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Thanks for all the advice guys. 6months seems like such a long time to wait!! I wish it was quicker!!

I made the decision a long time before deciding to go ahead with surgery not to tell anyone unless there was a reason the HAD to know. My husband and I strayed from that rule once, got bitten, then never again told anyone. The only people that know are out bosses and his brother and sister-in-law. The person I told was my best friend. Unfortunately there still just way too much stigma and negative connotations that go along with the surgery. You can't put yourself in a situation where you could potentially become disheartened and sad because of something someone said. Don't throw yourself under that bus. Just keep the secret to yourself and keep your emotional and mental strength safe. Best of luck! Xx

You don't know any of his friends that could appeal to his supportive nature?

I should mention that I'm in Australia and out insurance doesn't require any weighin's or monthly tracing etc.

I had a similar problem to this. Initially when I decided to go down the path of getting a gastric sleeve, I decided to hide it from my husband because I knew that he would be unsupportive. I was going to take my mother to my first consult with the doctor instead. But, my mother was just as unsupportive. I was so saddened that I had no support that I went and cried to my best friend... Who also happens to be my husband. After many long talks and boarder line arguments, he said that he didn't approve or agree with what I wanted to do, but that he would support me. He put in place one clause, he asked me to hold off on my first consult until February. If he could show the leadership I needed him to show in regards to losing weight and exercising, then I had to agree to give him one final shot at losing weight "naturally". If he couldn't, then I could do what I want. Mid Jan this year, his best friend (a doctor) came over and my husband bought up my decision to have surgery in hopes of getting ammo to use against me in arguments. My husbands main arguments were that it was weak minded and a quick fix. His doctor friend looked at him and told him that actually what I was doing was a good thing. It wasn't weak minded at all. In fact it's strength of mind to be able to admit to your short comings and take action to fix them. Rather than doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result, it was time to try something different. In the morning on the way to work my husband told me about the conversation he had with his doctor friend and, long story short, we are both going to the consult together on Feb 20th so we can both have the surgery. I think sometimes men need a mans perspective. Get one of his friends on side if you can, then get his friend to talk him into supporting you. Also, remind him that he doesn't have to agree with what you're doing, but if he loves you and wants you to be happy, then he needs to support you regardless. Good luck, love. Xx

Hi All, My husband and I have decided to take the plunge!! Feb 20th is the date of our first consult with our doctor. My question to you all is, what was the timeline from first consult to operation? I'm guessing it's something like 4 to 6 consults that u have to have with your doctor before you even know a surgery date, then there's the 6 week pre-op diet. I'm thinking it's going to be July or so until we even get to have the op! I'm so excited/impatient that I just want to have it all now!! Also, how long were you all in hospital and off work for after your op? Thanks for the info

Hi All, My husband and I have decided to take the plunge!! Feb 20th is the date of our first consult with our doctor. My question to you all is, what was the timeline from first consult to operation? I'm guessing it's something like 4 to 6 consults that u have to have with your doctor before you even know a surgery date, then there's the 6 week pre-op diet. I'm thinking it's going to be July or so until we even get to have the op! I'm so excited/impatient that I just want to have it all now!! Also, how long were you all in hospital and off work for after your op? Thanks for the info