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He isn't alone unless your mother and brother are incompetent or incapable. Another option is a home aide to care for him.

You know that the general rule is not to drink calories. I've pretty much adhered to it, but occasionally -- rarely, to be accurate -- revel in a glass or two of orange or pineapple juice. I'll buy only a one-pint container of OJ and stretch it over two days. The couple of times a year that I buy a large can of the other, I drink a glass or two and freeze the rest in portions to be used in marinades. If having a little of something wonderful makes it easier to stay the course, I say Yes. What applies to me and my band may not apply to you and bypass. I can't guess because you've revealed nothing about your surgery history/timeline. Make the correct decision. If you opt for juice, account for it in your food-tracking. All the best to you. Good night.

Make it a priority goal to move out to a more civilized, kinder environment. Look for an apartment on your own or for a roommate situation. Your parents and brother aren't the nicest people. You don't have to ditch them completely, but if you're not with them so much of the time, the time that you do spend together may be improved.

My dermatologist recommend Eucerin Calming Cream when I saw him one winter and was completely dry because of the dry heat in my apartment. I know that CVS has their version, Something-Something-Soothing-Cream, which will cost a little less. A notation on the tube will say "compare to the.[the name brand]." I suppose other large chains have their private-label versions. P.S. It works for me. I apply whenever my skin starts to feel like sandpaper without my even touching it or when it feels almost painful.

@@Kumbaice -- When you wake up tomorrow with some soreness and maybe with bruises, enjoy them. These will be the most delicious pains of your life. @@Flora Anderson -- Anything physical, no matter how ordinary, that you couldn't do quite so easily or at all before surgery most definitely is an NSV. Don't cheat yourself out of any of them.

Weight loss is about losing fat. Alas, the skin doesn't go with it. Now you know first-hand. I've never heard of the misconception before and hope that anyone who shares it with y'all comes by to read this topic. Khuuxo, I hope you find the way to what you want.

@@Djmohr -- Re your post #5, not a quick fix for anyone. Think of the many newcomers whose posts clearly show that they expect surgery to be a magical cure up to and including elimination of the need to be alert forever after when maintaining. As a lapbander, I know that many BP members have revised from it to either sleeve or bypass. A while back I thought I might be a candidate, but so far, so good. The whole revision thing can be is confusing. About four years ago I met a woman who had bypass surgery and revised to band. I wish I could recall the reason she gave. It may be that another person here in BP revised to band, too. @@10stackzz, did you mean that, without vigilance, surgery may be a temp fix rather than a quick one? I was never clear on what "quick fix" means in any regard.

Yes, I do wish it worked like FB where you can't see them and more importantly, they can't see you. I think that would stop a LOT of issues. That said, I don't click on the names of people I ignore 99% of the time. What would be the point? Some time back I suggested to the BP people that total blocking be set up. The response rang snippy. I have clicked on a few of my ignorees (new coinage?) a number of times, but not deliberately. Sometimes I grip the mouse more tightly than necessary when I'm moving the arrow around the screen. What I don't get is why certain parties go to my profile -- some rarely and others often -- when at least one of us has never dealt with the other well or or we've never communicated at all. It seems that one who's blocked me shows up weekly.

It seems to me that people who lose gobs of weight and are judgmental of others who are overweight were equaily judgmental before they lost weight. The possible reasons are many, so I won't even take time to name any. You can figure them out.

I'm numbering things for the sake of simplicity instead of going in circles. I know something about depression and hiding out and ups and downs. 1. They may need reevaluating. If the prescriber is your PCP, ask for a referral to a psychiatrist or NP-type who precribes psych meds. It's their job to know the full array of available meds. 2. With luck, this drop in mood is the result of the holiday season. Now that it's over, your mood may improve on its own. 3. That sounds as much like a refusal as an explanation. Sure, you have no motivation because you're feeling crappy. Do something, anything -- e.g., take a walk once around the block -- just for the stimulation. You won't feel motivated until you do something that will motivate you. To sit and wait for Motivation to knock risks sitting forever. Once around the block today. 4. "Drunk" has always been a known mood bummer. You know that. There's a huge difference between being drunk and having one or a couple of drinks. "Couple" is two. 5. Of course they have their merits and charms, but boys aren't necessarily the solution. The "anything" is the more concerning part, whether the absence of "anything" is real or just because your perceptions are messed these days. 6. Take that walk. Pay attention to everyone and everything you see and hear along the way. Once you're back home, write about it. Write down what struck you and why, whether it was a bird hopping and pecking along a lawn or a kid on a tricycle or a neighbor taking out the garbage. You'll discover that you are in fact connected to the world. Maybe you'll have learned some little thing that you'd never thought of before. Life is in the mundane as well as the large things.

