MarylandCrab

I just had surgery Tuesday and I know exactly what you mean. I have never been a self-hatred person, so I genuinely like myself and my body. I was worried and a little scared of what this will do to me. But what I did hate were some of my behaviors, some of my inhibitions, and all of my health problems. I won't miss them. I think our behaviors will change, but not who we are. We are always the first people to tell others that you should love people for what's on the inside and not on the outside.....I think we should do that for ourselves . Hang in there, friend. Doubts and a little sadness and second guessing are normal!

You got this!!

I'm going through the same thing....I'm having a hard time breaking up with my food ???? I'm scheduled for next Tuesday....we can do this

Are you getting enough exercise? Anesthesia affects your energy for about a year (for major surgery) and it takes a bit to build back up.

Me, too! I started yesterday! Mine is 3 Protein shakes and 3 oz of meat and 1 cup and 1/2 of veg. Sort of a Medifast diet. Then all liquid right before surgery. I have a month of this! Hang in there! We can do this!

Hi DJMohr! Sorry to hear about your 2nd surgery. I saw "spine surgery through the throat" and immediately shuddered! You're a brave lady. Have you taken a look at theworldaccordingtoeggface? I tried to grab the website for you but I'm at work and they block blogs. She's a bariatric patient and has a ton of recipes. She has a baked ricotta recipe on there that looks delicious! Hope that helps!

Oh my gosh! Where were you last Thursday! I went through this exact same line of thought. I have finished all of my pre-op clearances, and was heading to my final nutritionist appointment. I have lost a total of THREE pounds in the last 6 months. That's it. I was so upset with myself. I felt like a total failure and was in tears most of the day. My nutritionist said that since I am hoping to have surgery in July, that I should start the pre-op diet now. She said I need to lose 20lbs and that the doc would look at my weight last Thursday and compare it to my weight for my doc appointment before the surgery and if no weight loss, no surgery. I guess that was the switch I needed flipped. Sorry to turn this around on myself, but I just wanted you to know, you are not alone! If this was easy, none of us would be in this situation. I wish I had great advice to help you make all of the changes that you need to make. I know that I started reading a book about why I self-sabotage and how to start making the changes I need to make....I also called a psychologist to get some help and some support for my emotional problems that are causing me to rely on food. I hope you can find your switch. Keep posting!

Thanks ladies! There's not much I can do but be hopeful. My doc said we'll try for the bypass and if not, then do the sleeve -- if he can do it safely. Getting closer -- early July!

Hi all..... i haven't been on here for a bit. I got a little frustrated back in March when I finally met with my surgeon and he told me that he would try and do my surgery but that because I had previous abdominal surgery for a different issue (benign pancreatic tumor) that he wasn't sure he would be able to do it. Basically, I could go in, have them put me under, have him make some incisions, look around, and then not be able to do anything because of adhesions and scar tissue. I really appreciate that he's being honest and that he wouldn't do anything to hurt me -- I mean, safety first, right? Has anyone successfully had bariatric surgery after having previous abdominal surgeries? Is he just being cautious and not trying to get my hopes up or is this a real possibility? I have finished all of my clearances and am just finishing the required nutritionist appointments.

I'm on the time frame. Maybe we can be surgery buddies when the time comes!

It went well! I was approved. And it was just as you both said. Thanks for the answers!

Hi all! So, I have my psychological evaluation today and I'm not nervous, but I am curious as to what will be discussed. I'm assuming she'll want to know why I want to have the surgery and why I feel I haven't been successful in the past. What else do they want to know?

Hi there! I started my 6 month journey last month and am hoping to have surgery in June. I was told the vertical sleeve was a no-go for me because I have a terrible time with acid reflux and the sleeve can really exacerbate that. My surgeon doesn't really do the lapband too much anymore. He says he takes more out then he puts in -- that was the one I really thought I wanted but when I heard that.....well, bypass it is for me. My husband seems more concerned with me losing "the girls" than I am.....I've usually been pretty proportional. But as kyrickchick64 said, I don't think you know until you lose what you lose. This forum has been so helpful for me.....even though I routinely check facts before I believe what I read, the emotional support has been amazing. Most of the info is good here, too. Good luck! I have my psych eval today.

Yahoo!!! I love seeing these posts were people are reaching goals!! I hope to be able to do the same!

Oh @Elizabeth21I'm sorry you have to go through this pain. I'm studying massage therapy and am familiar with the location of the phrenic nerve. That has to be excruciating. I'm glad some of the meds are starting to help and I'm glad they don't have to remove the spleen. Nine years ago they found a cyst on my pancreas that was so large it was crushing my splenic artery.....while I don't think I felt any pain in my spleen, I know there is a very specific pain when an organ is lacerated or traumatized with injury or growths. That's why I jumped when I saw your post. I can sort of relate!! Hope you're continuing to feel better!