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So I had gastric bypass and it has been great. I'm in the final phase of eating for the past few days I wasn't hungry, but today I ate shrimp and broccoli. I think I ate over the required amount, but I didn't feel full. Is this bad? I normally get full quick, but today I didn't. Is something wrong with me.

I'm about 2 months post op...most days I can't eat a lot. Today I over. My belly even hurt to the touch.

So is something wrong with me? I'm following what I'm suppose to be and losing weight, but I'm not feeling the fullness the doctor is telling me about

So I haven't eaten in 3 weeks, and it's been very difficult for the last week. I go on puree tomorrow, but every one is eating around me and I'm almost in tears. I'm not sure what to do?

So I have a question for the group. I had surgery on 3/3. And it seemed the weight was falling like water. But this week it seemed to slow up. I am I not walking enough? I'm literally on water and protein shakes. My daily intake so far has only been 300 cal.

Hello group, I just wanted to let you all know that on 3/3/15 I had gastric bypass and I could not be happier or feel better! Since Tuesday, I have lost total of 18 lbs. With a grand total weight loss(including the weight I loss pre-op)of 49lbs. After few days, the results are incredible. I know everyone is not the same, but moments after waking from surgery I was up waking about. Though I had incision pains, I felt like a million bulks. Though at the time, it could have been the anesthesia talking . But really, I was walking about on the hospital floor feeling great. After being released, I've taken short walks, trying to be careful not to over exert myself, because yesterday I did and it was not fun. The only real uncomfortable part of the surgery for me has been the gas; that's no joke. But most of that has moved and I feel much better. I am so grateful that God has given me the second opportunity on life and health. For all of those pre-op. I know there are worries, I had my own and still have some, but nothing beats the feeling of knowing that this part of your life is changing for the better. I'm so excited for what the months and the years have ahead. This is the first time in my adult life I have looked positively towards the future with anticipated hope and expectation.

I had surgery Tuesday, and I'm discharged tomorrow. I've never been happier. Lots of gas...lol, but I'm so excited to see what my life is going to be like.

Next Tuesday I will begin my new life. I'm excited and anxious because I'm not sure what to expect. I'm a singer and I've been wondering will I be able to sing afterwards. I'm mourning my stomach but I'm excited that it's almost here. Am I crazy of these mixed feelings.

As I sit here reflecting on my past as my surgery date is a head of me, I can never recall a positive affirmation in my family when it came to my appearance. Not saying that obesity is something that should be affirmed, but at least to be told you're loved beyond what your outer appearance looked like would have been generous. People always think the safes place is home...but when I entered the doors of the home of my youth, it was like entering into a Grimm Fairytale. My mother was the Evil Queen, my father though there, was like he was dead with his slience, just a figure in the background and my sisters were like the evil step sisters. As I was celebrating with my wife this morning of my coming WLS, reflected on a story of my youth, where when I was 10 or 11 one my older sisters told me that I was as big as a baby elephant at birth aka, I was the elephant in the family. That raw spot is still there and it appears each time I look in the mirror. My narssaistic mother, who never in my life privately given me positive affirmation. But always calling me fat while still serving me deep fried southern food while drinking Mountain Dew in my sippy cup and giving me sneaker bars on the side. Even sharing with her the news of weight loss surgery, she even had negative words to say about that. I have been so destroyed for 35 years. The Cinderella or Cinder-fellea if you allow me to say so, in this life. However, on March 3, my life will never be the same again. Though words of my past may haunt me, it won't defeat me. In two weeks I will begin a new journey. A journey with its own struggle, but to a happier ending.

So I'm excited to announce that the date has been set for my WLS. I'm excited...and though I wasn't scared a month ago, I think some hesitation has set in being that I've never had any type of surgery before. What are some tools that you used to assist with nervousness?

This is a little embarrassing to ask, but I'm putting it out there and I hope no one is offended. But for those who have had gastric bypass, how long after the surgery did you have to wait to have sex again? Did your sexual relationship change any? I would like to hear all voices on this, but men especially. Being a married guy I've been wondering?

Next Thursday is my last appointment and I make my surgery date...but i scared. I'm not sure if I can do this? I've been cheating on my dieting for about a week and a half. If I can't manage under the pressure now, how will I be able to after

Thanks for this advice

Thank you all for the encouragement

So I have a work conference coming up after my WLS. It's like about 2 1/2 weeks after. Do you think I should postpone going to this conference?

So, in 19 days I will be heading to the doctor for my last visit before my WLS. The Struggle I am having is that my wife insist on bringing everything unhealthy snacks in the house she can find. I fill up my lunch box with healthy thinks to keep that with me, but lets be honest, i break some times. Additionally, She should not be eating these things because she is a diabetic type 1. But when I try to relay this to her she is always getting angry as if I'm offending her. As I move towards surgery, what are some ways I can fight these temptations.

I did not find it successful for me. In the beginning, I believed it assisted some, but after about about a month it's effects wore off.

I love what you have posted. It's very real and raw in how society see people of size. I'm not sure if I agree with you about your last statement concerning the lady on My Big Fat Life. I think she could be very happy with herself. I believe that's why we have self esteem...you literally love and esteem yourself. I'm going for WLS in less than a month. I've always been over weight I was even an 11lb baby as well as you know, the struggle is real! But I'm not getting WLS because I'm unhappy with me...i have some health issues that need to be resolved by WLS. But i loved me at my size. I was 427lbs, ive lost 30lbs to prepare for my life after and maintenance after surgery, but I loved me all of me at 427 and my wife does too. and people talked and talk about me, but I love me baby, and talk is cheap and I'm confident in who I am. So society didn't lead me to want to lose weight. But self love did. Because I loved my life enough to say there are now complications so I need to look at ways to prolong my life and to be healthy. And maybe it's just me, but maybe it's just me, but I think you have to love yourself where you are to make the changes you need for healthy choices in the future

Next month will be my last appointment before the doctor and I schedule my surgery. At this point I don't have fear of the surgical procedure, but I have fear of what I will look and be like after. I've always been the big guy, and I feel some fear of being smaller almost as if I don't deserve to lose the weight. Has anyone else had this type of aneixty? Or is it just a stupid irrational Fear I have?

Thanks everyone. And shadowcub you will find someone who love you for you. I was the big boy too all my life. But I was graciously bless by God with a good woman who loves me for me and is supporting me in this process. I'm encouraged that you will find a partner that will do the same for you.