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Everytime I come close to thinking of this surgery and going thru with it, there are several people with my husband being the main one, telling me 'you don't want to live this way, having nausea and vomiting all the time", "Not being able to eat normally". I have explained that the co-morbidity issues are far more dangerous to live with than anything else but can't seem to get anyone to listen(my family). All the doctors I spoke to think I am nuts and say "those are rare cases" Not sure what to do or think anymore

Just got back from my visit with my Surgeon and got my date for RNY 7/13/15; I was kind of excited and yet still very nervous, found out I need a ng tube which isn't that bad but also a JP drain???OMG that one through me over the edge! Any words of advice or knowledge of this JP drain???

Just came home from hospital after meeting with surgeon; Trying to find out if anyone has been at the Beth Israel in Boston with Dr. Schneider? I got a surgery date of 7/13/15. Any info is appreciated on hospital or Dr.

I am from Boston also, Revere, 10 mins from downtown Boston. Anyone use the Beth Israel Hospital and with Dr. Schneider? I am seeing him tomorrow for my dates and pre-op discussion and what to expect and so on and on!

Bellaloly; That is my story TOO~~~HAHA! I had an appointment the day before surgery and listening and wondering and trying to deal with all the pre-op/post-op info, my nerves got the better of me and I convinced myself I could do this on my own. Mind you I have Cigna insurance and I hear it is hard to get approval with them. Anyhow after 2 years and some serious self loathing, I have decided that I just cannot live this way anymore, I don't like me, how I look, what I wear. I'm so self conscious and very sad that I got to this place but I decided to go back at it. I did my 6 months of Nutrition and Psych at the Beth Israel in Boston and I see my surgeon this Thursday 5/7 to discuss what to expect. I do NOT think I will be running off and out the door this time. It's just such a very scary scenario when I hear "you could have complications" or "you could be nauseous and vomiting some days". It doesn't seem to make it an experience you want to go through. I realized it is a challenging surgery and I am not delusional about recovery and all it's going to take but some of the posts make you want to just RUN...and never look back. I asked myself a very serious question today and somehow the answer just came to me. I asked myself would I want to live my life forever this way, so unhappy as I am or go thru with surgery. I guess I got my answer and that is why I am seeing the surgeon on Thursday. Not so sure I would be able or want to live the rest of my life this way and that is where I started to figure out some of the answers to my questions.

I bought the book about Gastric Bypass that is all over this website. It was a no nonsense type of book and immediately after reading the whole book, I wouldn't to jump out and say, "Nope, not doing it". I had experienced this "back out syndrome" before and knew it was my fear building up inside. I decided to look at all the negatives I was facing in life to rid myself of those thoughts. The constant GERD and reflux, the sleep apnea and breathing machine every night, the ache of my back from a heavy middle and the ache of my knees and feet. I keep these all in my mind knowing that every time I think of all these negatives, I will be brought back to the real reality of what morbid obesity is.. I even despise that word, it seems to carry such a negative presentation with it. Anyhow, I just want to know is it inevitable that I will lose my hair? Will I lose all or some...will it grow back or no. Could this be a product of not taking Vitamins and supplements? I asked my Nut and she said "you can certainly try a liquid Biotin to try and take which could provide you with healthy hair and nails". Somehow, the thought of being nauseous, sore and in pain along with being bald, petrifies me. I know somewhere in my heart all of this will be worth it's weight in gold but right now, I'm just seeing the forest and trees with no "sunlight" shining through. How do you get yourself over this hump to realize that better days and better thoughts will be right around the corner after surgery. Thanks for listening!

msmisaacs; I am in Revere! Right outside of Melrose~~always there for many reasons...LOL One would be a groupon for Sweet Spot! Nice to see you on here..glad everything went so well. I am going to Beth Israel in Boston for mine. esskay77; Sounds like you are on the South Shore! Nice to talk to you also~~been to that Mall before and loveeee Sephora!

It is awesome to see so many Boston or close to it on this board. I'm scheduled for the Beth Israel in late May so I haven't had my RNY a yet. Just trying to gather as many facts as possible. Thank you all for helping

So glad you asked that question. Unwanted to ask as many people as I could if they would change their minds or so it all over again. I'm looking at a late May surgery for RNY and I have days of excitement and days I want to run somewhere, not sure where just not to the hospital and go thru this. Scared out of my mind and then resigned to the fact that this will be my final peace to all that ails me. Thank you for the honesty !!

