Kaylamarie

I just created an account with this site, and mostly because I have just made two of the biggest changes in my life. I lived in Columbus Ga my entire life and on Feb. 18th 2014 I had Gastric Bypass. Everything was going great, until May 2014 my husband of almost 10 years and in the military and stationed in Fort Benning GA for 11 years received the orders that I dredded and knew would come. PCS orders. I was leaving the place I was born and raised and more importantly just had major surgery and was going to need the biggest support system for at least the first year. We moved, thank God, only 6 hours away to Fort Campbell KY in July 2014. I thankfully was able to continue eating healthy but with 3 kids and the move and my husband going away as soon as we got here to school for 2 months I didn't get much time to exercise. I have been able to continue to lose weight since ive been here and fortunately reached my goal weight of 135. but I realized in the past 2 months, starting November, I have been eating like my old self again. The holidays came and here without mom, brother, grandparents, etc really hit me hard. I have been eating cupcakes, cheesecakes, cookies (Otis spunkmeyers 100cal each!), and even been to krispy Kreme twice and had about 3 donuts over a few hours. This type of eating has put me in a deep depression. I eat these things in a frenzy and so fast to where im like getting it stuck and feeling uncomfortable because I tried to get it down so fast before I can even stop myself. I used to be like this, but in recent years have really put a lot of effort to think things through before I just shoved something in my mouth. I feel like I have really screwed up. I went for the first time to the assigned nutritionist here on post since ive been here and he told me I was eating way too much. That me eating a cup and sometimes a lil over that, at only 10 mos out at the time was terrible. that the most should be 3/4 of a cup. I have been trying to do that but if I don't measure and eat say eggs , like 2 of them I will eat something else like half an apple and before you know it im uncomfortable because im too full. I really need some good guidance. I don't want to be that patient, we all know that patient that lost so much weight and 3 years later full blown obese. Does anyone have any rituals they'd like to pass on or good advise?

Congratulations on your success, and thank you for your advice. It really gives a good idea of what may work for me. of course we are all different and I wish it was as easy for me. My surgeon actually advised me to not snack that it would only lead to grazing. So I have done that all until now... I'm hungrier, even with me working out less then before I am still hungrier. so iam having to now snack. but only once, that's the in between Breakfast and lunch. I'm trying to avoid any other additional snacking. For me I have already experienced a gaining weight period this past Christmas , I gained about 6lbs. but since the new year I have been able to lose it. But it felt like I have struggled to do that. I have defiantly bottomed out and hit my maintenance stage I can tell for sure. And that's just the thing is finding a meal plan that makes you happy without gaining weight when you have a massive sweet tooth. I am having such a hard time, however i think it is a matter of time before I can find a way to beat this. I didn't come this far for my sweet tooth to win in the end. Thanks again for your examples, I will take some of these ideas.

Let me just start out by saying this topic I am bringing up is not for everyone but for people who may be concerned with not being able to control eating, or keeping yourself at your goal weight when everything is said and done. I had Gastric Bypass Feb 18th, 2014, 11 months ago. I have just entered this stage of really trying to figure out my forever meal plans. I am past my phases and really don't have any intolerances. I hit my goal weight about a month ago and now finding myself at a place of fear, confusion and just not sure if this is going to be forever. (this is to good to be true feelings). I weigh 135lbs , coming from 251 and I am so worried that I will gain the weight back, it has consumed me. I am suffering from panic attacks daily, and constant worry. I'm over obsessed to the point I have a binge attack and eat things I know im not supposed to. And yes i can indulge every now and again in a treat, and yes i can plan out my meals, and yes i can have a food journal , and yes i can just say no and remember what put me in this position in the first place, but reality then hits. I realized last week this cant go on, I have to find the underlining issue and figure a way to deal with it. I did a lot of research prior to that conclusion and found a lot of gastric patients start counseling as a pre requisite for the procedure and stay in it. if I could turn back time that would be the one thing I go and change about this entire process. I seen my counselor this morning for the first time for about a 2 hour session. The one thing I took away from todays session, is this is something that needs to be mandatory. Undoing what we have been doing all this time, eating, is not something we can just change just from learning what we learn during this surgery process. it is something that we have to change with time , and help. I am in the middle of finding my bodies balance by myself. Struggling with everything from how many calories am I supposed to eat, to... am I stretching my pouch out, this one little bite wont hurt, to stop hitting your brother, back to ok this one little bite (now my2nd bite) wont hurt. Its all very overwhelming and explains why people gain weight back in time. Talking with a professional is necessary. i want to share this with anyone who is concerned with the after , the after the weight is off and im getting to a place where im ready to maintain my weight. It will be the hardest part of this entire process, i promise. Up until this point it , ive had my challenges but this by far is the biggest. its like ok i dare you to have this surgery and lose all the weight. ok done. ok now put your tool down and keep it off. hmmm. ok this might be a little tricky. Get into counseling as soon as you can, find your underlining problem and work on it with a professional.

