I feel the same way and my failure now seems small but, none the less I cannot get a handle on it. Been banded about year had very good success until now I stopped going to the gym and I have been eating candy! Just been adjust tightly but, I know how to eat around my band. A lot going on in my life recently divorce so I have that to deal with and this loneliness too. Please if any one has any suggestions I am open to them. Thanks in advance.........