I keep a private journal that no one in real life knows about. These folks have watched me struggle with diet after diet and gain after gain. I posted last night about the surgery, and I was so hurt to have 2 long time faves and 1 more recent reader tell me I just need to try harder. I just need to try again. I just need to stick with it. Seriously. These folks have been with me since 2006. They have seen my struggles! And that's what I got? I first friend I told in real life told me the same thing: "You just need to give it one more honest effort." What are all my other efforts? Dishonest? This same friend is currently starving herself to lose weight. As of now, 4 in real life friends know that I am going to the consultation. 3 are super duper supportive and 1 seems to be neutral. She successfully lost 100 lbs 10 years ago and has kept it off through diet and exercise.
Best of luck! I hope you find supportive friends, because it's what we'll need!