nanf1962

I have scheduled my first appointment to discuss having the surgery next Friday. I have done every diet known---in fact right now I am paying for Weight Watchers. I have the typical story---will lose about 30 pounds then slowly the weight creeps back. I have worked really hard---have gotTEN  my blood sugar levels almost normal, I exercise regularly etc but I am stuck. I am motivated but I just need some help. That being said, I am scared beyond belief. My family doesn't see me as I truly am just like I don't when I look in the mirror. My son who is a Doctor told me that I didn't meet the criteria. When I told him that I do, he got real quiet. I keep my weight a big secret---at my highest I was 310 lbs and now I am 284. Of course nobody knows how much I weigh. My Doctor son tells me it is a drastic decision. My husband told me he loves me as I am but if I am making the decision for better health he supports me.  I want to be able to jog with him, cross country ski, run with my future grandchildren. I am just so afraid of the surgery.  My  extended family keeps  telling me how drastic it is. I want to have energy. I want to feel healthy. I want the pain in my knees to get better. I want to zip line if I want to. Again---I am afraid of the surgery and complications. Have any of you had severe complications?