PhotoEgor

I'll start off by saying that I'm 51, married 31 years and have a bmi of 46. I'm going to have WLS in about 60-90 days. My DW EgorsGirl is expecting to be banded in March. Now: Things that Most Men Won't Tell a Woman: 1. I Love You 2. I Want you always by my side 3. I am afraid of losing YOU 4. *You make me look good * 5. Skinny girls are not all that attractive 6. Real Women DO have curves #4 seems to be the sticking point for Debi's husband. He is afraid she is going to make him look bad. How? By doing something he is afraid to do himself. Debi has admitted that she needs a tool to accomplish her goal of a healthier weight/lifestyle. She is going to lose weight, and look fantastic and make him look like a fat slob. Have you ever heard the saying "If I can't be skinny, let my friends be fat!"? There you have it. This hits on almost all the insecurities that a man will never admit to. Insecurities about his appearance, his ability to perform, his ability to control his environment. By exercising this control, Debi takes away from him. I don't think it's been said, but does he have a paunch? Could he stand to get up and do some walking too, maybe drink a few less beers etc? Guys change the same women do and put on weight, get lazy etc. Regardless, refusal of support for Debi in this effort is simply jealousy or selfishness. Having vented to this extent. Debi, good luck with your WLS, don't be nervous, you have a tremendous amount of support from here and I'm sure elsewhere. GO FOR IT! :cursing: Glen

My wife started first and got me into this too. I'm looking forward to being skinnier than I've ever been. My goal is to be less than 200 pounds. I've just had my initial weight loss visit and will probably have surgery in April of next year. I'm learning more than I ever thought possible about lapband. My wife is going to drive me crazy with her enthusiasm, but I really do want to make this successful for both of us. Now What? Glen

Hi. I'm Glen from near Dallas. I'm getting a band after the first of the year, probably shortly after my wife gets hers in March. My hobby is photography, and I hope to turn it into a business to supplement retirement. I'm Type II diabetic and have half a dozen other co-morbidities, so if I hadn't decided to try the band, I might not live to see retirement! My 4 kids are 30, 27, and a pair of 25's, and I've been married to egorsgirl1 for 31.5 years.