Whoa, sugarplum, don't think in terms of hiding your proud accomplishments. Get out there and strut your stuff. Let them eat their hearts out.

You don't have to tell anyone about surgery. At school, just let the people who need to know (faculty, I suppose) that you'll miss classes for the period because of a personal or family matter that needs attention. Ask them for the assignments they'll be giving during that time. If you're in the U.S. and your job's medical plan is paying for surgery, only whomever in personnel will know from the paperwork. Your supervisors have no right to ask or know. When arranging with supervisors for the time off, tell them the same -- family or personal matter., Certainly the weight loss will be evident soon enough. When asked, simple: I changed the way I eat and [if you do] started to exercise. It's all true.

You won't know until you get there. Of all the things that can strike fear in one's life, is not being able to chug really on the list? Ask yourself whether, if you knew for sure that you'd never be able to chug again, you would cancel surgery. There's your answer.

Some surgeons want a psych eval, but most often, it's required only by an insurance company. One less expense out of your pocket.

These articles on what to eat before and after exercise (from SparkPeople.com) should help you get started. http://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/nutrition_articles.asp?id=1074 http://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/nutrition_articles.asp?id=1082 http://www.sparkpeople.com/blog/blog.asp?post=you_asked_what_should_i_eat_before_i_work_out Keep in mind that they're not written specifically for surgery people, but that doesn't mean you can't adapt as necessary.

She's wrong. Drop "pretty" from that sentence. Your view of all aspects is solid gold. [is that friend noticeably overweight? If so, there's your answer.]

@@swimbikerun, I am pleased with the outcome. I believe that the facility has tidied its act. That's what was needed. Filing a complaint with HIPAA can accomplish nothing more. When I spoke with the exec I questioned her minutely. My intention was two-fold: To hear how they were tightening up their act and to imply that I wouldn't hesitate to go to HIPAA if she weren't convincing. Now I'm moving on.

Earlier today I posted an article on dealing with non-supportive spouses because the subject comes up daily. Take a look. http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/387091-article-on-those-unsupportive-spousespartners/

Silly woman, why would you want a clean house when it's so much easier to let it go to pot? Aren't you going to point me in the direction of the forum you spoke of at the top?

Then your saline level definitely needs to be reevaluated and increased. That you didn't have all that much to lose doesn't play into it. The fact is that the band just isn't where you need it. You want it where you feel satiated sooner than you experienced pre-surgery. If the RD at your practice is really good, consider making an appointment to plan a new approach. The hysterectomy may well have an affect and can be taken into account. See the RD can also help you clean up your choices. If your not exercising, try starting. And what's this "Treacle" business? That's murder on the scale. Try "Thumbelina." I really hope you get on a better track. Make that "Trackle."

That's all well and good. You look like a more interesting version. Really. P.S. You and @@ShelterDog64 "liked" message #6. Sometimes I wish BP gave the ability to "like" a "like."

Huh? Mental, emotional, spiritual health, wellness forum? In which county? Haven't seen your name around in some time, @swimbikerun. Nice to see it again.

You have to be your own supportive person. You've lost pre-surgery weight so far with him in the picture. Doesn't that tell you can lose the rest? Do errands on your own. Leave him by the side of the road after a fashion. His habits are his habits; look the other way. . It would be nice, too, if Warren Buffett were to name you a beneficiary of his estate. You can't have it all. Don't watch TV with him. Do more out-and-abouting. Sometimes a home has termites. Concentrate on what you're doing and what your immediate goal is. Ignore the junk-guzzler.

I used quotation marks on "disorder" as I don't really know about that -- whether the term is meaningful or real, et al. A rose by any name, however, may be useful around here. http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/eating-disorders/binge-eating-disorder/ss/slideshow-binge-eating-disorder