Hang in there, kiddo! Understand your family wants the best for you and may have only heard the horror stories about people... not about the thousands of successes that have happened. Educate yourself about the procedure, the physician, the journey it will take to get to a surgery date. Check your insurance company for coverage... and most important, find an ally that will support you. Find a support group where you can access like-minded weight loss surgery individuals that will let you honestly know about their results. Ask questions and learn as much as you can before you choose a surgeon. You can also ask your primary care physician about a recommended doc for the procedure. Your primary care doc is a valuable asset toward helping you toward your goal. Good luck!!