pitch in at the next hurdle.
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    Strength Training

    @@rydersmama, yes to strength training. It's good for so much, including your bones. Work with a trainer a couple three times and, then when you're ready to take it up a notch, you can have another session. To avoid injuring yourself, there are a number of strength exercises that shouldn't be done by beginners or people who have certain muscles not yet developed. A good trainer will advise you. You'll find lots of online info that will answer questions and raise new, important ones as you go along. YOu can try sparkpeople.com and/or livestrong.com, just two of the sources. YOu may find info here in BP. You'll also find info on how to choose the right trainer in a number of places. Keep in mind that not all trainers are created equal. Also keep in mind that, if you have a particular physical concern, you want someone who is familiar with the condition.
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    Met someone I am really into

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    Met someone I am really into

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    Met someone I am really into

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    Met someone I am really into

    It sounds as though you may be in the third month of seeing M, going into the fourth? I think it's been about that long since you were having the health problems. Why not take one layer of anguish off yourself. Just acknowledge that it's okay to feel fearful. Not that it's a desirable condition, but it just is the way it is. At the same time, acknowledge that the fearfulness is well known in the world of dating and letting relationships blossom. By all means discuss it with M. He sounds like a good man and you may be correct. His relaxed, no-hurry stance and not applying pressure may well mean that he's gleaned the fear. If so, his sticking around says that he is indeed interested in you. I really do think that your upcoming date to clean the winter buildup from your vehicles is a real "step." Lots of everyday life's tasks are unglamorous. To agree to take part in them says that he just wants your company, mud and all. "Discussing it" is not the same as blurting it out. It makes sense to wait until there's a natural opening for the discussion. The talk shouldn't be a "big deal," lest your fear turn into a living, breathing elephant in the middle of the room. It should, however, be more than two sentences. If a man were fearful of getting closer with me (and that happens twice before Breakfast nearly every day, don't you know), I'd want to know what he needs from me to help him relax. This, of course, not in the first few weeks or so, when it would be bizarrely premature. You wouldn't even need to say "This is a part of my personality that I'm trying to change." The fact that you'd enter the discussion make it clear. I hope I've helped.
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    I'm going to scream....

    @@her1981, kick their freaking shins and scream, "You asssholes, get the fucke away from me. Stinking, low-life morons." Yes, thank you, Kindle. You spared me the nuisance of deciding on how to get a bad word past the censors.
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    "15 New Ways to Use Protein Powder"

    As a non-user of protein powder, I do see many inquiries in BP as to what to do with it. The link is to a sparkpeople.com article. I haven't looked at the suggestions and, even if I had, wouldn't know whether any of them are "new." That's for y'all to determine. I'm just trying to help. As to choosing htis particular forum within "recipe sharing," hey, I had to pick something. http://www.sparkpeople.com/blog/blog.asp?post=15_new_ways_to_use_protein_powder
  17. Ay, there's the rub. Comparing them side by side, losing weight is [far] easier than maintaining the weight loss for the long term. Surgery makes maintenance easier, certainly, but only if the individual follows the 'rules' that apply. It's imperative that you know that it's possible to regain even with surgery if one begins to eat all the wrong things. Weight-loss for life means some work. People do succeed when they are determined and fully aware and appreciative of how much better off they are in all ways.
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    Why do ppl tell me I don't need surgery?

    Er, um, hm. I said "pupik" and you said "kitty." Are you being cryptic-polite? Are we speaking of the same thing?
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    Why do ppl tell me I don't need surgery?

    Sez you with your flat tummy and newly-fashioned pupik.
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    Why do ppl tell me I don't need surgery?

    Oh-oh, we were on different wavelengths. My reference to being educated was in the sense of knowledgeable about WLS, not about formal education. I was curious about your stance as a professional on the politicization of WLS. Many who have formal schooling or native intelligence are wildly narrow-minded. The reverse holds, too. I suppose I lean toward ignoring the dolts partly because my surgery was long ago enough that the surgery itself has taken a back seat and partly because other things going on in my life take up the time and energy. If, however, I encounter a true Neanderthal or Luddite, I'll be to storm the Bastille to defend the honor of bariatrics and the people who love it.
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    Why do ppl tell me I don't need surgery?

    @@Kelly84, most people who are contemplating surgery run into the misconceptions and bias you're encountering. Some surgery people welcome the opportunity to educate the uneducated and biased. That's fine. If you're of the other persuasion, you're under no obligation to provide apologia. You are free to use your time and mind a suits you. As you're an RN, I am curious to know which way you lean. Please tell. Above all, all the best to you.
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    How to Change your Mind....

    Yup, you're dealing with a lot now. Definitely some therapy, methinks, for a while and then, if you choose, continuing. With all the emotional adjustments that you're making and want to make, you'll do well to have someone to work with. The simple "Thank you" is a good goal. Do it by rote until you really mean it. It never feels good about ourselves to insult or negate the person who is being positive toward us. The other thing that occurs to me is that the friend or associate isn't my shrink.
  23. No, not every little thing that happens in the two months post-op is a result of surgery, not even that mosquito bite.

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    How to Change your Mind....

    @@treblecutie23, if it helps, you're not alone. A book that might help is "The Weight Loss Surgery Coping Companion: A Practical Guide for Coping with Post-Surgery Emotions" by Tanie Miller Kabala, PhD. I just learned that a second edition is available. Dr. Kabala is a psychologist who works with people who are where you are and at other stages of weight-loss and body image concerns, etc. She also does pre-surgery evaluations. The book is slim (not quite 100 pages) which, I think, is probably friendliest for someone at a particularly rough point and not wanting ponderous reading. It's something of a workbook with space to write out the exercises, et al. For that reason, it's probably sensible to use a notebook, keeping the book itself pristine for revisiting as emotions change. The chapters include coping with loneliness, anger, anxiety, depression and more. You might also consider working with a therapist, probably a CBT practitioner.
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    Should I give away all of my clothes that are too big?

    @@iwillbeachitagain, it's for life if that is your intention and you are willing to exercise the diligence necessary to maintain.

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