Just bought the book on Monday and finished it all in one day! Seems very thorough and very clear, no misconceptions of things that could, should or will happen. Of course we are all different but the book really gave you an idea of what you are actually going to be doing. I at first got the "no way, I can't do it" attitude and had to calm myself and say "one day at a time". Thank you for the great read!

Thank you everyone for the positive reinforcement; Sometimes I just get lost in all the "bad" and forget how much of a new outlook and gift I will be getting; I swear these message boards give so much help and support especially at a time and place in life when the world is clueless as to what some of us are going thru!!

Can anyone tell me if they had an NG tube in their nose to remove whatever bile or fluids would be dripping into the stomach? I was told I would get an NG tube for only 24 hours but this kind of freaked me out since I did not ever hear of anyone saying they had one? I also wanted to know if nausea is something you have daily? I understand it's the stomach and all the rerouting so it doesn't surprise me but does it go away and when? I couldn't imagine living with nausea everyday of my life any answers would be great!

Did/Do either of you have any nausea immediately after the surgery or is it just pain? I am scared out of my mind of being sick to my stomach everyday...does that happen to everyone and does it go away at some point..???

Hi all; I started this weight loss journey back in 2012 and what I am telling you is by no means to scare anyone rather just inform you of a very unhappy experience. Maybe it was just my perception but I felt obligated to tell my story. I met with Janey Pratt in 2012 and she was pregnant at the time, I had gone thru the seminars and was a candidate so I chose her to be my surgeon. Mid way through, I came across her assistant who had to be the most unhappiest of people I had ever met. I had gone to nut and psy and met all the requirements and when I asked Carole, the assistant when surgery would be, the answer was "I have no idea! You'll have to wait for her to come back from maternity leave she is booked solid". I was stunned and didn't know what to say, she suggested I meet with other surgeons since they all are "highly trained". I did just that and looked into meeting with Denise Gee. Very formal and very knowledgeable, however, I noticed that she didn't know me in the way I had hoped a surgeon would. I wanted a sleeve performed and had all my tests done there at MGH. I am still a patient there and see many doctors and everyone of them have access to my records. I had a endoscopy done and was told I had moderate to severe GERD. Still, no one (not one surgeon, nurse, PA, assistant)anyone tell me that the sleeve would be a poor choice with such bad GERD. It was my own research and sitting day and night on forums reading about GERD and the sleeve and what could happen that on the day before my appointment, I had to meet with Dr. Gee. I brought this question up and my husband was sitting next to me at the time. I asked her clearly, "Dr.Gee is this procedure going to make my GERD worse"? Her answer was, "there is no way to tell but it certainly could and if you feel uncomfortable I would be willing to do a RNY"!!! I almost fell off the table...after 6 months of nutrition and psych.because of my insurance with Cigna, I was not prepared in any shape way or form for a RNY...why didn't someone tell me this earlier when we met? I looked at her and said "you know what Dr. Gee, I am not comfortable with that and I am completely confused". Her response turned into a bargaining game is what it felt..."I can do a lap band if you prefer though I don't really recommend it". At that response, I said "I think I will wait on this and rethink this whole process". I was scared out of my mind, confused and sad! I had waited for over 6 months, gone thru the whole process and to have to back out like this was to say the least disheartening. The worst of it came as my husband and I were leaving, Dr. Gee looked and said "good luck with whatever you chose but could you call the Weight Center and let them know you cancelled, I don't want to lose my time in the OR"!!! Needless to say I left the MGH, which is an outstanding hospital...would never go back there for any WLS and have now signed up with Beth Israel Deaconess Medical. I am in love~~~they are thoughtful, kind, happy and thorough. ..they make you feel like you matter as opposed to the MGH in Boston where everyone was so unhappy. I had a friend who had Dr. Hutter and she loved him and he was wonderful however, for me and the admin staff, it was an utter disgrace. What hurt the most, Dr. Gee and her comment over losing her OR time. I told that story to my own primary and many other doctors all who were in dismay at such a horrible thing to say to any patient. I wish all and any of you luck with MGH but it just was not for me. They should have known about my GERD and told me about the sleeve and RNY difference, it was not my job to research the effects of it. I wanted to inform any that go there to just be completely open and honest and NOT be afraid to ask and ask until you are satisfied. I'm sure they are wonderfully qualified but they need a lesson or 2 in people skills~~~ Good Luck