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My fear and axiety is just getting through the procedure alive. I haven't let myself focus too much on after. Most people say the pain isn't baD. I will keep you in my prayers

Is post op harder than pre op?

does it hurt to get out of hospital bed? Or to sit on toilet? What about pants...does it hurt to wear pants while sitting on the riDE home? And do you need a button up shirt or zipper shirt? like, does it hurt to put arms up to put on a tshirt? Sorry so many questions, I'm trying to pack my bag for Mondays surgery.

Yes, I meant pre-op. Oops. And yes I understand. It's just been hard to adjust. A definite shock to my system not eating solids. I know its not going to be like this forever (liquids). Thank you

Hey how did it go? My surgery is this Monday coming up February 2nd. I've been feeling the same as you...

You're eating solids on the pre op liver size reducer diet?! I'm on bariatric advantage protein shakes and No solids....kind of torture :/

I just met with my surgeon and I feel so much better. Most of my worries and anxieties have been calmed. I wish my boyfriend could have gone so he would be less worried about me. Talking to the man who I'm trusting with my life really helps. He's never had a patient die and promises I'll be fine. I think that's all my bf needs to hear. I know it's about me, but if he was having a surgery, I naturally would also be worried. I was disappointed to hear that my surgeon does use a catheter :/ I am not looking forward to that.

Agreed

I feel the way you described in your last 2 paragraphs. In regards to my bf, he just doesn't understand why surgery is necessary. I do want to marry him soon but I want to be a fit mom...I want to be able to keep up with a child's energy. I just need to stay positive and focused.

It frustrates me. It's hard to defend it. His other argument is, if I'm going to have to diet and exercise and change my life after the surgery, then what's the point? Whhy nothe do that now without surgery?? I could only express to him that I need the permanent restriction to help me.

Who was your doctor?...if I may ask

Thank you all on your responses regarding my anxiety. I am in Dr. GARTH Davis' office right now. This is the last time I'll see him until surgery February 2nd. I am still very anxious but I have an appointment with the hospital the 29th to register and I'll have to talk to them about it then. I start my liquid prep tomorrow which I'm nervous about...it's going to be difficult...but it needs to be done. Also, has anyone had experience with a significant other being unsupportive? My bf scared something bad is going to happen to me and that I shouldnt risk my life when I can just stop bring "lazy". He says he believes I can do it on my own. But he doesn't get it... I can lose weight. I have a million times but I gain it back twice as much. It's always one step forward and 2 steps back. I'm tired of the circle. I need this tool to help me be successful

so I am supposed to set my date tomorrow and I feel more confused now that it's so close and real. I just turned 26. Im 5"3 and 235 pounds.i have been up and down the scale all my life. just two years ago i weighed 278 pounds. when I look at pictures I think to myself,"and i thought i looked fat then" lol because I would love to be that weight now. I am concerned because I suffer from anxiety.I go back and forth trying to decide if I can do the surgery or not. I'm scared I'll try to run at the last second. hospitals and needles give me major anxiety. Also, I'm terrified of the pain and how long it will take me to recover. I'm also nervous about being on liquids for 7 weeks straight I don't know if my body can handle the shock. I also feel unsure if I am strong emotionally enough to handle everything that comes along with pre-op and the responsibility to maintain nourishment. this might sound crazy but saying goodbye to food forever makes me feel as if my best friend is about to die and I will never see them again lol. that thought alone has proven to me that I definitely have an unhealthy relationship with food is that I NEED to do this. I want to be healthy and be able to enjoy my life pain free and when the time comes I want to be an active mom. more than anything I'm just scared surgery and recovering correctly. Did anybody feel this way before they got to sleeve?? any advice? Reassurances? or words of encouragement

Thank you. Your words have helped tremendously. I do feel a lot better and more excited for my new healthy life than scared. I used to be a health freak but like most people I've read here,its just been temporary phases in my life. I finally found my soul mate 2 years ago and we've become so comfortable with each other that I have just let myself go. I am at the heaviest I've ever been at 235 and I do not recognize myself in the mirror anymore. I want to take my life back and finally reach my goals and be pain free.I am tired of the 1 step forward, 2 steps back....I want to finally reach the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you again for your advice and knowledge

Thank you all! In regards to the Bachelorette parties, you're right, I need to focus on the positives...like Im going to look good in all the pictures and not have to worry about approving all pictures people post of me or having to tell them to take them down!lol....does anyone else do this?? When I think about saying goodbye to my comfort buddy (food), it does make me sad. But in oNE of the responses,I read that food only satisfies you temporarily, but that weight gone is forever!! I LOVE that and it has made a difference in my mindset. As well as thinking about all the things I'll be able to do that I can't now. Thank you all truly. I am glad I downloaded this app last night. Looks like it was right at the moment I needed it.

