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Hi ladies! I'm quickly approaching my 30th birthday, its about 5 months away. I know everyone has different genes but I'm wondering generally how women around my age have found their skin is after surgery. I lost 25kilos when I was 24 and had no issues.... however that's nearly 6 years ago AND I need to lose around 60 kgs this time so feeling nervous!

Sorry - i didnt see your last response. Sorry to hear its no better that's a bummer.

Sometimes I think the more the issue of sex is raised (when the woman has been saying no) the more she will continue to say no becauase she probably feels pressured. I think its awesome that you look at her and she can be wrapping presents and you just want her... Every woman has a button... even when theyre not in the mood and you press that button, the deal is sealed. But it needs to be suttle and romantic.. youre right. Women work differently. Maybe just go back to basics? Romance her. Let the sex go for a while and focus on "wooing" her. Maybe that will help and reduce the frustration a bit. Good luck!

It seems as though my tolerance for each phase is 1 week! I am on day 6 of puree foods and I am so over it. I just want real food. I could not do 4 weeks of pureed foods!!! I dont even know if I can make 2 weeks of puree. Dying to go to the next phase

Its the huge smile I notice before anything else good work!!!

I'm a big believer in keeping it to yourself for people who you aren't close with or who you know will not support you. The people who know are my immediate family (6 all up), my best friend, 2 close friends and 1 co-worker! Overall I'm actually quite lucky and everyone has been supportive. But I think if I told more people I would get alot more negativity. So thats who knows....And no one else will ever know! Well, until I get into a relationship but who the heck knows when that will be hahahaha

In alot of my pre op information is that your cycle may change and the surgery can induce earlier periods. Im 2 weeka post op and mine has just come and i am in a world of pain. Prior to surgery i had minimal pain. Hoping this isnt something that continues!

That feeling of excitement and fear at the same time is a funny one hey. I was SUPER anxious right before my surgery. I was laying in my gown thinking "holy crap, am I actually about to do this???" Lol. Thats all I could think!!! Then immediately post op i thought "holy crap, did I actually do this finally" haha. Energy is a big thing I am lacking but im only 2 weeks post op so once i start to eat more I will start my exercise Good luck for your surgery!!

I can't stand Optifast anymore. Thankfully my nutrionist said not to force myself. You can get protein/fluid from milk and milo for example... and shakes. As in smoothies but made with milk, vanilla Protein powder and a little fruit you can add diet cordial to your Water if that makes it more appealing. Powderade is also good too. Hope this helps

That is amazing he doesn't charge?! I had mine done by Dr Bowden at the Wesley. I think it's around $7500 all up but that's including the nutritionist, psych etc. He is absolutely lovely and really glad I chose him. I hope your surgery goes well! Its good you're getting it while you're young as you can live the rest of your 20s without weight impacting your life! I'm turning 30 soon so the 30s will be my time to shine haha

BLERDgirl, it was just a simple question to guage how women around my age and their skin has responded. Alot of women on here who are older than me have made comments that their skin doesn't bounce back like it used too, so I just wanted to know how women my age felt? I wasn't asking in such a way that I will regret the surgery. I was asking from a point of curiosity.

My mum is really supportive and has been with me since I decided on having the surgery. This is a learning curve for her also and I think I need to remember that more! I have told 4 friends. 3 are super supportive and 1, not so much - jealousy issues there. We have always been overweight together but now Im changing that. My sister... supportive in beginning but then the other day asked me to go buy pizza and when I said no she got mad at me. Go figure right. I just had surgery because I am obese and she wants to send me into a pizza shop 11 days post op! Ahhh well. Haha.

I wouldn't compare yourself to anyone else... Everyone's bodies are so very different 33% sounds amazing!! Good luck to reach your goal.

I read an article that said after gastric sleeve surgery the body metabolises alcohol differently and it can stay in your system longer. I'm not sure about the truth / science behind this so will be asking my surgeon when I see him next. I would like a glass of something in the future but if alcohol doesn't sit well anymore etc I am not bothered... Small price to pay to be healthy and look amazing (well, I hope I end up both those things haha).

It might be something similar to a liquid multivitamin? Berroca is what I am thinking of. Its a tablet you put in water and it fizzes. I was told to use this until I could swallow a multivitamin - but to let the bubbles settle. I could be off base though!

I am the same i cried day 1 post op and cried heaps on day 2 when I got home... cried on Christmas day 6 post op and just cried before... day 12 post op! Since surgery the tears have been of sadness or frustration - stuff like that. I know down the track those feeling won't be as frequent ... but at the moment its still so fresh! I think fatigue is part of it as well. No energy is a bummer! Just keep trucking we will get there in the end!