So I just wanted some of your options. I have been told at month 9, 10 ish post op rny by my new city's nut that I was eating to much for where I'm at. I was eating about 1 c , a lil more maybe at each meal. It was divided between meat and veg , mostly meat of course. So anyways my breakfast this morning was the following: measured 3.20 Oz of chicken, about 1/4 of a medium apple and about 3 tbls of peanut butter. I was full and normally I don't eat this kind of meal. Normally I don't measure but i wanted to start new because I have fell off the wagon with the holidays and I'm trying to start fresh. Typically I eat 1 egg and 3 pieces of turkey bacon and I'm good. But I'm feeling super guilty about this peanut butter. I seriously love peanut butter and I think I had at least 2 servings maybe 3 this morning which is 200 each. Is this excessive or am I being obsessive? Should I just stick to my typical breakky?

Yes still losing because I had put on about 6 lbs between thanksgiving and Christmas and since the new year I've started back on track and I have lost the 6lbs. And according to the scale this morning I should be hitting 133 by tmrw (i was 134.0)so that's the lowest I've been. I need to find out about this pouch test because I have seen it been written about but wasn't sure if it pertain to me so I will check that out:)

Thanks Jennifer, best of luck to you as well.

I've always been taught by my surgeon to not snack that it directly leads to grazing if your not careful down the road..so I don't snack. But now I'm further out I'm a little confused on how much I should really eat in one meal. So your no more than half a cup, and how far out are you?

I've always been taught by my surgeon to not snack that it directly leads to grazing if your not careful down the road..so I don't snack. But now I'm further out I'm a little confused on how much I should really eat in one meal. So your no more than half a cup, and how far out are you?

Yes, I made the call yesterday to my pc. I asked for a referral to see a professional in mental health. I need help. I get what I'm doing wrong. But my hands and eyes move faster than I want them to. And I really need to get help on how to approach a treat when it's there being offered and in my face. I can advise someone all day long to just think first about how bad it makes you feel afterwards but I just can't seem to do it myself. I think you made a smart decision by doing that and I'm making the same.

Ok i literally just almost choked from laughing the first part of this message. In all seriousness though it's very true. I am so used to running all seasons where I'm from and here freezing all dogon day and the post here is decent however I can't start the support groups until march because of there odd bours. And I have a gym in my garage but I seriously cannot layer enough to stand the cold. It's like so frustrating. If it were just a bit warmer. We don't do gyms because we invested in expensive equipment , I would drag it in if on post houses weren't the size of my childhood treehouse. I've been doing some workouts in the house but hasn't been helping me with controlling the sweet stuff. And it's not even like I'm hungry it's more of how I miss how good it taste.its much like you mourn the loss of that time in your life where you enjoyed those things, so I give in to get that feeling. It's so hard, but I'm not going to give up!!! Thank you!!!!