I felt that way when I went to do my endoscopy. If my mom and 8 year old brother weren't beside me, I would have pulled the iv out and ran. I did However still make a scene bc after waiting hours waiting to be rolled into the o.R., I could no longer keep my anxiety and nerves in check. I began to cry and it was embarrassing...I'm 25 years old. Lol. My surgery is scheduled for the first week in February and my biggest concern and fear Is the surgery and making it to the Operating Room. I don't know if it's possible to not have to wait so long before they roll you in and if they can knock me out before the roll me in. Something about being rolled down the hall into an open white operating room just terrifies me and I physically can't handle it. I suffer from anxiety and I will not be able to take my medication that morning so that's my biggest issue right now..

Thank you for the insight. Im glad to hear you can still eat and drink what you want but in smaller portions. I'm totally fine with being able to do that from time to time on those special occasions.I was worried that I'd never be able to enjoy a birthday party or the holidays or any special event ever again. Or that id make other people uncomfortable for not being able to participate or join them. The pre op nutrition class left me weary. The nutritionist said for the rest of my life I can only eat food that is cut into pencil eraser top sizes and chew each tiny piece 30-40 times before swallowing...I mean what's the point? Might as well opt for a liquid feeding tube. It sounded exhausting to always eat this way and that it would take hours to finish one meal. Also, I was disappointed when the nutritionist told me I could never eat certain foods again. she also discussed the medication for life afterwards. It would be a Vitamin 3 times a day with calcium in between each one. maybe this varies by state and doctors. But this makes me a bit nervous that I'm going to be at risk for health issues like malnourishment. Also, im in 4 weddings this year in which I am maid of honor for 2, which has me stressed. my window for the preop 2week liquid and surgery recovery is small. the doctor has told me I cannot drink alcohol for a year! which concerns me when it comes to not missing out on bachelorette parties they are once in a life time experiences. I feel as if I will be ruining my sisters and best friends experience bc we won't be able to make the traditional memories they are expecting. To have my surgery I will have to sacrifice a lot for my health,but I feel my health should come first. It's just that all these scenarios and dilemmas are weighing heavy on my heart.I think it would be more important to my sister that i look good for her wedding standing next to her than making bachelorette and bridal shower memories. Thank you all for your responses!! I felt alone. I think my biggest fear is the surgery in general. I just need to be strong and work hard to keep my nerves aND anxiety in check.I'm 26 but hospitals and needles make me a 2year old baby crying for my mom....it's always a scene getting blood drawn and my edoscopy done and it's ALWAYS embarrassing! Lol. Last question, do they make you use a catheter? Because If so, I honestly don't think I could go through with it. My dear and anxiety couldn't handle that violating and painful situation.

@@BLERDgirl Thank you for the insight. Im glad to hear you can still eat and drink what you want but in smaller portions. I'm totally fine with being able to do that from time to time on those special occasions.I was worried that I'd never be able to enjoy a birthday party or the holidays or any special event ever again. Or that id make other people uncomfortable for not being able to participate or join them. The pre op nutrition class left me weary. The nutritionist said for the rest of my life I can only eat food that is cut into pencil eraser top sizes and chew each tiny piece 30-40 times before swallowing...I mean what's the point? Might as well opt for a liquid feeding tube. It sounded exhausting to always eat this way and that it would take hours to finish one meal. Also, I was disappointed when the nutritionist told me I could never eat certain foods again. Also, im in 4 weddings this year in which I am maid if honor for 2, which has me stressed. my window for the preop 2week liquid and surgery recovery is small. the doctor has told me I cannot drink alcohol for a year which concerns me when it comes to not missing out on bachelorette parties they are once in a life time experiences. I feel as if I will be ruining my sisters and best friends experience bc we won't be able to make the traditional memories they are expecting. To have my surgery I will have to sacrifice a lot for my health,but I feel my health should come first. It's just that all these scenarios and dilemmas are weighing heavy on my heart.I think it would be more important to my sister that i look good for her wedding standing next to her than making bachelorette and bridal shower memories. Thank you all for your responses!! I felt alone. I think my biggest fear is the surgery in general. I just need to be strong and work hard to keep my nerves aND anxiety in check.I'm 26 but hospitals and needles make me a 2year old baby crying for my mom....it's always a scene getting blood drawn and my edoscopy done and it's ALWAYS embarrassing! Lol. Last question, do they make you use a catheter? Because If so, I honestly don't think I could go through with it. My dear and anxiety couldn't handle that violating and painful situation.

@@Elode Thank you for your reply. I feel like that is going to be me in the hospital lol. Also, I too aam tired of the vicious cycle. My whole life has been a diet.I just wish they would let me take my anxiety pills before arriving at the hospital.

I meant 178lbs!!

I am supposed to set a date tomorrow, but I am still unsure, nervous, scared and so many emotions in between... Is it worth the stress and hassle of maintaining nourishment and keeping up with Vitamins? Its a lot of responsibility. is it worth not being able just socially drink or go out to eat with friends?? do you feel like you're missing out??do you miss being ABLE to eat.