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My husband had surgery March 3rd. He is doing fairly well with eating. He is having some trouble with indigestion though. I think he is identifying the cause. My main question is how can I help him get out of this funk. He seems depressed. Doesn't want to go or do much other than watch tv. He mentioned calling his surgeon for something for depression. I called for him but the surgeon said he should contact his family dr. I can't get him to go to his dr. I want to be supportive and not a nag. Any ideas?

My husband stayed home from work yesterday. Today he went to work but came home early. On top of having surgery and feeling down in the dumps, he has a bad back that is acting up right now. I asked him earlier if he felt like going for a drive or maybe meeting a friend for a bite to eat. To my surprise he picked up the phone and called his best friend! I'm thrilled! We have plans to drive out to his friends ranch to see his new colt and then go to dinner. Of course we will be sharing a plate ????I'm just so over joyed that he is willing to get out of his recliner and do something! Maybe he is turning the corner where his depression goes! It is a good sign!

Thank you all for the advice and encouragement. He is a professional who is used to taking customers out for lunch etc. I know one day he will be able to do that again. I know he misses the social interaction of going to lunch with friends and customers. One day, hopefully for his sake it will be sooner rather than later.

@@sharonintx thank you for your response. It helps to know others have faced this. Did you overcome your depression on your own? Did your doctor prescribe anything to help you?

@@Elode this depression has been since his surgery. He has never had any history of depression before. The surgery was totally his choice and I have been supportive. Even doing the liquid diet with him prior to surgery and eating light since. I've lost 10 pounds on this journey with him. He says he feels like he lost a best friend. Also his energy is very low no doubt in part to the surgery and anesthesia. He wasn't expecting that to be the case. My daughter saw him for the first time since surgery. She noticed a difference in his personality right away. When we dropped her at the airport she told him to talk to his doctor because she doesn't like seeing him thus way.

Sorry I see I replied to a post instead of starting a new conversation. This is my first post and I don't know how to navigate the site yet.

My husband had surgery March 3rd. He is doing fairly well with eating. He is having some trouble with indigestion though. I think he is identifying the cause. My main question is how can I help him get out of this funk. He seems depressed. Doesn't want to go or do much other than watch tv. He mentioned calling his surgeon for something for depression. I called for him but the surgeon said he should contact his family dr. I can't get him to go to his dr. I want to be supportive and not a nag. Any ideas?