jillstl

You look amaz!ng

This must be a common occurrence. My husband can be an insensitive asshole too. He likes to criticize my choices as being too impulsive and unnecessary. In the end, we don't live our lives for our spouses and while we may love them and want their support, we don't have to have it in order to succeed. Eventually they will either come around or they won't and sometimes relationships can be damaged as a result. I have a tendency not to consult my husband before I make decisions because generally he's not supportive. But to be fair I sometimes just don't want to hear what he has to say because I don't want him to rain on my parade. So good luck to you and keep posting on here so that we but can continue to watch your journey I don't know about you but I'm super excited!! And those hubbies...well they can kiss our skinny asses!

Love Chianti's name!!!

I have a girl crush rebecca! Wow you are gorgeous! I have a girl crush! You are gorgeous!!

Must be even harder for you. I've been fat my whole life except for a two year period. Happy that you are taking this journey with us! I happen to believe that we overweight, could fill a library with our knowledge of nutrition, exercise and fad diets. Some of us obsess about it. I can't speak to why we all haven't been successful longterm. For me it's an addiction to food. I have to break the bond and reform our relationship and make fitness my lifestyle. So far on my preop diet, I've lost 12 pounds doing atkins for 14 days. Low carb works for me. You.probably have a lot of muscle, being an instructor...you'll have great success! What day in March? 23rd here.

You get Quest at GNC?

You brought up a good point about kick backs. I was advised to order a specific line of supplements and protein powder by my nutritionist. They are affiliated...which I'm okay with but it's quite expensive. I am 5 weeks out from surgery and will have spent $500 on these supplements just to get me through till my surgery date. Basically...$250-300 per month. I find that high and may look at alternatives with the same content.

Quick update...I am down 12 pounds so far on my preop diet. I email with my nutritionist. I joined a gym yesterday but haven't made it there. I am snowed in today so piddling around the house trying "not" to eat. :-) I found a protein that I love. It's the Syntrax Nectar in Caribbean Cooler. I mix it with unsweetened almond milk and its like having a pina colada...minus the rum and the beach. Only a month to go and I will be sleeved. Woohoo!

March 23rd at OCC with Dr. Ortiz. I've been on a modified preop diet since 2/1. Down 12 pounds. Do 2 shakes and a light meal. I'll switch to complete liquids 14 days from my surgery date.

They seem to be geared at your digestive system. Probably your basic multi vitamins in the end some other specifically for your gut health. I'm just speaking about what I am taking.

I wasn't suggesting that you were complaining about your weight to your friend. I just know that as an overweight person I've often complained about it to the people that I was closest to and there were times when I wasn't asking for that type of advice they just felt the need to give it to me when the opportunity arose.

I use to complain about my weight to my mother all the time and I think that by doing that, it gave her and open invitation to give me "unsolicited" advice. I don't know... just another view point. Some may say you just someone to listen and not put their 2 cents in but sometimes it is coming from a place of love even if the delivery sucks.

You two are on the ball. I am also 6 weeks out. I'm going to Mexico for my surgery, so my preparation is a little chaotic. I am going to pack ahead of time, the items that I would need on any trip. And I want to make sure that everything is on wheels so I don't have to lift anything on my returning flight. You are on the right track by preparing meals and freezing them. Are you already taking your bariatric vitamins? I started mine this week. They already have me on a preop diet. Going to join a gym this week and start working out s l o w l y. I'm curious to see your list.:-)

It's really our business only anyway. If I didn't have to explain my absence, I would have just kept it to myself. I wish that I could have afforded to do mine locally without going into debt which he would have a coronary about. I just drew a little out of my 401k. I'm glad you have a good supporti e child. My son is 24 and a personal trainer. He too believes this is too extreme. Meanwhile, I struggle to walk on my feet from my plantar fasciitis. Geez...I am just going to focus on getting ready for this. I am happy for the first time in a long time. I hope it works for you too.

Actually your husband and mine have a lot in common. my husband is naturally thin, was in the military for a long time and really does not gain weight...regardless of what he eats or drinks. Again something else in common. Every time I would go on Atkins or something similar that restricted a certain food, he would criticize....saying that I just need to eat smaller portions and I would lose weight if I exercise enough. I am a binge eater and a carb addict. It's my battle to fight. I did get my surgery date of March 23rd. I'm self pay, and having it done in Mexico. I feel confident in my decision. My PCP will do my follow up labs.

I wholeheartedly agree that is normally the case when someone else subscribes to my opinion he'll buy into it a lot easier. The thing is is that I haven't told but just a couple coworkers about it because I don't want the outpour of negativity that could possibly come along with this. I don't really have any close friends. There are a few military couples that we get together with about once a month and have dinner but aside from that I don't really associate with anyone other than my husband. I think after my surgery I'll probably open up more about it. we've been married for so long and he has seen me through a gazillion diets I think that he's just lost faith and thinks that I have zero willpower. I know once the surgery is over that he will come around. He might not be my cheerleader but he's not going to constantly criticize me either.

That's amazing that he changed his perspective once your friend supported your decision. My husband is at the "you're going to do what you're going to do so it doesn't matter what I say" point. He can be a little bit childish when it comes to not getting his way in a conversation, that's generally how he handles it and I've come to accept that over the years. Like you, I tried explaining to him that this decision didn't come easy for me and that it truly wasn't the easy way out because as much as I love food...I know that I have a problem with self control. His retort is always," you never stick to anything, you quit every diet so how would you know if it could work if you didn't stick with it? I suppose that's partially true because even though I've lost a lot of weight through the years and gained it back, I never stuck with one plan and fully reached my goal. I would always stop before that and gained it all back plus. I wish that I had a doctor friend who could explain to him but I don't. I think that over time that he will become more supportive. How exciting for you that your husband is going to actually take the journey with you you couldn't ask for a better support system than that good for you!!

I can't imagine all the thoughts that are going through your head right now. I'm sure that you're mentally prepared for what's ahead of you but anxious to have it over with. Please stay in touch in let me know how you're doing how your feeling. I'm doing well I'm on my pre op down five pounds.

Two days girl! Will be thinking happy thoughts. Are you excited?

I am Frick!!