When I go to a coffee shop I have been ordering a chai latte made on skim milk. That way I don't feel like I am missing out. Takes me forever to drink at the moment lol.

I have been reading these forums for a little while and read all about the 3 week stall. Well, clearly my body couldn't wait 3 weeks and I have been stalled since 7 days post op. What gives???!!!! I had lost 6 kilos post op, 9.6 kilos all up and was feeling good! Then bam. Stalled. I know its not going to last but it makes me feel crappy and like I am not doing the right thing! And yes, I know I have to stop replying on the scales as a measure. I have just been so big for so long, it felt so good seeing the scale go down and down. I was 146.6 kilos at the start of all this and now I am 137 kilos. Leaving the 140 kilos was a massive achievement as I never thought I would get out! Now I'm in the 130s ans want to be in the 120s. I just need to chill and let my body do its thing! Just needed to vent

People hate not knowing! Its funny how curious people get. Only 2 people at my work know I took leave to get my sleeve and there's no trust issues with them. However, as I had to advise why I needed leave (just said surgery) its started rumours in my office about why i am on leave. People who aren't even in my team know I was on leave for surgery. People gossip. My decision to get a sleeve is none of their business. I am of the opinion to keep it to yourself because I think it opens up the door for more judgement and gossip. I suppose it depends on your office atmosphere. Its hard though. I am just going to say I am making healthier choices. But in the end just do what you feel comfortable with everyone is different.

I have had a few emotional spots and I was sleeved on Dec 19 but have coped better than expected. I find the thing that gets me is watching people take a big 'normal' bite of a food I cant eat! But it bothers me a little less each day. Even going to the super market is hard for me as you see things you want to try or cook, but you cant. Its all a learning process for us I guess. We just need to hang in there! It was music to my ears when my nutrionist told me I didnt have to force myself to drink Protein shakes!!! She said she was worried if I did I would just not eat or drink anything cos I would make myself sick. Looking at getting my protein from other food and drinks. Will try Premier Protein shakes from costco though to see if i like them.

I am allowed quite a vatiery of things. I can make mince bolognaise (veg needs to be pureed though), i can have fish, soups, cottage cheese, smoothies with fruit, yoghurt, mash vegetables or potato. My nutrionist gave me a massive booklet for each stage and we have a consultation before each phase. I am going to look at some baby food sachets too to add into the mix.

It's so hard to put the scale away! I just want to get off this same number

Yes i had a hiatal hernia repair too! Thanks for all the replies everyone!! Appreciated

I am 29 years old and weigh 146.6kg as of this morning. Today I started my shakes. Im also allowed salad and veg. My surgery is scheduled for 19 Dec... 2 weeks. I am freaking out. I go through phases where I am super confident in my decision to have the gastric sleeve then other times I wonder what I was so decisive about. Why can't I do this on my own - that's my own FAQ and I know if I could, I wouldn't be approaching 150kgs. I am committed to changing my life. That part I am 100% sure of. It's the how I do that .. that's the confusing part. I know the surgery will change my life and maybe that's what I am afraid of too. I am also afraid of feeling different because I cant each much food. I dont want to binge or gorge anymore or have huge portions. I just want to feel normal. Do people feel normal? Everyone I have spoken to has no regrets apart from not doing it earlier. I know it's not easy. Its just such a big decision and I dont know why i am questioning myself on something that will improve my life. Do other people go through this same phase?? All the doubt and questions??

After my post on here I really lost it. Cried for hours. Confusion and indecisiveness cause me alot of upset. Maybe day 1 of shakes sent me crazy. But how do you know that you can't do it on your own? At what point do you say Ok - i really have tried and my quality of life is poor and i need this to improve. How do you know?? I was in a really bad relationship for 9 years and then was diagnosed with depression and since i started the meds i gained and gained and gained - to where i am now. I stopped taking my meds a few months ago and since this time i havent put on any weight - after consistently gaining for 2.5 years. I wonder if i need to give myself the chance to do this on my own now that i am off the meds? Whats so wrong with another 6 months? What if i do great... but what if i dont? I wish i could get out of my own head because i am sick to death of it. And the surgery was something i was going to look at considering one day until a close friend talked to a woman who had the sleeve and told me i should get it too. Thats what started all of this. When people stop believing you can change - it makes you feel pretty crappy.